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AIBU to consider moving to Scotland because I cannot cope with heat?

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bobdylanlover · 26/08/2026 19:32

I can't stand the heat. I holiday pretty much only in snowy places, some of which get dark very early. I have not coped well this summer. I also have a heart problem that isn't helped by hot weather. It's making me seriously consider moving to Scotland. My mum and dad, in their 70s, are somewhat open to also making the move with us - we are close emotionally and geographically and they wouldn't want to be away from my daughter.

The problem is this. I have lived within the same 10 miles for the majority of my nearly 40 years of existence (aside from uni, and living in Europe 3 times briefly). We have good friends here, it's a nice area, we have a lovely home. A nice primary school round the corner etc. Good neighbours. Parents round the corner. We both are happy in our work and can work remotely. Nothing is technically 'wrong' aside from how hot the summers are becoming. For example, there were loads of local things I didn't go to/do this summer because it was too hot.

I feel sick at the thought of leaving everything and jumping into the unknown. But part of me doesn't want to live and die within the same 10 miles anyway. I feel like I've exhausted almost everything here. I can't think of anywhere new to go any more and I find that utterly depressing.

My partner and I have always loved Scotland. Always. The nature and the space, the friendly people. So it's not an idea plucked out of thin air. It's been something that I've wondered about on/off for years.

Is it normal to feel so sick at the prospect of making such a big move? If I stay here will I regret not having tried it? Do you think the weather (and writing off 3 months each summer) is reason enough to do this? I can't settle on one idea. Sometimes I just think it's easier to do nothing but everything suggests that hot summers are going to be our new 'normal'.

OP posts:
MuffinCHeeler · 27/08/2026 12:51

Winters are lonnnnnnnng. It does feel a bit like an endurance test.

Sahara123 · 27/08/2026 13:02

Dollymylove · 26/08/2026 23:04

Dont bother. The weather is back to normal now. Grey and depressing.

Just like Scotland is for most of the year 🤣🤣

It’s gorgeous here today ! I’m rural, north of Glasgow. 21 degrees, light breeze, I’m having lunch in the garden. It’s been a lovely summer for me, upper 20’s at the most. Barely a midge to be seen , unless you visit boggy peaty areas. I notice the evenings getting a bit darker now, autumn to look forward to. My only complaint is that there’s not enough cold frosty days, or snow 🤣 we only had one day of skimpy snow last winter !
All the preconceived ideas of Scotland being in the dark 6 months of the year and knee deep in midges the rest are quite funny.

Sahara123 · 27/08/2026 13:09

TaraRhu · 27/08/2026 12:41

Trust me , it will be less appealing when you realise you haven't seen a clear sky of temperature above 16 degrees for years on end. You'll envy seeing the news and actual summers and not having the heating on year round. Plus they skin you for income tax and stamp duty.

This is absolute nonsense, do you actually live here ?! I’m sitting out in 21 degrees right now, it’s lovely!

MuffinCHeeler · 27/08/2026 13:11

Sahara123 · 27/08/2026 13:02

It’s gorgeous here today ! I’m rural, north of Glasgow. 21 degrees, light breeze, I’m having lunch in the garden. It’s been a lovely summer for me, upper 20’s at the most. Barely a midge to be seen , unless you visit boggy peaty areas. I notice the evenings getting a bit darker now, autumn to look forward to. My only complaint is that there’s not enough cold frosty days, or snow 🤣 we only had one day of skimpy snow last winter !
All the preconceived ideas of Scotland being in the dark 6 months of the year and knee deep in midges the rest are quite funny.

We're free from midges here in Edinburgh. Never seen one!

It's 21 here but cloudy. I love it, I can go for walks comfortably without getting too hot.

Madamefroufrou · 27/08/2026 13:12

OPP, realistically, wherever you moved away to, you are not going to know
until you are there whether you can or will settle, or if you have made a terrible
mistake
homesickness is real
as is the possibility this was an exceptional unusually heated summer

Youhadrambledonfor18pages · 27/08/2026 13:21

user1476613140 · 27/08/2026 12:32

Well, move out of Scotland if you don't like paying high taxes. No one is forcing a gun to your head to stay.

As a household with an income of multiple hundreds of thousands, I reckon they can afford the extra few grand in tax.

Sahara123 · 27/08/2026 13:22

MuffinCHeeler · 27/08/2026 13:11

We're free from midges here in Edinburgh. Never seen one!

It's 21 here but cloudy. I love it, I can go for walks comfortably without getting too hot.

