to be annoyed about this situation with neighbour and her dog?

Grief aside, she has to take responsibility for her dog. Text her again that you are going away today. If she doesn’t reply within a certain time limit then text a final time to say you are reporting the dog as abandoned due to no communication. What an awful situation she has put you in. Enjoy your holiday too.

Hard to argue with this

Poor Dog 😢

Because sometimes people say ddog here to mean 'dear dog', similar to dh, dc, etc. So the typo's kind of funny in this context. Like the warden is a secret Mumsnetter.

I’d be leaving a message saying that unless she provides payment details for the kennels (you’re still actually doing her a favour by arranging this for her!) then the RSPCA will be called at noon to take the abandoned dog.

will be looked after.

Put down. Could you live with that?

Can you find a smaall rescue centre/fosterer via fb/next door etc?

I wouldn't be leaving it at a vet. If they indeed agree to take him. He could well end up being PTS. Awful neighbour but i couldn't live with that.

I wouldn't be surprised if she ignores you in the hope that you take her dog with yours!

I don't suppose your parents know anyone who would look after it if it came to that?

I know that's involving a lot of people though.

What happened to kindness??? I don’t know how you have the audacity!

Yes, I could sleep at night.

The neighbour would be told where the dog was, down to her then to stop that happening.

The dog is now abandoned. Despite every effort on your behalf @CantGetBackToSleep to contact the owner. My advice is to contact the dog warden as well as the vets. Have a look on the council website about dog wardens. My council website has very useful information.

Poor dog. Awful.

Your neighbour is being ridiculous. Of course it’s sad about her mum but I’m guessing her mother was pretty elderly - however shocked and bereaved she is, you can’t just abandon all your adult responsibilities in the face of this.

I’d be very annoyed - but if it’s a low maintenance dog, I would be asking your parents to take him for now. The difference between 2 and 3 isn’t massive and I’d rather this than it going to the RSPCA which will be so stressful for it.

This is so out of order of your neighbour. My father died suddenly in an accident, and I didn’t drop my responsibilities.
She’s a piss taker unfortunately
take the dog to a rescue or the vet. I worked for an animal charity before, they will take it

She’s taking the piss. When one of my parents died then l couldn’t / didn’t ignore all of my responsibilities. Life goes on.

Sorry if I’ve missed it, but I assume you’ve tried calling the neighbour’s relative who called you before?

I'm actually wondering (as another poster was) if the neighbour has actually lost her mother, or if she's on some hen do overseas or something?

But then I'm a cynical old bat. 😎

The RSPCA will kill the dog.
Surely, 3 dogs is no worse than 2 dogs?

This is a poor show on the part of your neighbour. If she is too upset to speak then she should have got one of her relatives to sort it out. I think kennels is the best option. If you don't want to pay for kennels I think it's worth contacting her vet for advice. So irresponsible and selfish of her.

Are there no other neighbours in the street that might be able to help temporarily?

It sounds like OP has asked her parents and they have said no. It wouldn’t be right to keep asking them.

I think the vets is the best thing OP. Have a great holiday.

Geeze what’s happened to being a responsible dog owner and not taking the absolute piss out of your neighbours?

All of this.

The neighbour simply cannot abdicate responsibility like this.

I've been through the death of each of my parents and my husband. I can assure you that i was completely in pieces when I dealt with my husband's death - I was on my own. (When my parents died, I at least had my husband's moral support.)

Nevertheless, you do what you have to do when you have no option. The neighbour is using the OP as a convenience and has no care or respect for her.

This is borne out by the text that's come from the relative.

Ring her whats the point in texting
If she wont answer drop the dog to a kennel...
Damn crazy.

Honestly just dump the dog wherever you can (dogs trust, vets, rspca, rescue), text her and move on with your life.

It isn’t your problem and you shouldn’t have said yes in the first place.

No, Op, trust me I've had a terrible tragedy in my life over a course of a week and the first thing DH did when we were in the hospital for a week was ask a relative to check our two dogs into the dog daycare business near us. Trust me I didn't take advantage of anyone especially after such kindness shown by you. This isn't on you. Grieving or not. You manage your responsibilities and in my case my twin babies had died in the NICU. I never behaved like this

Yeah, odd that she wasn’t too upset to explain the whole situation to her family member in obviously quite detailed terms and then ask them to text her neighbour for her.

Her situation is awful, and I can see why she might feel unable to cope with other things. However, most of us have experience of grief, even sudden & unexpected death and you do unfortunately still need to ensure your responsibilities are taken care of.

Most people see their pets as additional family members and the thought of just leaving that animal with someone and not even acknowledging that other arrangements need to be made is absolutely awful.

I don't know what the best suggestion is OP, but please don't feel guilty about it. As long as you make a choice that is safe for the dog, it really is down to the neighbour that ends up where it is.