You were belittling posters with your comments, you told one they had a real problem if they didn't think that word was dehumanising, and how it was indefensible 'no matter how we all try'.
I responded because you then asked why didn't he say that then, even though he did, which is what those posters have been explaining to you over all the posts.
Is it not enough to just think it was a bad term to use? but to instead try to make out he said something awful deliberately and that anyone clarifying it is doing something indefensible isn't in any way fair or accurate.
I don't think the term is dehumanising in the context in which he used it, instead it's just stating how vulnerable they were. Doesn't mean I'm saying something horrible. When my waters broke at 36 weeks, even at that point I was told that they didn't want to induce me yet because my baby wasn't fully formed.
I can understand how the term may be considered offensive in other contexts, but he did not use the term in a different context, and instead was using it to express their vulnerability, which is completely different.
I'm not sure why that is a shame? It just shows that we can agree with people on some topics but not on others, but for this particular part of the discussion you were the one belittling others and being rude repeatedly.