Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

AIBU to consider moving to Scotland because I cannot cope with heat?

332 replies

bobdylanlover · 26/08/2026 19:32

I can't stand the heat. I holiday pretty much only in snowy places, some of which get dark very early. I have not coped well this summer. I also have a heart problem that isn't helped by hot weather. It's making me seriously consider moving to Scotland. My mum and dad, in their 70s, are somewhat open to also making the move with us - we are close emotionally and geographically and they wouldn't want to be away from my daughter.

The problem is this. I have lived within the same 10 miles for the majority of my nearly 40 years of existence (aside from uni, and living in Europe 3 times briefly). We have good friends here, it's a nice area, we have a lovely home. A nice primary school round the corner etc. Good neighbours. Parents round the corner. We both are happy in our work and can work remotely. Nothing is technically 'wrong' aside from how hot the summers are becoming. For example, there were loads of local things I didn't go to/do this summer because it was too hot.

I feel sick at the thought of leaving everything and jumping into the unknown. But part of me doesn't want to live and die within the same 10 miles anyway. I feel like I've exhausted almost everything here. I can't think of anywhere new to go any more and I find that utterly depressing.

My partner and I have always loved Scotland. Always. The nature and the space, the friendly people. So it's not an idea plucked out of thin air. It's been something that I've wondered about on/off for years.

Is it normal to feel so sick at the prospect of making such a big move? If I stay here will I regret not having tried it? Do you think the weather (and writing off 3 months each summer) is reason enough to do this? I can't settle on one idea. Sometimes I just think it's easier to do nothing but everything suggests that hot summers are going to be our new 'normal'.

OP posts:
EveryoneUsingOutro · 27/08/2026 00:11

blythet · 26/08/2026 19:40

As long as you’re prepared for long miserable, wet winters too

The east coast is much drier than the west coast. It’s not all the same.

EveryoneUsingOutro · 27/08/2026 00:13

sunseasand25 · 26/08/2026 19:55

And have a look at how much more income tax you’ll need to pay as well!

Didn’t take long did it.

Delphiniumandlupins · 27/08/2026 00:33

Youhadrambledonfor18pages · 26/08/2026 23:35

What you mean the extra £29 per month for someone on £45k? I’m sure the free prescriptions, university education etc makes up for it.

Edited

And free bus travel, over the whole country, for everyone under 22 or over 60.

PissTakePeg · 27/08/2026 00:37

scotlandundersiege · 26/08/2026 19:44

Go for it. Move to the borders/lothian. Closer to civilisation and trips back home than moving to the highlands.

We are quite civilised ourselves, thank you! If you do come, OP, do it because you want to embrace ALL that Scotland is, not just to address one dissatisfaction with England. Remember we are not the same country and don't have the same mindsets, so please come prepared to be a Scot, and to work for the betterment of Scotland.

CoffeeMakesTheWorldBetter · 27/08/2026 00:38

I wouldn’t live anywhere else. But just bear in mind it’s incredibly humid in Scotland, even though we don’t have as high temperatures. Even in winter we have really high humidity.

Avocadotoasted · 27/08/2026 00:42

NE Scotland. We've had a decent summer - couple of days nearer 30, but mostly middling between 18-25. We do seem to have our own special brand of 'muggy' days though that give me a headache. This winter past, we had (officially recorded) no sunlight for over 21 days...might be perfect for you 😂

Avocadotoasted · 27/08/2026 00:43

CoffeeMakesTheWorldBetter · 27/08/2026 00:38

I wouldn’t live anywhere else. But just bear in mind it’s incredibly humid in Scotland, even though we don’t have as high temperatures. Even in winter we have really high humidity.