It’s lovely isn’t it. I know midge clouds are a thing in boggy peaty areas but they certainly don’t affect my everyday life

FudgeFudy · 27/08/2026 13:26

We'll likely be moving to Scotland - bottom end of the Highlands so Pitlochry or thereabouts - when we jack in work and I can't wait tbh. Though we are in North Yorkshire now so it wouldn't be quite as big a deal as it would be for some. I'm pretty sure I'll prefer winters up there anyway - at least you've got snow on the tops a lot of the time which I love, as opposed to much of England where it's just a bit wet and shite.

Velumental · 27/08/2026 13:26

sunseasand25 · 26/08/2026 19:55

And have a look at how much more income tax you’ll need to pay as well!

But also at how superior our NHS facilities are for it, free prescriptions at point of use, free sight tests, wait times at a and e are nowhere near as bad, ambulances faster response time etc. less of our NHS has been sold off to private companies through he back door too

LibertyLily · 27/08/2026 13:27

Madamefroufrou · 27/08/2026 13:12

OPP, realistically, wherever you moved away to, you are not going to know
until you are there whether you can or will settle, or if you have made a terrible
mistake
homesickness is real
as is the possibility this was an exceptional unusually heated summer

I agree, homesickness is definitely real.

We're originally from the south coast of England but moved away a few years back, moving around the UK renovating houses in Essex, Wiltshire, West Midlands and finally SW Wales. I hadn't really felt homesick till we purchased an old mill in rural Carmarthenshire in 2018 and for me, at least, the weather was a huge part of that. We created a 0.5 acre garden from scratch but it was often too wet/chilly to enjoy it, so stayed indoors feeling miserable instead.

Like a previous poster, I had hardly any summer clothes in Wales as they were worn so rarely it seemed a waste of money.

Now we're back on the south coast (sold in Wales and bought here in Sept 2024), I've had to buy a whole new summer wardrobe. I'm not a fan of excessive heat - but thankfully our cottage is old and stays fairly cool - but imo it beats Welsh summers! It's funny as we actually considered moving to Scotland but ruled it out for being too cold.

Abracadabra12345 · 27/08/2026 13:32

shecanbe · 27/08/2026 11:09

I think there will be a new type of 'climate migration' in the next ten years or so. Not necessarily people moving to Scotland or Scandinavia permanently, but people buying holiday homes in those regions. People from Southern England will stop going to Mediterranean countries in summer - 'for some sun.' What is the point when it's in the 30s here for weeks / months on end? We're in London and I think today is the first morning since about April that the sky looks overcast. It may have even rained a little overnight! The grass is like straw and the parks look like mini deserts.

When I was younger in the 70s, 25 degrees was a hot summer. Now I'd say that is a quite cool summer day when you can actually walk about and breathe. Even 30 degrees feels just about manageable now, but above that and particularly when it hits 38 degrees? You become so unproductive and feel exhausted all the time. People in Southern England are going to have to adapt and get air con. With these summers, I think lots more people will definitely be heading north for holidays rather than south and tourism is going to change a lot. Get ready Inverness, Tromso Oslo and Stockholm!

I’d love to move but my husband wouldn’t and we do have a lot of ties to London, a city we make a lot of use of and which we love. I’m very scared of the future re CC but you can’t drag unwilling people with you and moving is a huge task and decision.

We have been going north for our summer breaks for a long time, mainly because we prefer it there!

Willope · 27/08/2026 13:33

Youhadrambledonfor18pages · 27/08/2026 13:21

As a household with an income of multiple hundreds of thousands, I reckon they can afford the extra few grand in tax.

I wouldn’t have an issue if the SNP put it to good use.

tommyhoundmum · 27/08/2026 13:36

blythet · 26/08/2026 19:40

As long as you’re prepared for long miserable, wet winters too

Dark too. But a beautiful country.

Abracadabra12345 · 27/08/2026 13:38

Sartre · 27/08/2026 07:49

Sounds like an extreme overreaction to me. The heat was difficult this summer but it’s likely over now for another 10 months minimum. We only get a few weeks of insufferable heat in England then it dies down. You’re moving for the sake of a few weeks of suffering a year basically and it sounds like your life is pretty happy and settled otherwise. I’ve heard bad things about Scotland’s schools.

It wasn’t just for a few weeks here in the SE though and it’s going to get worse with longer “summers” which start earlier and warmer, wetter “winters”

Youhadrambledonfor18pages · 27/08/2026 13:41

Willope · 27/08/2026 13:33

I wouldn’t have an issue if the SNP put it to good use.

Are you aware of the public services advantages over England? You get much better value for money.

Littlemissstar90 · 27/08/2026 13:42

Or the north of England perhaps? North Yorkshire, Northumberland, Cumbria, Durham, much cooler than the South and Wales.

reptilemad1985 · 27/08/2026 13:44

moderate · 27/08/2026 09:14

Not sure which part of Edinburgh you live in, but I’ve not seen a midge within a mile of my flat and the recorded temperature has never exceeded 31 since records began.

