to be annoyed about this situation with neighbour and her dog?

You CANNOT just drop a random dog at kennels without vaccination certificates or booking them in advance, how many times do people have to tell you this? you are talking absolute shite.

Secondly, the OP said the vet knows who the dog belongs to.

Why are you just making stuff up now?

Her friend is very cheeky, because if she’s got the wherewithal to talk to you then they can take over sorting the dog. Absolutely out of order from both of them.

happy you got it sorted and good for blocking her.

If the neighbour is able to arrange a funeral then she's capable of making a call about her dog.

The neighbour has known since last Sunday that the Op's house would be empty from Friday onwards because the Op was going on holiday. The Op reminded her of this on Wednesday morning. The neighbour ignored this information. This is not the behaviour of a caring, responsible owner.

Even in distressing situations responsible owners just don't forget about the wellbeing of their pets.

The only person coming across as uncaring in this scenario is the dog's owner.

It's shocking to those of us who love our dogs that someone could show such little concern for their pet. I was in hospital recently and despite the concern about my health, I was worried about my dog and ensuring she was looked after. Posters here have already described terrible tragedies in their families but they made sure their pets were looked after, despite their anguish. Grief and worry doesn't cancel out the love you have for pets or absolve you of your responsibility towards them.

The Op helped her neighbour when she was able to do so, but it's the neighbour who is at fault here by not arranging alternative care when she knew very well that the Op wouldn't be around after Friday. The neighbour knows that her dog has been left with his regular vet so she'll call the vets if she truly cares about her dog - I wonder if she will.

No-one will be putting the dog down in a week, that's fantasy.

If any of this happens the only person to blame is the owner who hasn’t bothered to make adequate provisions for their dog. They have ignored it and made it the ops problem when they barely even have a relationship with her. Direct your guilt tripping at the owner not the op.

Of course maxslice wouldn't cancel her holiday, maxslice is the neighbour.

I used to be a people pleaser and doormat too and it's insane how much I got taken advantage of, and even more insane how much anger and pushback I got after I grew a spine. From people much like maxslice.

Why should they? I wouldn’t have some random dog I’ve never met come to stay in my home!

I wouldn't take a random CF strangers dog in. Especially not when I was already dog sitting 2 other dogs. Completely out of the question.

i am surprised the op's parents didnt take the dog.
seems a far fetched story even without that detail

All of this.

You don't do it because you're superwoman - you do it because you bloody have to.

LOL

The one I’ve got is perfectly fine, thanks. My empathy is for the OP who was very kind in an emergency and had that repaid by having the piss taken out of her. People on MN are always very generous with other people’s time and money. Having boundaries and not wanting to be walked over does not make someone heartless, no matter how much you might try and pretend you are a better person. That you needs to resort to insults says a lot about you.

I’ve known people with young kids and pets widowed in horrible circumstances who’ve had to still crack on with their lives. OP’s neighbour needs to do the same or face the consequences.

The OP helped for as long as she could and then did the right thing - she put the matter in the hands of the authorities.

So if you were in the OP'S shoes you'd cancel your holiday maxslice???

Still waiting on that heart transplant, I see.

Oh, for goodness' sake.

I'm an only child who had to organise my father's funeral whilst organising care for my mother and looking after my poorly husband. I recall driving to work whilst screaming in the car because that was somewhere where no one else could hear me.

During lockdown when I had to organise my husband's funeral I was on my own screaming at 4 walls in between liaising (from Scotland) with family members who chose not to travel from England during lockdown but wanted input into the webcast funeral so long as I did all the actual work.

The impact of the horror of that cannot be overstated, but you do what you have to do because it needs to be done. (That included dealing with Police Scotland, etc because my husband had the temerity to die at home instead of hospital.)

All that the neighbour whose mother had just DIED had to do was to reply to the OP's phone messages or get her friend/relative to reply properly instead of fobbing off the OP.

She does have empathy or else she wouldn’t have looked after the dog for nearly a week. The neighbour can resolve this matter easily and if the dog ends up PTS or rehomed it’s entirely on her.

Any perceived lack of money and inability to use the internet or a phone is also not OP’s problem. As for your “two wrongs don’t make a right” OP hasn’t done anything wrong. I bet she’s fed the dog all week at her own expense. Just because some people are happy to be treated as doormats and risk being left out of pocket by some cheeky bastard because “grieving” doesn’t mean OP is wrong because she hasn’t. I’d have said no in the first place to having the dog so she’s already done a lot.

It is not sarcasm. It is pointing out that OP has no empathy and may well be the cause of her neighbor's dog being put down or adopted by someone else.

It can be 3 weeks between the death and the funeral up here too. That doesn’t mean she needs to be in Scotland for 3 weeks Much can be done remotely. It’s not 3 weeks of solid planning. In any event, tough shit. She still has a dog that’s her responsibility and no one else’ s and she’s still a CF

You’ve been kind and she’s massively taking advantage. Boarding kennels need dogs vaccination records, do you have them? They also require up to date kennel cough vaccines that need to be done at least 21 days before they arrive. Has your neighbour left this with you?

So?

Most people will lose their mum. Sad as it is it’s not unusual and must certainly not an excuse for animal neglect.

Apols if this is sarcasm though!

And a neighbour whose mother just DIED.

The vet scans the dog. They then have to check with the national data base, not their own records. The data base then releases the owners details. The vet may or may not check to see if the dog is a client.

Vets have hundreds of dogs and cats on their files. The dog is not a personal friend of the vets. Vets are neither a charity or a boarding kennels.

The vet will try to contact the owner. The vet will not keep the dog. It will go wherever local stray dogs go. After a certain amount of time it will be either pts or rehomed.

She is in Scotland. She went there on a plane. This means it is a long way from where she lives.

She is arranging her mother's funeral. This means she is upset and grieving. I dont know how long it takes to organise a funeral in Scotland. It is often 3 weeks in England. This means she could be in Scotland for 3 weeks.

It appears that the dog's owner has not got much money. At this time, she may not be able to retrieve the dog from the pound.

Yes, the owner should have got in touch and tried to make arrangements. Everyone on mumsnet would have easily have organised kennels from hundreds of miles away whilst in the middle of organising a funeral.

However, two wrongs do not make a right.

What do you think OP should have done? Cancelled her holiday?
Everyone's parents die. It is sad but life goes on. A lot of us have children, pets and/or other responsibilities that can't be ignored while we organise a funeral and deal with our grief.

OP tried to contact the CF on multiple occasions and CF was fully aware from the outset that OP was going on holiday. OP has been helpful and kind. Why should she prioritise someone else's dog over her holiday?