Overhead neighbours talking about me?

My friend rattles a treat tin. Gosh you should see those cars run!!!!!

Basically you can't choose your neighbours, whether you own or rent.
Just ignore and crack on with your life. They obviously have too much time on their hands and not enough in their own lives so are focusing on you. They are not worth another thought.

Don’t let your cats outside then?

Or if you don’t want to keep them as house cats then just accept that they’ll come and go as they please as cats do.

I think we all talk about other people. Even our children, our husbands and our parents/ siblings. I know it’s wrong but it’s also part of life. If you are good friends I would try not to worry too much about it

I wouldn't be ignoring anyone or sending them to Coventry - too much effort. I'd be thinking "are they just gossiping or do they have a legitimate complaint that I need to hear?" Only you know what the situation is so adjust accordingly, If their complaint is legitimate, learn from it, adjust your late night cat shouting and move on. If it isn't then maybe distance yourself but ignoring people and punishing with withdrawal isn't sensible adult behaviour.

Well at least now you know you're annoying then. Either carry on or do something else less annoying.

get them in earlier in the evening. Its very rude and inconsiderate to be shouting late in the evening waking people up.

Is this a joke? Serious question. If I heard that conversation I would think how annoying I had been and stop calling for the cats. Not that the ladies were being mean.

This.

My neighbour also calls her cat in LOUDLY every bloody night. It's irritating.

Of course she doesn’t like you because you are waking her up shouting in your garden and waking her up. Go and find them much earlier or just leave them out. Cats can be injured in the day it’s not just at night.

How late and how many times

maybe a cat flap is needed

call once if need be

To be fair to her, it sounds more like an awkward response than a massive endorsement of Neighbour 2s grumble.

She wasn't stirring the pot.

If i ever overheard things I'm not meant to, I think what would I do in their shoes. Often its just not wanting to make a big point.

You forgot to mention the age of your cats. If they are young then they can be trained to come to a whistle. Have done it successfully with all mine albeit they were kittens. You suffer from anxiety yet manage to interact enough with your neighbour to do their gardening. That does not make sense. Are you not part of the Whatsapp group. In any case most cats cannot be managed and will come and go as they please so no need to be loud in asking them to come home if it annoys your neighbours. Cats can be trained despite people saying otherwise.

It’s possible to be on a friendly basis with someone and still find their behaviour sometimes irritating, OP. I’m sure it wasn’t nice to hear and I’d probably stew over it a little bit like you have here, but then I’d take the lesson and also learn from it. Clearly me calling the cats in every night is louder than I think and I will try to be more respectful in future, the end.
Does doing someone a favour mean you cannot ever get annoyed by something? Do you never get annoyed by friends? I find it more unusual you haven’t ever spoken about someone’s bad habits. Neighbour 1 was just stating her opinion on something you do that keeps her up at night and neighbour 2 confirmed they can hear it too. So put yourself in their shoes and change that behaviour. If you have an issue with loud music, address it to the person directly rather than say about it here perhaps? Nothing is being resolved at the moment.

but how can you possibly not realise that shouting at night is annoying?

Yes you are being unsociable shouting for 7 cats every night. I’d moan too. They weren’t even saying anything bad your neighbour who is your friend was entertaining the chat. What do you want her to say?

I think if you are calling them in at say 8pm, no problem.
However, based on you actually waking your neighbours I'm assuming you are doing this past 10pm, so yes you sre an absolute bloody nuisance and I'm not surprised your neighbours are pissed off.

It's not that late yet.

BOTH of them said you had woken them up shouting for your cats, so if your neighbour is up and playing music at 9.35pm, how late have you been shouting?

As for saying that you would have stopped if someone told you - most people don't need telling not to shout outside at night because it's antisocial.

Yeah get them a cat flap.

It depends on the time you are calling your cats…. If before 8pm then ok, after that, bloody annoying. Get a cat flap.

Multiple people have suggested installing a cat flap that is the solution not calling your cats every night install the cat flap everybody is happy

Maybe be a bit more considerate of your neighbours when it comes to calling for your “fur babies” 🤢

There are strong crazy cat lady vibes here. It's not normal to shout for your cats every evening if you live close to other people - is there any way you could stop doing this ? Perhaps this is your wake up call.