Was literally just saying this....i was chatting to a South African gent recently and he said the heat here is worse than there due to the humidity

CoffeeMakesTheWorldBetter · 27/08/2026 00:57

Avocadotoasted · 27/08/2026 00:43

Was literally just saying this....i was chatting to a South African gent recently and he said the heat here is worse than there due to the humidity

Yeah a few friends from hot countries have said that. I have brittle asthma and I’m currently awake trying to breathe in 86% humidity at 1am! 😩 But I Love it here, I’ve lived on the west coast for almost 20 years now, almost as long as I lived in England and I wouldn’t want to live anywhere else.

middleagedandinarage · 27/08/2026 06:58

Aussiesgettingsmashed · 26/08/2026 22:32

One that hates the English.

Really? Is that not a bit of an old fashioned stereotype these days?

Freysimo · 27/08/2026 07:13

liveforsummer · 26/08/2026 22:18

Yes 2024 basically rained from January. Dc ride and events were cancelled all spring and early summer due to water logged ground. There was a small reprieve in early June then the day schools broke up for the holidays the rain came back on and that was that. Some days hot rain, some days cold, but rain all the same. It was depressing. We’ve had 2 ok summers so probably due another of those soon. We’re definitely due a bad winter or 2 after the last couple being reasonable.

Edited

Last winter wasn't reasonable in S Wales. It rained practically non stop from November to April.

Rudicoolcat · 27/08/2026 07:13

Moved to the Highlands of Scotland 10 years ago, from SE England and haven't regretted it for a second 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿 I'd say have a winter experience up here first before you put the house on the market just to be sure it's going to be for you. I know a few couples who only stayed for 5 or 6 years as they struggled with the longer darker days in winter. Good luck 🤞🏼

FiveTwoFaster · 27/08/2026 07:24

I am like you - I can’t stand hot weather but I had AC fitted and it made all the difference. I used to live in Scotland up by Fochabers and while I don’t like the heat and I don’t mind the rain and didn’t think I had a probably with the Scottish weather at all )dress for it), one of the biggest surprises to me was how much dry weather puts you in a better mood.

This summer the AC has meant a good night’s sleep whatever happens, somewhere to retreat to if necessary, but also I’ve been happier to sit outside to have breakfast or eat in the evenings in the garden as those are the coolest bits of the day. I won’t deny I did look at Peak District houses on the day it was 37C. But Scotland is too much the other way. And wow the SNP have fucked it.

Get AC so you have a retreat. Cheaper than stamp duty!

HairyToity · 27/08/2026 07:31

I've thought about moving, never done it. My children are settled and happy where we live. My idea is to move when they've left home and my parents have died, if I ever did so.

WecanbeheroeslikeBowie · 27/08/2026 07:44

I bet the Scots love the idea of being invaded by potentially tens of 1000's more English over the next few years due the threat of heat.😆

Sartre · 27/08/2026 07:49

Sounds like an extreme overreaction to me. The heat was difficult this summer but it’s likely over now for another 10 months minimum. We only get a few weeks of insufferable heat in England then it dies down. You’re moving for the sake of a few weeks of suffering a year basically and it sounds like your life is pretty happy and settled otherwise. I’ve heard bad things about Scotland’s schools.

suggestionsplease1 · 27/08/2026 07:52

Depending on where you live any equity you have built up in England is likely to take you quite far in Scotland in terms of housing. Not a hard and fast rule, but eg South East house prices are very different from majority of Scotland , aside from Edinburgh perhaps, and even then.

There is an income tax difference but it's unlikely to make the sort of impact that this issue has, and also lower mortgages.

I decided to move to Scotland from South East after university (but went to St Andrews and had friends and relatives in Scotland already) and never looked back. Money went so much further housing wise and I can't imagine I would have anywhere near the disposable income going back to the South East. I guess this depends on jobs and I'm certain that there won't be the same number of very high salary positions that you'd find in London. But plenty positions are fairly comparable income-wise and certainly when you consider reduced housing costs. Potential to WFH is likely to be a factor too.

