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HolyCheeses and Mary… the spreadsheet, the bullshit bingo and the aftermath. Part deux

434 replies

HolyCheeses · 22/04/2026 17:36

Was asked to start a thread.

started a thread.

OP posts:
dentalflosser · 22/04/2026 19:06

BB: But I’ve done a big shop and filled up the freezer! I bought a big bag of frozen sweetcorn for you and now it will go to waste as I don’t like it!
I did a spreadsheet of our food preferences, hours of work now pointless.

ChurpyBurd · 22/04/2026 19:03

"But you were fully on board with the plans in my head that didn't bother discussing with you, '

  • Sad face.
ApproachingMinimums · 22/04/2026 19:03

Spreadsheet Spreadsheet Spreadsheet

Gallusoldbesom · 22/04/2026 18:59

“I don’t know how you can do this to us” “ the kids will be devastated”
Thanks for the new thread!

DoloresDelEriba · 22/04/2026 18:53

But I let you choose the paint colours for their bedrooms…how can you leave me?

SpainToday · 22/04/2026 18:53

frozendaisy · 22/04/2026 18:39

Just bookmarking in case I miss a wonderful spread sheet!

Me too!

NettleTea · 22/04/2026 18:52

NettleTea · 22/04/2026 18:51

you will need to pay me for the paint for the kids bedrooms, after all they chose it

followed by asking if either of the kids want to come and be his lodger

DwarfPalmetto · 22/04/2026 18:52

@HolyCheeses if you are not going to tell him until next week, how are you communicating with him in the meantime? Do you think he has any inkling that you have changed your mind?

NettleTea · 22/04/2026 18:51

you will need to pay me for the paint for the kids bedrooms, after all they chose it

PTown · 22/04/2026 18:47

Here for the spreadsheet.

Jason Momoa Chair GIF
Gotback · 22/04/2026 18:39

notapizzaeater · 22/04/2026 18:22

But I’ve decorated the rooms for your kids ……

Definitely this plus "You're ruining it for everyone, your kids, my parents, me everyone." Note, you are not mentioned in that list because you are merely the malfunctioning housekeeper.

frozendaisy · 22/04/2026 18:39

Just bookmarking in case I miss a wonderful spread sheet!

TheSkyRaisin · 22/04/2026 18:37

I think he will spin it that you are a gold digger who was only interested in him for his money and big house and you dumped him when he asked you to make a fair contribution. He will use this story for sympathy and money from his parents to cover his expenses, then whenever he’s ready to find another partner, he will have the perfect backstory for why he’s so reluctant to spend money on her and why she needs to prove that she won’t play him like you did (ideally by going halves on his mortgage and taking his parents to their medical appointments).

By this stage @HolyCheeses you’ll be enjoying your newly renovated house and thanking the goddess that you can see through such bullshit 😁

Bombayss · 22/04/2026 18:27

Keep telling him Lodgers, plural, are the answer to his problem😁

Merryhobnobs · 22/04/2026 18:23

My parents are going to be do disappointed with you and if they end up in care it will entirely be your fault.

notapizzaeater · 22/04/2026 18:22

But I’ve decorated the rooms for your kids ……

Darkladyofthesonnets · 22/04/2026 18:20

He might have to walk his own dog, do his own garden, clean his own house and spend less than 700 pounds a month on food for one person.

Swiftie1878 · 22/04/2026 18:20

YOU LED ME ON!

ChavsAreReal · 22/04/2026 18:18

"Gold digger" (as you pay for his mortgage, wagyu beef and care for his parents)

CluelessAboutBiology · 22/04/2026 18:15

BB “But I can’t afford it on my own” or “But I can’t afford it without you”

Sevenwondersofthewoo · 22/04/2026 18:13

You’ll regret this

but I did it for you sorry for us

you won’t get any better

but I’ve told everyone. What will they think of you not him you.

DuckbilledSplatterPuff · 22/04/2026 18:08

Planesmistakenforstars · 22/04/2026 17:44

I think he'll be brazen and go with "But what am I supposed to do now?"

Yep.
BB... I have another spreadsheet.

josa · 22/04/2026 18:01

Invested in this now!

ByRealOtter · 22/04/2026 17:59

BB Why would you do that to your kids? You’re so selfish. I did this for YOUR children! How could you string me along all this time? You’ve ruined my life! You owe me as I invested in this place to house all your kids! Etc etc. (maybe you should invoice him for all your interior design work).