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To be awake and feeling tearful over SEND EHCP disaster

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InBitsandInTears · 21/02/2026 04:34

This week I got a message to say LA proposes to name a mainstream secondary school for DS and attached is an EHCP that was finalised in November that I've never seen.

I don't know why I didn't get the notice. I was told there were delays because of a backlog. It's impossible to get through on the phone.

With hindsight I am blaming myself for not doing more or doing differently.

The EHCP is a complete mess. Mainstream is impossible.

DS would far rather be at home, I feel like just giving up.

OP posts:
ExistingonCoffee · 21/02/2026 09:58

Take a breath. You can do this.

Firstly, you need to know exactly what has happened. You say the LA has finalised the secondary phase transfer EHCP. Then you say the primary is named in I, but don’t mention that the secondary is also named from September. You need to know whether you have the finalised phase transfer EHCP or not.

If you do have the finalised EHCP for secondary, you could request leave to appeal out of time. Not guaranteed to be accepted by SENDIST, but sometimes is. Appeal BFI, not just I.

Alongside this, go back to the LA to request the date on the letter is corrected. I wouldn’t assume the letter was there and you just didn’t see it before now. It isn’t unheard of for LAs to put letters on with dates months previously. Not unheard of, but it is less common for LAs to finalise secondary phase transfer EHCPs in November. The fact you got the message this week suggests the LA did not finalise the phase transfer EHCP in November.

You should have the finalised EHCP by now, but if you don’t, chase the LA. If that doesn’t work, you will need a pre-action letter so I would start looking for someone with capacity to take your case.

Look at your evidence. Consider whether you need independent assessments. You mention EP but what about OT and SALT? If you need assessments but can’t afford them and aren’t eligible for legal aid, there are charities who can help.

Representation for an appeal isn’t essential. Most parents aren’t represented. If it is a choice between representation and independent assessments, you should prioritise independent assessments. The best representation in the country can only work with the evidnece available.

DS hasn’t missed the chance of SS. It is still possible for one to be named.

Be careful with SENDIASS. Some are excellent but too many repeat the LA’s unlawful policies.

You mention not knowing your obligations. The naming of a school in I doesn’t mean you are obliged to send DS. It doesn’t automatically register DS at the school. I wouldn’t personally, but if you decide not to appeal you are still free to EHE or make your own arrangements at an independent school for example.

Maxme · 21/02/2026 09:55

It seems that LEA are just playing a game to save money and not caring about the impact or damage they are causing to children.

I don't know what to suggest, but my thoughts are with you and everyone else stuck in an already hard situation with zero support from gov.

Hankunamatata · 21/02/2026 09:54

Screen capture any communications

Hankunamatata · 21/02/2026 09:44

Op you need an advocate. Contact one of sen charities or engage a solicitor who speciliases in this area

OrangeAurora · 21/02/2026 09:44

@InBitsandInTearsAre you sure they haven’t reissued a final plan naming a mainstream secondary from Sept 26? Or they are just stating their intentions to name, and you’ll receive a new final plan imminently?

The statutory deadline to issue a final plan, naming the secondary school your child is to transition, was February 15th. Many LAs do not meet this deadline, so I’m wondering if they’re covering their arses by sending you a message.

The LA must also send you an accompanying letter with any final EHCP, detailing your rights to appeal. Have they done this? If so what is the date on that letter? If not, ask for the letter. You can appeal within 2 months of the date on the letter.

If it is a case of you not being able to see a final plan, naming the secondary, that was issued in November, because you couldn’t log in to their Hub, then I would appeal anyway. The Tribunal will accept late appeals in exceptional circumstances. Hearing dates are being set for March 2027, although that doesn’t mean things can’t be resolved before then, especially if you have strong evidence. I wouldn’t bother contacting SENCOs etc, channel your energy into the appeal.

I have supported many families in similar situations - it’s almost as if the system is set up to fail.

InBitsandInTears · 21/02/2026 09:26

gototogo · 21/02/2026 09:22

Why don’t you think mainstream is suitable? It all depends on their complete profile, just having send doesn’t mean a specialist school is a good fit, I fought for specialist provision within mainstream because I was appalled at the behaviour and exam results were non existent - Lea wanted to send her to specialist school but it really wasn’t good. She had a dedicated quiet space within a main stream school (off school office) and attended classes as she wanted and got a*’s. At lunch time she went to a specialist programme she helped to design

Thank you, very helpful information.

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Bonsaibaby · 21/02/2026 09:24

I know this was back in November but they often send a ‘final’ and a proposed amended final draft. The final is their old one and the new one is the proposed amendments. Are you sure you are not looking at their old final one?

you should always receive a draft amended final - as should current senco. Why didn't she check it as well? then there are 15 days to get it changed again.

