Would you accept this?

I agree - even if he threw her to the ground and had sex with her, she shouldn't complain, given it's Christmas.

It's not bloody banter! It makes people feel uncomfortable and men need to pack it the fuck in!

This, at least a million times.

It's not bloody banter! It makes people feel uncomfortable and men need to pack it the fuck in!

Sorry OP. It's probably a massive kick in the guts.

You can’t say anything these days 🙄🙄🙄.

no of course I wouldn’t accept it. He deserves all he gets.

Clearly the person who complained is not an 'idiot' because its resulted in the outcome they wanted, to have the creepy man sacked. So it was actually quite sensible of them to complain. The only 'idiot' in the scenario is the one who thought their idea of 'banter' is acceptable in the modern workplace. I don't know what the matter with some people these days is either. Its nearly 2026 yet they seem to be stuck in a 1970s carry on film.

Our team has a lot of banter.
We also have very dark humour which many people would not like it.

But the banter is between colleagues and there is a limit.
We never banter with new staff and we follow their lead on what they’re comfortable with.

Doing it to people not part of the group (either behind other colleagues or customers backs) is bitchy and bullying.

😂Trying too hard!

It’s not just banter. Whatever he has said is bad enough that he was sacked for it. Which means it’s bad enough for the OP to be hurt because her partner is a misogynist prick who thinks it’s his place to comment on the appearance of his customers, and an unfaithful git who is clearly thinking about other women in comparison to her. Not to mention, undermining their financial security in the process.

I'm glad I'm not the only one thinking this!

Your husband obviously didn't value his customers or his job. He's very unprofessional. Serves him right to loose his job.

It’s not banter if the other person isn’t involved in it. He’s commenting on the appearance of women behind their backs.

Are you a woman? Don’t you want to live your life without men leering at you and judging you?

Banter?!

I don’t want to walk into a business and have a group of men analyse my body.

Doing it every now and then may be acceptable in some cases, depending on what is said but he’s doing it regularly and it was bad enough to be sacked over - so not I definitely don’t think that’s banter.

Banter is teasing each other over things and being playful - it should be within the team only.
Not perving on customers.

No, I wouldn't accept being married to a horrible sexist arsehole who made his female colleagues feel uncomfortable by perving over customers in front of them and (in your other thread) also singled out a female colleague and kept touching her.

I have no issue at all with men noticing women's bodies and enjoying looking at them; I certainly wouldn't consider the fact that he finds other women attractive 'a betrayal'. But the way he actually behaves towards women and the fact that he acts like a tiresome sex-pest buffoon all the time? Yeah, that would get him dumped. Who the fuck wants to be married to a character from On The Buses? He's gross.

Are you hoping for different answers this time?

Not surprised that he’s lost his job - but relationship-wise the comments aren’t the hill to die on OP.

He sounds like the type of man who goes to strip clubs - deeply unpleasant, rude and misogynistic, but I suspect you already knew that.

no you are not over reacting at all. That’s quite simply horrific. And it must have reached a very bad level if it was noticed enough for him to actually get sacked. I would not only be hurt by this but I would also be embarrassed to be in a relationship with this person.

I mean the comments you mentioned are sleazy and would put me off somebody big time but the comments posted are at least all intended to be complimentary.
I’m willing to bet that he made some other comments about women he found less aesthetically pleasing too and it may be those that got him sacked.
obviously I don’t know for sure but that would be my guess…and in a partner I think I would struggle to move on from it. Depends whether he genuinely sees what the issue is and regrets it or whether he sees himself as a victim.

I very much doubt he would have been sacked on the basis of one complaint about a bit of banter. He would have been giving a warning that this was offensive behaviour that needed to stop. If he couldn't pack it in at that point then he is an idiot.

It's work. Fucking finally there's some consequences.

You know you're not, though. Come on.

He touched some women in his workplace too.

And even if he hadn't, it'salways unacceptable for men to make sexual comments.

You've got very low standards.

OP I would be so angry, it’s humiliating. He has been such a sleaze that he got fired. I would be so hurt and reconsidering marriage, also likely that he gave you a watered down version of events….

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