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Receptionist attitude should I complain

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DestituteDesperate · 04/09/2026 20:08

Feel utterly ashamed of myself, today I watched a doctors receptionist speak so appallingly to two patients and, instead of challenging her, or mentioning it to another staff member, like a coward I froze in fear.

long story short, long queue at surgery for the last appointments of the day and one late 20s girl and another maybe 50s, asked something rather innocuous, as I heard blood test and referral. Each time the receptionist was talking to them both like they committed a crime.

The younger girl took her bollocking and said she would call back on Monday after 2pm. The woman though, fair play, tried to give it back but the receptionist used her leverage as staff to make the woman back down.

maybe both patients had done something so terrible to illicit such a response but the receptionist appeared that she quite enjoyed belittling them, loudly and publicly. The thing is, most of what I heard in the queue was from her tone not theirs.

Most of us were shocked and we did the rather British thing of tut and shake our heads.

However, I am ashamed because I would have desperately wanted someone to stand up for me if I were being baited and humiliated it public and instead I froze (I’ve had an incident where I was reduced to tears so I know how demoralising it can be) instead of being a good human being and standing up for them.

Being so cowardly in that moment, is really affecting me to such an extent on a Friday I’m on MN writing this thread.

should I report what I saw? I know I couldn’t help in the moment but would it be reasonable to report it via an online reporting form or a call on Monday?

or should I let it go and hope she doesn’t humiliate any other patients.

OP posts:
C8H10N4O2 · 09/09/2026 10:57

EvieBB · 08/09/2026 23:09

I agree - what a vile person, with a superiority complex.
The job is way harder than she realises.
I'm also a graduate and (part time) GCSE Maths teacher and that job is easier than the reception role!!

I’m not surprised teaching is easier if your practice is using you as unqualified triage (which is a practice choice, not “the rules” - not all practices use receptionists at unqualified triage).

Some practices are well run, some are poor - I find it striking how many of the poor experiences described here and IRL correlate with poor attitudes from the partners owning the business and their use of cheap labour to triage patients.

EvieBB · 10/09/2026 10:37

C8H10N4O2 · 09/09/2026 10:57

I’m not surprised teaching is easier if your practice is using you as unqualified triage (which is a practice choice, not “the rules” - not all practices use receptionists at unqualified triage).

Some practices are well run, some are poor - I find it striking how many of the poor experiences described here and IRL correlate with poor attitudes from the partners owning the business and their use of cheap labour to triage patients.

Yes they do treat us poorly and I myself was (initially) shocked at what we were asked to do and the level of responsibility placed on our shoulders given we are not medically trained. The level of knowledge we need is insane given we are essentially paid minimum wage. Much of the triaging process however is common sense and we do have guidelines to follow so that we can ask the correct/probing questions to ensure that patients are signposted correctly....but I agree there are times when I am concerned....

EvieBB · 10/09/2026 10:44

EvieBB · 10/09/2026 10:37

Yes they do treat us poorly and I myself was (initially) shocked at what we were asked to do and the level of responsibility placed on our shoulders given we are not medically trained. The level of knowledge we need is insane given we are essentially paid minimum wage. Much of the triaging process however is common sense and we do have guidelines to follow so that we can ask the correct/probing questions to ensure that patients are signposted correctly....but I agree there are times when I am concerned....

....and because of this it's v stressful.
You're trying to please everyone and also make sure you're not missing something that could be life threatening. It's too much responsibility....
At the same time you're expected to be bloody wonder woman....and there is little praise. I've never worked anywhere where I've felt so devalued and overworked at the same time 😞😕
Funnily enough it's the patients that give me the most praise and thanks and job satisfaction...if not the critical, unreasonable management.
It's probably time for me to leave and join a well run practice, but home life is stressful at the moment, for various reasons, so don't want to add more stress to the mix by changing jobs

C8H10N4O2 · 10/09/2026 11:05

EvieBB · 10/09/2026 10:44

....and because of this it's v stressful.
You're trying to please everyone and also make sure you're not missing something that could be life threatening. It's too much responsibility....
At the same time you're expected to be bloody wonder woman....and there is little praise. I've never worked anywhere where I've felt so devalued and overworked at the same time 😞😕
Funnily enough it's the patients that give me the most praise and thanks and job satisfaction...if not the critical, unreasonable management.
It's probably time for me to leave and join a well run practice, but home life is stressful at the moment, for various reasons, so don't want to add more stress to the mix by changing jobs

Honestly you might find a better run practice transformative. The problem with telling untrained staff it is “common sense” is that you have not had the years of training and experience to spot when common sense doesn’t apply or when common sense is unconscious assumptions. They are unreasonable to demand this and its exploitative.

I sit within the “catchment” of three practices, all serving the same demographic. I think mine is easily the best of the three, I wouldn’t send a dog to the poorest. My practice uses a doctor or very occasionally a practice nurse to do triage. I have known my GP since before my first DC, I have seen various changes over the years as old hands retired and new young guns came in. Both new and old partners agreed that using a doctor on triage saves them significant time and work over the longer term. I happen to know their practice manager from school gates dates (she started as a receptionist) - she says the same, it makes no business sense to use reception staff in this way.