I would ring the LA and ask them to resend the more recent EHCP first of all. Then ask for a list of the schools that were consulted. It’s likely the secondary school he’s been placed at didn’t respond to the consultation which led to the automatic placement. Ask whether the specialist provisions you applied to said they could meet needs.

when you get the most recent EHCP, call an annual review and ask the senco to invite the officer for their area and the ed psych to the meeting. Reamend the EHCP, with a view to changing the secondary school named on it.

I think making a phone call to the LA is the best place to start just to get as much information as you can about what’s gone wrong in this process.

gototogo · 21/02/2026 09:22

Why don’t you think mainstream is suitable? It all depends on their complete profile, just having send doesn’t mean a specialist school is a good fit, I fought for specialist provision within mainstream because I was appalled at the behaviour and exam results were non existent - Lea wanted to send her to specialist school but it really wasn’t good. She had a dedicated quiet space within a main stream school (off school office) and attended classes as she wanted and got a*’s. At lunch time she went to a specialist programme she helped to design

AmberDreams · 21/02/2026 09:22

Everyone who voted Labour and supported their awful policy of adding VAT to education contributed to the ever worsening SEND crisis in state schools.

IdentityCris · 21/02/2026 09:19

InBitsandInTears · 21/02/2026 09:04

I have asked previously and repeatedly for information to be posted to me due to problems with the online system. Also left mamy messages on their (abandoned) phone line.

If you can show (e.g. through copy emails) that you have asked this and they have ignored you, you have an even better chance of getting a late appeal accepted. The Tribunal is well used to this sort of problem.

InBitsandInTears · 21/02/2026 09:18

Jimmyneutronsforehead · 21/02/2026 09:08

Have you put it in writing on the EHC hub?

For fear of sounding like a cliche broken record, if it isn't on the Hub it doesn't mean anything.

If it is on the Hub and there are future technical errors preventing you accessing the material or being provided key dates you have more evidence that the LEA are acting in bad faith in a tribunal.

I can't access all my previously sent messages on the system.

I am pretty sure I have sent messages that weren't replied to.

The last time I sent a long message giving specific information about school choice I got what looked like an automated message saying it had been 'added to their records'.

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Theunamedcat · 21/02/2026 09:17

Get your MP involved and submit a formal complaint also if your senco agrees that they should be special not mainstream why didn't they flag you in November? Sounds like the LA changed the date on the letter that's why you didn't see it until now

My LA used the start date for the date of completion they were told firmly they could not do that (so the date they started working on the EHCP not the date it was completed if that makes it clear) the person no longer works there

IdentityCris · 21/02/2026 09:17

Fruitbatdancer · 21/02/2026 09:07

@InBitsandInTears i refuse to let any parent giver the selves a hard time for the EHCP process. It is a monumental difficult shit show managed by hugely inept councils. It is designed for lawyers to navigate not normal people (sorry lawyers!) the very fact you care, are trying and advocating for your child is wonderful and proves what a fabulous mum are. Hang in there. Fight. Never accept no. And nEVER blame yourself.
i have the scars. You are amazing.

The vast majority of people who appeal to the Tribunal don't have lawyers, and 98% of them win. So please don't be put off, OP.

IdentityCris · 21/02/2026 09:15

Jimmyneutronsforehead · 21/02/2026 09:06

From what I understand they updated the Hub in November but no automatic email was sent so to them, they did everything in due course.

Correct me if I'm wrong OP please!

I had this exact issue and it's hard to prove you didn't receive an email they say should vr automatically sent.

OP says she has a letter saying they intend to name a mainstream secondary school and that Section I names mainstream primary - so I took it from that that they haven't issued a phase transfer EHCP. But yes, OP, can you clarify?

Needlenardlenoo · 21/02/2026 09:09

My LA switched from paper letters to publishing decisions/letters as pdfs on their "portal" without actually telling parents.

To be fair they do have a system that emails you automatically if info is on the portal but mine needed re-setting so I did at one point wait for an important letter not knowing it was there in e-form.

Jimmyneutronsforehead · 21/02/2026 09:08

InBitsandInTears · 21/02/2026 09:04

I have asked previously and repeatedly for information to be posted to me due to problems with the online system. Also left mamy messages on their (abandoned) phone line.

Have you put it in writing on the EHC hub?

For fear of sounding like a cliche broken record, if it isn't on the Hub it doesn't mean anything.

If it is on the Hub and there are future technical errors preventing you accessing the material or being provided key dates you have more evidence that the LEA are acting in bad faith in a tribunal.

