Son dumped by gf -update

The OP didn't say how much he begged, she literally posted one day about him being dumped and the next that the woman blocked him. It couldn't have been so bad.

Well that's untrue. The OP said: "She's changed her mind because my son kept texting and calling her begging for another chance and she's said it's all a bit much". So OP is clearly saying that he was pestering her. Also exGF dumped him on Saturday, they spoke on the Sunday and OP updated on Tuesday to say he'd been blocked - so three days of pestering, not her changing her mind from one day to the next. It really isn't relevant if she had decided to block him over a 24 hour period (although that is clearly not what happened), it's the volume of unwanted contact she experienced and, yes, it could have been that bad. She's gone from initially allowing him to stay on in her home to telling him to get out and leave her alone - so clearly his behaviour was negatively affecting her to quite some extent.

I'm not sure why you are continually minimising his appalling behaviour? Ironically you posted on the day the Government launched the Violence Against Women and Girls (VAWG) strategy.

The OPs original post said out of the blue on Saturday (13th), then on the 16th he got blocked. This is three days later.

Why have you decided he “only” harassed her for one day? And that begging isn’t the “end of the world” 🤦‍♀️, this could’ve gone on for three days and nights, you’ve no idea if it has. You’re weirdly making up narratives to make the DSs behaviour “ok”. It’s not ok.

The information is all there in the OPs post. It’s surprising you call out PPs comprehension really.

I think at the age of 27 and after 3 years of dating, your son's girlfriend wanted to know where she stood in terms of getting married - was this a serious relationship of just a stop gap for him in case someone more interesting came along? He refused to take her question seriously or give her any indication of when they might expect to get married. And he was living in her flat! No wonder she decided to end it.

Thank you, random man.

good question!

Me too

Yes. I thought that was obvious.

So my reading comprehension is fine then? Fab glad you agree that my reading comprehension is okay.

you tried to use mine! my original statement was generic and not once did it say that it was about your sons. but you reacted so strongly as clearly it has struck a nerve but you don’t want to admit that and that’s fine. I don’t pander to anyone love and neither does my husband as we both have healthy happy relationship.

I have more self awareness than you do,

You definetely have reading comprehension because I said that I'm raising my boys to respect themselves and not to pander to any woman (in a healthy relationship nobody panders to anybody, but wouldn't know that). If the woman breaks up, there will be better one, no need to run after her. But plenty of women run after men actually and pester them waaaaaay longer after breakup, just read the stepparents group! I feel pity for your daughter for having a mother with 0 self-awareness who instead of disagreeing politely with someone, tried to dismiss them by using their children.

Ooooh...how does one get to "have reading comprehension"?

This post is beyond belief, actually. Such gross generalisations. Such uncalled-for ad hominem attacks.

my reading comprehension is just fine thanks,
i did actually, I accepted it and moved on, didn’t harass them. so no I’m not a hypocrite at all.

I’m not raising my child to be judgemental actually, the opposite, raising them to stand up for themselves and not pander to man and their mother.

I’ve clearly touched a nerve with you. Shame i pity your boys. Sadly raising them to harass women for ‘clarification’ as if it’s over isn’t enough

Agree. He "was blindsided" 😏

Where are you getting 'one day' from? OP doesn't say that anywhere.

She does say 'my son kept texting and calling her begging for another chance and she's said it's all a bit much.' so it could have been over a period of days for all anyone here knows. Even if it was just the one day, it was too much. Text once and say your piece and add you'd like to talk face to face at some point, then leave it alone and accept a reply of 'no' with some grace. Apart from it being harassment to keep pestering your ex to take you back, have some bloody self respect.

He could have given her some space and tried to talk to her once more when she came home, but instead he bombarded her with calls and texts when she had taken herself off for a short break with her friends. That is harassment.

It's not ok for men to keep pestering women trying to wear them down, it's coercive and 'due to the consequences of his own actions this man is sad' is not an excuse. No means no!

He's not a robot who just accepts whatever decision is forced on him

Anyone who's partner has finished with them has a decision 'forced' on them and yes they do have to accept it whether they want to or not.

Thing is they already have talked, he wasn't interested in the future that she envisioned for herself so she's now freed herself to find someone who does share that vision.

Ah I see. I didn't interpret that poorly worded comment as referring at all to the "I" who posted.

I totally understand that she would be turned off by his texts if she's over him (i.e. she had time to think it through and was prepared unlike him). But if he was under the impression that there was a way to correct his mistake, texting for one or two days, maybe asking to talk is the normal thing that many exes do and is within normal limits. I am baffled with the hypocrisy of the posters here! At the end, nobody can (or should want) to force the other to return, but some reaction is understandable.
I hope that this guy works on himself, learns to control his emotions, gets better self-esteem and attracts a better woman!

Nope.

Yea, like nobody every tried to convince the ex to come back. He only did it for one day based on OP's posts, not the end of the world. Plenty of women here are so hard core on this, but I'm sure all of you already tried to beg an ex not to break up or at least, asked him to talk!

This is what I'm thinking. She is way ahead of him in terms of planning and carrying out the plans. By 24 she was way ahead of where he is at when he's 30.

Second post on first thread just says "Should obviously say he hasn't proposed".
(Well of course he hasn't - if he had we wouldn't be here would we.)
Maybe the OP meant to type "Headline should obviously say HE hasn't proposed"

Can OP come back to those of us who think that OP is the son?

The OP didn't say how much he begged, she literally posted one day about him being dumped and the next that the woman blocked him. It couldn't have been so bad. Some people block extremely fast and for not so many reasons. Again, I'm not saying that it was a good thing to do for him, but I rarely heard about a person just dissapearing right away into the atmosphere after being dumped.

You have very fertile imagination and lack of reading comprehension. I didn't talk about endlessly calling and texting for weeks. I meant asking for another chance, asking for clarifications, etc. PLENTY OF PEOPLE DO THAT!
I also said that the young man should have controlled himself for the sake of his OWN self-respect and that is what I teach my boys.
I bet when your exes broke up with you, you didn't just dissapeared into the atmosphere. What a hypocrite!
I pity your kids if you even have any for having such a judgemental mother and raising them the same.

I suspect that wasn’t the first conversation they had about general life plans, or gf realised she was more ambitious than him in life generally.

By the age of 24 or younger, she’s got herself a flat (mortgaged? Rented?) and has been living there. Maybe she realised that bf isn’t quite as switched on and forward thinking as her. Was he saving for the future etc?