I'm now Glasgow way and the weather isn't amazing, I'd rather more bright sunny days, but visiting my family in the South East over the summer was tortuous and my poor dog was trapped inside a lot of the time. So if it's going to be like that for the foreseeable I wouldn't be surprised if more people considered a move.

Uprooting from friends and family is a big one, but most people are very friendly and talk to you spontaneously when you're out and about, in shops, just in general - it was very different from the SE I recall growing up in where people mostly kept themselves to themselves if they didn't already know you. There's not much serious anti -English sentiment that I'm aware of (although in sport 'anyone but England' seems to be a longstanding approach ) I only had the odd Billy Connolly jokes in taxis some twenty years ago!

IsawwhatIsaw · 27/08/2026 07:57

I wondered about renting somewhere in a cooler area for a few months next summer. Issue is rents tend to. E 6 months.
im the same can’t cope with this heat.

DeedlessIndeed · 27/08/2026 08:09

Second home will be pricey in council tax.

And "even a 2 bed flat in a city" is a needed home.

IMO better to either properly move up, or visit for long summer holidays.

Ratherhaveacupofteaandabiscuit · 27/08/2026 08:14

My advice would be to try it but rent up there for a year and rent out your house down here.
All much easier then if you find you don’t like it and want to return.

Sereine · 27/08/2026 08:32

bobdylanlover · 26/08/2026 19:47

And stay inside for the entire summer?

Realistically that wouldn't normally be necessary, would it?

And bear in mind that you can't necessarily sit outside in Scotland either due to the midges.

Dancingsquirrels · 27/08/2026 08:39

middleagedandinarage · 26/08/2026 22:06

Interested to know what you mean? What sort of mindset do they have?

I think generally Scotland is more left wing / community, possibly due to strong trade unions in the past, shipbuilding, mining etc

I live in Scotland. Can honestly say I have never heard any of my friends complain about paying higher taxes here. They're content to pay higher taxes to fund university tuition, prescriptions, personal care etc

Savvysix1984 · 27/08/2026 08:46

I love the heat and it’s the one thing I missed when I left SE England to move north. My in laws are still there and have told us how much they’ve struggled this year in particular and it’s wiped any energy my FIL had. We keep asking them to move near us but they’ve been resistant (for lots of good reasons), but starting to consider it now.

mixandmatch · 27/08/2026 08:54

I think it would be a mistake to leave friends and kid’s school (assuming you are both happy and your daughter is) and everything you know, assuming you’re happy with all other aspects of your life except for the summer heat.

People and emotional happiness are much more important to me than weather. I am the opposite of you, I like the heat and hate the cold, but I would 100% rather live in my current location turned snowy with all my friends and job etc and roots, than uproot myself for the sake of a couple of months a year of weather I hate.

I think you need to seriously contemplate whether you’d be happier in the weather you like, but lonely and in a random place you don’t know. What if your parents and daughter are unhappy and resent having moved for your weather preference?

personally I’d get air con and accept that my outings might be a bit curtailed in July and August. Plus it may not be every year. So you’re very much thinking worst case scenario on the weather front.

moderate · 27/08/2026 09:14

reptilemad1985 · 26/08/2026 23:03

am Scottish born and bred similar age and its been a nightmare here heat wise plus all the midges and am in Edinburgh

Not sure which part of Edinburgh you live in, but I’ve not seen a midge within a mile of my flat and the recorded temperature has never exceeded 31 since records began.

No, OP you’re not being unreasonable to consider moving to Scotland. Most of us lived here way before the temperatures started to rise!

Willope · 27/08/2026 09:23

Youhadrambledonfor18pages · 26/08/2026 23:35

What you mean the extra £29 per month for someone on £45k? I’m sure the free prescriptions, university education etc makes up for it.

Edited

We pay £680 a month more in income tax here. We paid stamp duty of £62k. In England it would have been £32k. And for what? The SNP are absolutely sure. Health, Eduvation, Transport. All totally and utterly run into the ground.

Swipe left for the next trending thread