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Is this a police job? Threatened by Vinted seller

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Reasonswhy · 28/11/2025 14:36

I know I’m not, but posting for traffic as no idea what to do.
Item for Christmas arrived today and was clearly fake so applied for a refund via Vinted. I’ve had a series of threatening messages from the seller saying he needs the money, and he has my address so will come and find me. He included a photo of himself holding an air rifle. I’m not easily spooked but feel really scared now as he does have my address and seems very angry. I’ve filed a “help” through Vinted but they may not even read it for 48 hours. Do I call 111? On my own with 2 kids so feel really on edge.

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WearyAuldWumman · 29/11/2025 23:02

He's escalating. Dial 999.

You have his name, address and clear evidence.

IridiumSky · 29/11/2025 22:59

The police are correct in saying that is not a real gun. It’s a toy copy of a Chinese Type 56. That may mean there is no Firearms Act offence. But please remind them that you have been threatened with a RIF (Realistic imitation firearm) which has implications under the VCRA. Any criminal lawyers on here? Look it up please (I’m a UK firearms dealer, but have not followed the new RIF regs, as I have nothing to do with them.)
There will also be a offence of using a RIF to cause alarm and distress, or something like that. This is serious and should be taken seriously. The bloke is an idiot and probably does not know how much trouble he could be in. Please keep us updated.
But OP, don’t worry too much. This bloke gobbing off absolutely means he’s not some kind of professional. Just a dickhead: probably some saddo sitting in his stinking bedroom. You really don’t need to worry.

Cursula · 29/11/2025 22:52

Another hand hold and wishing you some peace tonight. Unmumsnetty hugs to you OP x

Tarteaucitronmerinquee · 29/11/2025 22:44

Gosh , I have no advice but just want to give you a hand hold. Is it possible that this person isn’t even in the UK?

Unicornsandprincesses · 29/11/2025 22:41

Unicornsandprincesses · 29/11/2025 22:33

Sun article here showing there are at least 3 more people it's happened to in the UK too - https://www.thesun.co.uk/money/24939044/vinted-online-safety-bill-shopping-abusive-messages-threats/

Actually seems to be a prolific problem:

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5164194-vinted-seller-death-threat-with-gun

Another poster says this happens a lot:
https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5164194-vinted-seller-death-threat-with-gun?page=2&reply=138272262

There's even a TV producer commenting on that thread too, who is working on a piece about this.

https://www.reddit.com/r/vinted/comments/1cmxu3d/received_a_cardboard_and_threats_with_a_gn_no/

Hopefully, this reassures you a little that this is a common scam and you're likely to be ok. I don't like that they've contacted you from another account though, that does seem unhinged.

Wouldn't surprise me if this is some organised crime group thing

Vinted seller death threat with gun??? | Mumsnet

AIBU to not understand how vinted get away with their crap customer service. I bought a counterfeit branded item from vinted. It was obviously a fake...

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5164194-vinted-seller-death-threat-with-gun

WorkItUpYourBangle · 29/11/2025 22:39

Reasonswhy · 29/11/2025 21:57

Thank you all so much, can’t tell you how much I appreciate your reassurance. Special thanks to the amazing ex -police who have made me feel a lot better. Just had a call back from my local station, they apologised and said they are very busy and don’t feel I’m at immediate threat as they are confident the image contains a toy gun and they will have an officer out today or tomorrow. I just pointlessly wish they could do something more in the meantime like pass it to cyber team (or whatever it’s called in real life!) given they have the screen shots and someone in the right team could presumably talk to a real person in Vinted 🤷‍♀️

I had a situation where someone stalked me on YouTube because I made a comment in the comment section of a video that they didn't like. She went to my channel looked at my videos and then went to my twitter account. From there she found my Facebook and started messaging my friends and family. It was wild. I called police and an officer came out within the hour. They said they take this crap really seriously now. She was in America and stupidly had made a video on her YouTube giving her exact address. Police were able to hand it over to the American police and have her arrested and cautioned for online harassment.
Please don't let them fob you off with it being an empty threat. This absolute feckwit threatened your children's lives just because you didn't accept his fake clothing. That is beyond insane and he's clearly dangerous and needs to spend some time in a cell for this in my opinion although knowing the UK he won't. I hope you get it sorted. I'd be very scared too ❤️

Unicornsandprincesses · 29/11/2025 22:33

Unicornsandprincesses · 29/11/2025 22:29

Very interesting. The pictures are identical.

