To think male posters get a hard time on MN?

So you didn’t know that…. Just assumed

I always found it funny the way people complain about men saying man here- if they didn’t they'd get a snide comment anyway! I think it’s interesting to get a man’s take and also good that the ones hear see things from the other side, there’s times I’m incredulous at what men read into something compared to what we do

Yeah, it was him. OP was having an affair (which is wrong, obviously) and he called her a slapper and got deleted. To be fair, he did apologise, but he also thought she ought to involve her children by telling them all about her affair so they could be distressed and angry and it would punish her.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5476132-im-cheating-what-to-do?page=10

If you're serious about being here for parenting advice, mate, then that is a really, really bad move. That's not what children are for. From what I've seen, though, you appear to be here not for support and advice on lone parenting, but so that you can weaponise your situation to try to prove that 'women are just as bad as men' in all respects or whatever. That's what comes over as the primary motivation.

The funny thing is, if you were really here for support and solidarity, I do honestly think you'd get it. There are plenty of abandoned mothers on here - women are a lot more likely than men to be left as lone parents - and I think most of them would sympathise with how hard it is and want to help, for you and your child... if that came across as truly being what you wanted.

But it clearly isn't.

😂 True!

not all men.

somehow I knew that, even though I've never seen him post before.

I mean, I've never seen him post before, yet somehow I have.

just so reasonable and rational. unlike these crazy, hormonal women.

Thanks to these replies it just shows the attitude towards any man on here.

carry on ladies, enjoy yourselves ☺️

Everyone, listen. The man has spoken.

This particular man always posts on threads like this one, pointing out how jolly reasonable he is.

well, I'm glad the man with Dad in his username has come along to mansplain forum etiquette to us. Just like many posters in this thread said would happen.

Everyone, listen. The man has spoken.

Are you the guy who got deleted a few weeks ago for calling women slappers?

Cause it’s the internet, everyone is entitled to an opinion.
more in life to concern yourself with than people calling you nasty names.

some men are horrid, some women are.. simples.

double standards are a plenty on here that’s for sure, to be expected

Do I go reporting posts cause someone called me a horrid name? Nope

Why not? It's against the TGs.

When you read some of the replies on this thread, kinda answers the question.

majority of posters on here are obviously female and that’s fine in many respects.

to generalise that men are bad is not totally fair but of course my opinion will be in the minority.

can’t say I have posted about my wife not wanting sex, expecting a blow job for doing the pots etc…

im on here to gain advice and reassurance that I can bring up my daughter as a single parent. Single parent cause her mum can’t be arsed anymore so abandoned her. So do I think all mums are bad? Nope.

i have had a spat or 2 on here with some posters, we of course will have differing opinions, that’s the joys of the internet. Do I go reporting posts cause someone called me a horrid name? Nope.

Yes, men do get a hard time on here, sometimes it’s justified and many times it’s not.

sure I will be shot down for this post but it’s to be expected…

have a wonderful evening folks

Is this a joke?!?

I agree with the OP.
I quite often come across threads where the answers would be very different if a woman had posted.
There are a lot of bitter women on MN, as well as the many many witty, intelligent, helpful and indeed downright hilarious ones. But there are some who will automatically berate a man just because he is a man, or automatically agree with a female poster talking about something that has happened just because she is female.

Fully agree.

Why would you stick up for a man who is oppressing his wife?

You can often tell although obviously not always. I definitely have no time for 'as a man' interjections where men argue down women's lived experiences when it comes to men, relationships and social sex dynamics. Men trying to hold forth can fuck off. But then I've no time for women who identify with men over other women, enable them, pander to them, and whinge about 'misandry'

You stick up for men with downtrodden wives?

It's funny, because I've offended and enraged a lot of people on here, and been called a number of things, but nobody has ever accused me of being a man.

If you defend men with downtrodden wives then probably people are going to suspect your motives. Why would you want to defend a man with a downtrodden wife?
Do you have a link to the posts you're referring to for point 3? I find it very hard to believe you're getting called that on the regular just for politely voicing an opinion.

The misandry on this site is shockingly sad. Whenever I stick up for a man on here by a downtrodden wife, i get accused of

1. Being male
2. Being a misogynist
3. Being a C#&t

A quarter of MN users are men? Fuck.

There's been so many threads about how MN isn’t as supportive as it once was, how replies are more combative and harsh, etc - maybe that’s because more and more posters are male?

I don't think it is equally shit, actually, especially if you look at my earlier post giving further context.

@KarmenPQZ . There are some websites restricted to female posters but they are not very successful and tend to be limited to work and networking. There have been some female only spaces but the main one, Wing, closed because of lack of support.
However, MNHQ is very definite in its mission statement that they are open to all users regardless of the sex of the poster. If some posters want a female only forum, that copies the MN's profile, they need to start their own. I am always surprised that some posters who are very hostile to men being members of MN, don't start their own parenting website.