No, OP you’re not being unreasonable to consider moving to Scotland. Most of us lived here way before the temperatures started to rise!

am near arthers seat so could be the ponds causing midges any temp over 15 % is warm to me lol

Willope · 27/08/2026 13:45

Youhadrambledonfor18pages · 27/08/2026 13:41

Are you aware of the public services advantages over England? You get much better value for money.

No you don’t. Health is widely to acknowledged to cost much more and give a far worse outcome. Educational attainment has failen off a cliff and is getting worse year on year. Google the PISA statistics to see how bad. On top of this violence within schools is soaring due to the Scottish government’s policy of inclusion. But instead of actually admitting and tackling these issues, the SNP have the audacity to deny there’s an issue. And yet they get voted in year after year because the bigots love them.

Utterlybutter · 27/08/2026 13:49

AgnesMcDoo · 26/08/2026 21:58

We really aren’t any different

We are very different. I'm living in SW London but come from north of Scotland. Where I live now is SO unfriendly. I go out walking early most mornings, meet the same people, their faces turned to the pavement. They jump out of their skin when I say "good morning". They don't want to interact. If I'm passing someone working in their garden and speak to them, they're (mostly) not interested. Not interested in communicating at all.

Can you imagine this in Scotland ?

Willope · 27/08/2026 13:53

Utterlybutter · 27/08/2026 13:49

We are very different. I'm living in SW London but come from north of Scotland. Where I live now is SO unfriendly. I go out walking early most mornings, meet the same people, their faces turned to the pavement. They jump out of their skin when I say "good morning". They don't want to interact. If I'm passing someone working in their garden and speak to them, they're (mostly) not interested. Not interested in communicating at all.

Can you imagine this in Scotland ?

That’s a ‘London v anywhere else in the UK’ thing though, not a Scotland v England thing!

Wineandrun · 27/08/2026 13:53

I moved to Scotland 10 years ago (East coast, highlands) and it's the best thing I've ever done. The whole lifestyle is just different. The east coast is fairly dry, it's absolutely beautiful, everyone is just so friendly and it's much cheaper to live. You can buy a beautiful 5 bed house with plenty of land for £400k. My kids surf, hike, mountain bike, kayak, rock climb. It feels very safe too. the only downside is the schools are not great, especially secondary. And there's nowhere to go shopping for nice clothes if you're that way inclined, which I am now.

Plinketyplonks · 27/08/2026 14:02

not everywhere in Scotland has long wet miserable winters! I’m on the east coast and honestly it rains much less than it did when I lived in London (for 20 yrs so plenty of winters there).

Just a thought OP, as you can work anywhere, have you thought about house swapping for the hottest month of the year? I’ve had friends do it (swapped with families in California and Australia but you could of course swap with a family in a colder country)…

SunshineOnARainyLeith · 27/08/2026 14:05

FudgeFudy · 27/08/2026 13:26

We'll likely be moving to Scotland - bottom end of the Highlands so Pitlochry or thereabouts - when we jack in work and I can't wait tbh. Though we are in North Yorkshire now so it wouldn't be quite as big a deal as it would be for some. I'm pretty sure I'll prefer winters up there anyway - at least you've got snow on the tops a lot of the time which I love, as opposed to much of England where it's just a bit wet and shite.

Pitlochry is beautiful! Lucky you! Definitely chilly in winter but stunning scenery and a gorgeous town, and friendly. I make regular trips from Edinburgh to its gem of a theatre - i could rave all day it. And close to Hermitage, Dunkeld and Birnam etc.

AspiringDreadfulMiddleAgedWoman · 27/08/2026 14:12

Utterlybutter · 27/08/2026 13:49

We are very different. I'm living in SW London but come from north of Scotland. Where I live now is SO unfriendly. I go out walking early most mornings, meet the same people, their faces turned to the pavement. They jump out of their skin when I say "good morning". They don't want to interact. If I'm passing someone working in their garden and speak to them, they're (mostly) not interested. Not interested in communicating at all.

Can you imagine this in Scotland ?

That's not a fair comparison. England doesn't = London which is a large capital city with a large transient population. It's not a village or small town which would be a more appropriate comparison, how do you know the people you're seeing in the street/gardens are even English? It's London, so a very high likelihood you are meeting people from all over the globe.

You would get the same problem if you were in Paris, New York or Aberdeen city! In the small town I lived in in England, people would always greet each other and would stop to talk to people. It's a completely different environment being in a small population area versus a highly dense populated area, fewer people and pressures tend to foster easier relations.

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