Fruitbatdancer · 21/02/2026 09:07

@InBitsandInTears i refuse to let any parent giver the selves a hard time for the EHCP process. It is a monumental difficult shit show managed by hugely inept councils. It is designed for lawyers to navigate not normal people (sorry lawyers!) the very fact you care, are trying and advocating for your child is wonderful and proves what a fabulous mum are. Hang in there. Fight. Never accept no. And nEVER blame yourself.
i have the scars. You are amazing.

Needlenardlenoo · 21/02/2026 09:06

SOS!SEN – The Independent Helpline for Special Education Needs – We offer a free, friendly, independent and confidential telephone helpline for parents and others looking for information and advice on Special Educational Needs (SEN) https://share.google/z7gWgTpQl811p1HAA

That's what the earlier poster meant by "Sen sos" I should think.

InBitsandInTears · 21/02/2026 09:06

CelticSilver · 21/02/2026 08:59

Have you ever considered Home Education?

That's an interesting question. What are your thoughts?

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Jimmyneutronsforehead · 21/02/2026 09:06

IdentityCris · 21/02/2026 08:56

As your child is in a phase transition year (primary to secondary) your LA should have issued an amended EHCP by 15th February naming the secondary school, or at least a type of school. I suggest you email them immediately reminding them of that, also telling them why mainstream won't work and reminding them of your preference for a secondary school placement. Ask them in any event to send the finalised amended EHCP by the end of the week, failing which you will take judicial review action. If or when they issue the new one, even though it will probably name a mainstream school, it's good news because you will have a new right of appeal. That appeal will be expedited because it is a phase transfer appeal, i.e. they will aim to list it to be heard before August.

If you have an annual review report with amendments which the LA has ignored, you stand an excellent chance of getting them ordered in tribunal. Also ideally you need something like an independent educational psychologist's report. There are charities which help with the costs, such as Parents in Need. What you need if possible is to have a provision set out in section F which can only be met in a special school, such as small classes and specialist teachers, but you will need independent evidence to show that is necessary.

Someone mentioned sensos above - they probably meant SOS SEN who are definitely worth a call.

From what I understand they updated the Hub in November but no automatic email was sent so to them, they did everything in due course.

Correct me if I'm wrong OP please!

I had this exact issue and it's hard to prove you didn't receive an email they say should vr automatically sent.

InBitsandInTears · 21/02/2026 09:04

Jimmyneutronsforehead · 21/02/2026 08:46

Can you request an early annual review again? It will trigger a new draft plan, during which time you should be able to supply supporting evidence and then it will also open up a new appeals window.

The thing is even if you had appealed in November, the wait for a tribunal date in some areas is still over a year long so this may not even have been resolved by the new school year anyway.

Definitely get the SENCO involved, and you can request in writing and on the EHCP hub that they call you with any new developments on the EHCP hub because you haven't received notifications from the Hub at key points and have missed your legal right to appeal due to technical errors. I've just had to do this for DS, where after a phonecall with an unbothered member of the LEA they said it's a known issue with the Mandrill app they use for their EHCPs. Thanks for letting us know sooner then LEA you sleezy buggers.

I have asked previously and repeatedly for information to be posted to me due to problems with the online system. Also left mamy messages on their (abandoned) phone line.

OP posts:
CelticSilver · 21/02/2026 08:59

Have you ever considered Home Education?

IdentityCris · 21/02/2026 08:56

As your child is in a phase transition year (primary to secondary) your LA should have issued an amended EHCP by 15th February naming the secondary school, or at least a type of school. I suggest you email them immediately reminding them of that, also telling them why mainstream won't work and reminding them of your preference for a secondary school placement. Ask them in any event to send the finalised amended EHCP by the end of the week, failing which you will take judicial review action. If or when they issue the new one, even though it will probably name a mainstream school, it's good news because you will have a new right of appeal. That appeal will be expedited because it is a phase transfer appeal, i.e. they will aim to list it to be heard before August.

If you have an annual review report with amendments which the LA has ignored, you stand an excellent chance of getting them ordered in tribunal. Also ideally you need something like an independent educational psychologist's report. There are charities which help with the costs, such as Parents in Need. What you need if possible is to have a provision set out in section F which can only be met in a special school, such as small classes and specialist teachers, but you will need independent evidence to show that is necessary.

Someone mentioned sensos above - they probably meant SOS SEN who are definitely worth a call.

2old4thispoo · 21/02/2026 08:46

I'm sorry if I've missed this but has the school been named as its a transition year and your child goes to secondary school in September?

Honestly? I have felt exactly as you describe many times over the years witj my dc.

I have 3 dc with Ehcplans.

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