Both the other practices use receptionists as triage, both complain bitterly to my practice’s manager that their patients “abuse" the triage system by calling 111 to try and force appointments. The local A&E department complains about their patients costing time and money in A&E for GP issues. Any local A&E can tell you which GP practices are well run and which are not. All the practices get the same pay rates - I think that is wrong.

Nettie1964 · 12/09/2026 03:20

Don't fret to much. She's probably really cross because shes being replaced by an AI receptionist. My Doctor has one already, it can be rude in 53 languages. I bypassed it recently but joked to the rude human receptionist that she must be scared of being replaced. There was an icy silence, and no I didn't an appointment.

EvieBB · 12/09/2026 07:27

Nettie1964 · 12/09/2026 03:20

Don't fret to much. She's probably really cross because shes being replaced by an AI receptionist. My Doctor has one already, it can be rude in 53 languages. I bypassed it recently but joked to the rude human receptionist that she must be scared of being replaced. There was an icy silence, and no I didn't an appointment.

The AI won't have empathy or have a chat with the patients or make eye contact or smile or comfort a patient who's having a really bad day or spend time listening to a lonely elderly patient who won't have spoken to anyone else that day but you. AI cannot replace human warmth which is what I hope I can offer.
Funnily enough I've been reading that AI will be replacing the GPs eventually!

EvieBB · 12/09/2026 07:28

C8H10N4O2 · 10/09/2026 11:05

Honestly you might find a better run practice transformative. The problem with telling untrained staff it is “common sense” is that you have not had the years of training and experience to spot when common sense doesn’t apply or when common sense is unconscious assumptions. They are unreasonable to demand this and its exploitative.

I sit within the “catchment” of three practices, all serving the same demographic. I think mine is easily the best of the three, I wouldn’t send a dog to the poorest. My practice uses a doctor or very occasionally a practice nurse to do triage. I have known my GP since before my first DC, I have seen various changes over the years as old hands retired and new young guns came in. Both new and old partners agreed that using a doctor on triage saves them significant time and work over the longer term. I happen to know their practice manager from school gates dates (she started as a receptionist) - she says the same, it makes no business sense to use reception staff in this way.

Both the other practices use receptionists as triage, both complain bitterly to my practice’s manager that their patients “abuse" the triage system by calling 111 to try and force appointments. The local A&E department complains about their patients costing time and money in A&E for GP issues. Any local A&E can tell you which GP practices are well run and which are not. All the practices get the same pay rates - I think that is wrong.

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I don't disagree. It's probably time for me to move to a far better managed practice 👍🏼

TheSmellOfSea · 12/09/2026 10:38

@DestituteDesperate did you get a reply?

Badbadbunny · 12/09/2026 12:31

EvieBB · 12/09/2026 07:27

The AI won't have empathy or have a chat with the patients or make eye contact or smile or comfort a patient who's having a really bad day or spend time listening to a lonely elderly patient who won't have spoken to anyone else that day but you. AI cannot replace human warmth which is what I hope I can offer.
Funnily enough I've been reading that AI will be replacing the GPs eventually!

Funny how very few "human" receptionists can do any of that either!!

DestituteDesperate · 12/09/2026 13:20

TheSmellOfSea · 12/09/2026 10:38

@DestituteDesperate did you get a reply?

Yes, I had acknowledged of the complaint on Thursday and was told they’re conducting an internal review and will revert within 14 days.

Will share their response. I sounds like they’re taking this seriously as obviously I flagged how it was two patients treated this way so shows a pattern rather than a one off.

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C8H10N4O2 · 12/09/2026 13:28

EvieBB · 12/09/2026 07:28

I don't disagree. It's probably time for me to move to a far better managed practice 👍🏼

I don’t think its a coincidence that the reception staff at my practice have been there for donkeys years and some have progressed into more medical management type roles with practice support. The turnover at the other practices is notably higher.

Culture comes from the top - life is always less stressful in a well run organisations even if its still demanding.

TheSmellOfSea · 12/09/2026 17:04

DestituteDesperate · 12/09/2026 13:20

Yes, I had acknowledged of the complaint on Thursday and was told they’re conducting an internal review and will revert within 14 days.

Will share their response. I sounds like they’re taking this seriously as obviously I flagged how it was two patients treated this way so shows a pattern rather than a one off.

That's good 👍

HunkMarvin · 12/09/2026 17:22

I would definitely complain, making a point that at the time of the incident I was soo shocked/intimidated myself, despite not being directly involved, that I felt I couldn’t say anything (or something to that affect)

justcallmemarywhitehouse · 13/09/2026 10:53

DestituteDesperate · 12/09/2026 13:20

Yes, I had acknowledged of the complaint on Thursday and was told they’re conducting an internal review and will revert within 14 days.

Will share their response. I sounds like they’re taking this seriously as obviously I flagged how it was two patients treated this way so shows a pattern rather than a one off.

It's a good thing to let your practice know about things that they fall short on . I do and yes they probably say " not her again" but you know what? You get good attention.

EvieBB · 13/09/2026 20:14

Badbadbunny · 12/09/2026 12:31

Funny how very few "human" receptionists can do any of that either!!

Lol....well I can only speak for myself :) :)

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