A Reddit thread shows similar in France (is it the same case as the news article? I'm not sure) but what interested me was the same racist comments about having "black" friends come after them. https://www.reddit.com/r/arnaques/comments/1d22q7n/doisje_minqui%C3%A9ter/

Lots of people on that thread are saying it's an obvious fake gun, just to reassure you OP.

Sun article here showing there are at least 3 more people it's happened to in the UK too - https://www.thesun.co.uk/money/24939044/vinted-online-safety-bill-shopping-abusive-messages-threats/

Unicornsandprincesses · 29/11/2025 22:29

Aconcernedmum43 · 29/11/2025 22:15

@Reasonswhy Firstly, I am really sorry you are experiencing this. It sounds terrifying.

Not sure if anyone has done this already but i put the picture of the gun into google reverse image search and a story from 2023 came up from a news page in France where they reported a vinted buyer experiencing the same issue as you are where they were sent the same image and threatening messages over an item that wasn't genuine.

https://www.oisehebdo.fr/2023/06/11/chantilly-commande-vinted-cauchemar/

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Very interesting. The pictures are identical.

A Reddit thread shows similar in France (is it the same case as the news article? I'm not sure) but what interested me was the same racist comments about having "black" friends come after them. https://www.reddit.com/r/arnaques/comments/1d22q7n/doisje_minqui%C3%A9ter/

Lots of people on that thread are saying it's an obvious fake gun, just to reassure you OP.

PaisleyGilmourStreet · 29/11/2025 22:29

This is horrific.
Ring your local police again and tell them you are contacting the press if they don't send officers round within the hour.
I'd also be tempted to message this reprobate and tell him the police and the press are currently tracing him.

TheAdjutant · 29/11/2025 22:23

It is not possible to confirm whether a "firearm" is capable of firing ammunition until it is visually inspected...

Shotokan101 · 29/11/2025 22:15

Reasonswhy · 29/11/2025 21:57

Thank you all so much, can’t tell you how much I appreciate your reassurance. Special thanks to the amazing ex -police who have made me feel a lot better. Just had a call back from my local station, they apologised and said they are very busy and don’t feel I’m at immediate threat as they are confident the image contains a toy gun and they will have an officer out today or tomorrow. I just pointlessly wish they could do something more in the meantime like pass it to cyber team (or whatever it’s called in real life!) given they have the screen shots and someone in the right team could presumably talk to a real person in Vinted 🤷‍♀️

Ask the police to confirm that the weapon has been identified by a firearms officer and confirmed as a replica or toy, otherwise they have no excuse for not treating it as a genuine firearm and acting properly to safeguard your family's safety.

Aconcernedmum43 · 29/11/2025 22:15

@Reasonswhy Firstly, I am really sorry you are experiencing this. It sounds terrifying.

Not sure if anyone has done this already but i put the picture of the gun into google reverse image search and a story from 2023 came up from a news page in France where they reported a vinted buyer experiencing the same issue as you are where they were sent the same image and threatening messages over an item that wasn't genuine.

https://www.oisehebdo.fr/2023/06/11/chantilly-commande-vinted-cauchemar/

purpleygrey · 29/11/2025 22:12

How scary. I hope you are ok ❤️❤️

Thegreatestoftheseislove · 29/11/2025 22:09

Reasonswhy · 29/11/2025 21:57

Thank you all so much, can’t tell you how much I appreciate your reassurance. Special thanks to the amazing ex -police who have made me feel a lot better. Just had a call back from my local station, they apologised and said they are very busy and don’t feel I’m at immediate threat as they are confident the image contains a toy gun and they will have an officer out today or tomorrow. I just pointlessly wish they could do something more in the meantime like pass it to cyber team (or whatever it’s called in real life!) given they have the screen shots and someone in the right team could presumably talk to a real person in Vinted 🤷‍♀️

I am glad you are feeling a little reassured in all this scary situation. One other thing I would suggest you to do is send the brief outline details to your MP. From my experience, they will ensure the police follow up, and will also encourage Vinted to be more accountable. It also raises awareness with our ‘law makers’.

