AIBU to find one-issue personalities rather tedious to be around?

I was on a bus last academic year and two male undergraduates got on who knew the two female undergraduates sitting in front of me by sight. One of the boys in particular was incredibly good-looking, and there was a bit of flirtation. After an exchange of names, one of the girls said, flirtatiously, to the good-looking guy ‘So, are you, like ADHD? I’m getting a bit of a vibe’, and the guy, also in full-on flirtation mode, said ‘Yeah, I get that a lot. Not diagnosed, though’, and the girl, clearly delighted, was all ‘Yeah, me too!’

Wow did you hurt yourself with that reach? 🙄

I know exactly the type of people the OP is talking about and yes they are dull and tedious.

I know someone who constantly talks about anti vaxx... all vaxxes are wrong, everyone gets sick because of vaxxes (not just covid) and "it's the thin edge of the wedge".... anti government "you will own nothing and be happy"..brigade. Gosh it's difficult as almost all convos get redirected back to these topics. Exhausting.

All the vegans I know don't conform to your stetotypical view of them. They are well rounded people who don't talk about their dietary preferences.

Some horsey people bore me to tears. Horse riding is a hobby as far as I'm concerned, but I know some horsey people who talk about nothing else.

It's tricky if it's something a person can't help. You can try to be kind but it's still impossible not to get annoyed at the behaviour and prefer people who don't do it.

This.

Though my father, in his 80s now and almost certainly autistic, though undiagnosed, is capable of delivering lengthy monologues on pet topics. I once literally had to drag him out of a car park after a good fifteen minutes explaining his recent dental work to two total strangers he had somehow discovered he shared a dentist with.

I certainly don’t know anyone else who does it.

I find it worse in late-diagnosed adults. The ones who are normally in established relationships, have kids, have a job and are superficially at least functioning in life. They shoehorn anything to do with ADHD into conversation, constantly talking about overwhelm, being dysregulated, RSD and worst of all inserting ‘dopamine’ into every other sentence. In a way they never used to.

I’m dying laughing at this thread! I know the type - cycling (men), menopause (women), HYROX/CrossFit (either).

Dp has a mate (lovely chap) who's whole personality is fish

No matter the topic,he will turn it back to fish/fishing/wild camping fishing/fishing rods/fishing kit/last fish caught/the biggest fish he's ever caught

I've told his long suffering partner that I have a patio (she laughed) but i seriously don't know how she puts up with it

He once came round while I was home alone and was put out when he started banging on and I said I knew fuck all about fish

Heis face lit up and he offered to teach me

I fell into that one...

I know someone with ADHD who makes everything about his ADHD and turns the most unrelated conversation topic into something to do with it. Very tedious.
I have ADHD myself but rarely talk about it.

My friend's husband has A Hobby. He is very boring. It's not so much that he always talks about The Hobby, it's that he can't talk about anything else. It's either The Hobby or silence.

23-year old colleague. Gym. With a very loud high pitched voice. Try talk about anything else and you get a blank stare. Then back to gym talk. Avoiding going on breaks now.

I got told off by DH because my current theme is “whats wrong with men generally”.

I’ve switched to whats wrong with the UK just to give him a break.

It’s probably peri-menopause

I work with an academic who is an expert on canals and somehow manages to make every single conversation about canals. I saw her at a conference and told another academic about it, I said she’s going to come speak to us and I guarantee it will take her less than 5 mins to mention canals. I think it took her 2. I find it kind of funny and also impressive.

My DD started University (not UK) this week and her class have been meeting up to get to know each other. She said one girl was introducing herself as Hi I'm Alice I have ADHD. In their first class, she did the same thing and the Lecturer said 'No, don't lead with that, don't make it your personality'. Apparently she left the class crying.

Yes adults who drone on about the thing and make it their entire personality and yeah they will say it no less than five times when meeting someone. I think since I'm so old I've heard it change up over the decades depending on what was trending

Let's see, fixations I've heard lately

Witchy things
Bisexual
Neurospicey( I am and and can't stand that twee term)
An ally for anything
Politics
Going nc with people
Influencer

Past fixations I've heard
Race
Gender
Country
Self harm
OCD
Depression
Anxiety
Digitalnomad
Being homeless
Gifted and talented both themselves and or children

I don't think we're talking about children here
Nobody minds if children are doing it that much

Are you anywhere near London by any chance as you could take him to the Science Museum. They have a whole gaming floor with consoles to play dating back to the 70s / 80s. The full range of Nintendo’s will be there. It’s a great afternoon out.

Genuine lol .. Steve Irwin! Such a tenuous way for that man (employed foetus? 😅) to shoehorn his Extreme Youth into the conversation. My eyes would have rolled right to Australia 😅

Perimenopause is the new hormone variation, 'i am acting totally unreasonable but I will blame hormones and see if I can get away with it'

Anyone male or female going on about the same thing gets tiring but I find women try and justify it more

Glad you had fun. But my idea of hell.

For me it's the women in perimenopause who have suddenly got a whole personality based on being in perimenopause.

"I'm perimenopausal and I need a new outfit." "My husband is an annoying lazy twat, must be my perimenopause." "Oh I'm just a sweaty angry perimenopausal mess, hahaha."

Just about any popular post about anything on social media these days will have a woman announcing that she's in perimenopause even if it's not remotely relevant.

Is this who you met?

This is a ridiculous statement.