Avoid In-laws because of jokes about my appearance

You need to tell them very clearly you don’t like it and need them to stop. Have you done that?

It is well past time for you to get in their face. They are bullies and they will not stop until you stop them. You have to be firm. The words are: What makes you think you are entitled to make a comment about my body? I don't like it and I don't want you to do it again. It's not cute and it's not funny. Stop doing it. In fact, if you do it again, you and me, we're going to have a problem. Do you understand? Then shut up and keep staring at them. Do not break the stare no matter who else speaks. If they say anything other than I'm sorry, repeat "Do you understand?" Ignore anyone else speaking until they respond with an apology. It will shut everyone else up.

If they respond with anything other than yes then repeat: Do you understand? I don't like it. Stop doing it.

Op if you are 5ft its undeniably short but it depends on your proportions too. My friend is around 5ft with Kylie Minogue type proportions. Kylie is 5ft with long arms & legs & stunning. I would ignore anyone who is shallow enough to mention actual height when it's about so much more.

'Oh do fuck off Mildred, it wasn't funny the first time and it's still not funny'

Then turn on your heel and flounce away ☺️

Your in laws are cunts 💯

I'm sorry but as a fellow 5 footer, this would boil my piss, especially after you and your husband have said you don't like it. 😠 😡 😤

Now is the time to give a nice warning, and then go full whammy!

If they mention your height, respond with...
"Good things come in small packages... like arsenic"
See if they back down (They won't).

If they persist and take it up a notch, then you say...
'If we're discussing sizes, then I will start discussing how wide everyone is"

If they retort and say its a joke etc
Then you reply "well I'm only joking as well, I thought fat people were supposed to be jolly" 💅

Tell them, "if you lot want to make a joke at my expense, then I will show you ALL my very 'DARK humour'.

If they get defensive again....
then reply but I'M ONLY JOOOOKING, CAN'T YOU GUYS TAKE A JOKE?
IT'S ALL FUN AND GAMES UNTIL SOMEONE MENTIONS THE WEIGHT HEY?

Then walk out the room (mic drop moment) 💥
That should get the message across 😆 🤣 😂

@butterfly245

I wouldn’t resort to any ad-hominem, personal insults, as it’s their level of humour, you are better than that: fat shaming is the pits.
Maybe not react one bit and make it a tumble weed type moment, or ask if they have considered a career in comedy as your sides are splitting from the hilarity of their oh so original ‘joke’ 🙄

Ouch

Or the famous 'you have more chins than a Hong Kong telephone book'

“I’m short and can’t do anything about it. You’re fat - you can. What’s your daily routine to solve your affliction?”

Just kidding - that would go down like a led balloon.

However being clear and blunt is fine. In 5 foot and get it too (not from in-laws) but general people. Colleagues etc. It doesn’t actually bother me though. I tend to make my own jokes about it.

“It has been 10 years. I don’t find these jokes funny. I’ve asked you numerous times to stop. Please stop. They aren’t endearing or cute and I find them quite offensive and borderline bullying with the amount I have to endure.”

I'm short and I had to shut a friend up, I said "Height is not an achievement requiring brain power." She never mentioned it again.

Its not fair if them.

I usually come back with everyone has their own height of perfection some reach it quicker than others.

I dont tend to get many people mention my height im 5ft 1.5 so a little taller than op but I know loads of people who are a good few inches shorter than me. One wears heels and is still just above my shoulder.

They sound really thick. For that reason alone I wouldn’t want to spend any time with them.

I’m just over 5ft 1 with massive boobs! Imagine my pain! 😬😂 People comment on both regularly but not in a nasty way. I’m quite feisty though so they probably know they would get it back. I think as other posters have said, focus on something negative to say about them to see how they like it!

I am just under five foot. My tactic is to repeat whatever comment people make about my height with the equivalent about them

you’re dwarf
you’ve got a big nose - did you know ?

also for men
and you are bald - shame for you but at least toy can get a nice wig

you’re short
yes, well done, I am short. And you are ugly bad luck.

you are quite small
oh really ? Lucky I am cute. Not you like you mate

shorty here….
yeah fuck off cunt face (with. Big smile)

you are well small.
OMG ! I didn’t notice ! Thank you genius

people don’t tend to mention it twice - or they avoid me so I don’t have to see them twice
win win

in your situation after the next ‘short’ comment I would mutter quite loudly ‘fat cunt’ and probably that would be the end of it

but I am a bitch but people don’t fuck with me

I deal with those type of comments by saying - Oh my mother always told me it was rude to make comments about a persons appearance.

I'm tall and have had similar from in laws and new work colleagues. I let it slide the first few times and then say "Well, if we are going to make comments about appearance, none of you will mind if I start listing my observations will you?" and that normally stops people in their tracks.

You or DP tell them you are tired of being butt of their jokes, so you will not attend family reunions.

How tall are they?

But after their responses how do these people react? To they laugh with you or get offended?

I'm just over 5ft and I can't even remember anyone teasing me for it since I left school. It's not that unusual ffs. I do, however, occasionally moan about not being able to reach the top shelf in the supermarkets.

I don't think she cares. Good for her.

Twelve years on, and they are still commenting? Come on, that's extremely boring at best.
You may not mind the comments but OP does. That alone should be enough. It does not make the Lady 'sensitive'.

I’d just write in the family group chat

i know if I say anything about the height jokes, you’ll all get defensive, say they are meant as a joke. I’ve had enough though, I don’t enjoy your jokes. So rather than upset myself I’m going to avoid family gatherings if it happens again. This obviously puts the ball in your court. You’ll probably have an opinion on whether I’m sensitive or it’s correct I should behave like this, that’s your opinion & not mine about the matter.

Your other half should have said that is the reason your not going so it might sink in that it is not okay. Surprised the one that stopped after you said you didn't like it didn't say something to the others even discretely.

When they visit if they say something, just say you not comfortable with the jokes about your height and if they do it again ask them to leave. Your house your rules. Something needs to happen to make them realise it's not okay

I'm intrigued. Are they all giants?

Internationally 5ft really isn't that short!

I say this because my dad's family are all hugely tall, and competitive with it. His parejts were both tall, and I think they all married tall partners except my dad, as my mum is the very ordinary height of 5ft 4. I'm now 5ft3 but my younger cousins were all taller than me and it was a constant source of amusement.

Some families are obsessed with stuff like this. If, like them, its just a source of common ground, then I'd be inclined to suck it up. On the other hand, if it's just you they "banter" with, its bullying. Then they can piss off.

Not a thicker skin…. But a louder mouth. Tell them, in no uncertain terms that you don’t find it funny and they need to stop or you will not feel welcome and will stop seeing any of them. End of

I think your husband telling his sister that ' you don't like height jokes' is a kinda pathetic attempt at standing up for you OP, considering how long it's gone on and how it makes you feel at this point.
It was wishy washy and it puts the focus on you as being something (inevitable) you can't handle.
He needs to tell people that it's rude/boring/offensive/repetitive/bullying/disrespectful
They all actually know that you hate it. They KNOW.
Id tell your husband he needs to make it clearer, and that you have reached your absolute bloody limit now and you have never found it funny and still dont, and that you are voting with your feet because none of his lot seem to get the message