50lbstolose · 29/11/2025 22:02

This is really scary.

i think that Vinted should move to a we code for all postage so sellers don’t have access to buyers addresses

Wowwhataworld · 29/11/2025 22:01

Holy shit op this is absolutely wild. I really hope they come out tonight and help put your mind at rest. The fact they haven’t just left it and set up another account is scary. I highly doubt there is truth in their messages but probably getting one hell of a kick out of the thought of scaring someone. Hope you are doing okay x

Mildorado · 29/11/2025 22:01

I agree, @Reasonswhy .
Like pp, I've read about people being arrested for "malicious tweets" which were far less serious. The nature of the threats - particularly the last ones, are absolutely vile.
I suppose you can take comfort from the fact that they don't think it's serious, but I do think they should have come to your home and been a bit more proactive.

Inserthiliarioususernamehere · 29/11/2025 22:00

OP if he messages you again from a new account, don’t report it or respond until the police have had a look. By the account being reported, it’s blocked and makes the job of tracing him harder.

I’m so sorry you’re experiencing this, it must be very scary. I think it’s a 999 call too, especially as you’ve called already, and had that officer agree it wouldn’t wait until next week.

Also, I saw a few people ask how he’s got the address. I sell and buy on Vinted, and whilst it is easier to send parcels using a QR code, it’s possible to get the buyers address by clicking download postage label.

Reasonswhy · 29/11/2025 21:57

Thank you all so much, can’t tell you how much I appreciate your reassurance. Special thanks to the amazing ex -police who have made me feel a lot better. Just had a call back from my local station, they apologised and said they are very busy and don’t feel I’m at immediate threat as they are confident the image contains a toy gun and they will have an officer out today or tomorrow. I just pointlessly wish they could do something more in the meantime like pass it to cyber team (or whatever it’s called in real life!) given they have the screen shots and someone in the right team could presumably talk to a real person in Vinted 🤷‍♀️

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RedHotMess · 29/11/2025 21:54

DevilsIvyy · 29/11/2025 21:53

How many more times is the French article going to be posted? 🙄

Probably at least as many as '999! Now!'

DevilsIvyy · 29/11/2025 21:53

How many more times is the French article going to be posted? 🙄

Therealjudgejudy · 29/11/2025 21:47

Sending a hug op x

ellschs · 29/11/2025 21:45

1willgetthere · 29/11/2025 20:23

I dont understand all the posters saying call 999. Thats for emergency response, the person messaging op may be 100s of miles away and likely just words. 999 is for when there is someone trying to break in, not for coming to take a statement and then investigate who the person is.

I mean they made a direct threat to her and her children referencing violence and a weapon and saying they know her address, plus multiple people either in the police force/formerly in the police or affiliated with them have confirmed 999 is appropriate so it’s perhaps your outlook that needs adjusting

ellschs · 29/11/2025 21:41

Reasonswhy · 29/11/2025 19:38

Update:
Still waiting for the police, it’s a city and it’s Saturday night so will be very busy with emergency calls.
Just got this through on vinted from a different account so they’ve clearly set that up and are still trying to scare me. This is scaring me now as they’re not just leaving it, and mentions of my kids and mum are too far. Have blacked out my address but oddly it’s 95% correct but not completely. Close enough to be too close for my comfort.

I would phone 999 back for this honestly, he’s making even more direct threats and threatening that he has your address while circumventing the ban :( I worry it would get pushed as less urgent than emergent/acute situations that happen tonight, but think you really need someone to come round given he’s doubled down on it and tried to find you elsewhere!

Newsenmum · 29/11/2025 21:40

Im hoping op is speaking to someone about jt all now.