To ask if I look frumpy

There you go OP, might be helpful.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/style_and_beauty/5334174-my-clothes-are-aging-me-please-help

You have boobs. Try v neck tops and jumpers.

The skirt is fine.

Wrap tops can work, or layering - so a loose vest top under a cardigan maybe?

https://www.instagram.com/p/COdea_4Hd9F/?img_index=2&igsh=MXVmOGdncTdtNG94eQ==

The difference between a badly fitting bra and a bra that fits.

It's not a good look, sorry, but you did ask.
Frumpy, yes. Also unflattering and a bit scruffy.

I get what you're saying about being self conscious about the belly area (I'm 51 and feel the same - slim most of my life and now caring an extra stone- thanks hormones - and it all seems to be on my waist/abdomen.)

I think you can do a lot better and look lovely. It's hard to know exactly what to suggest as we all have different shapes and styles preferences. Could you go and see a personal shopper as a one off, to get a re set? I'm thinking of this myself.

Long shirt dresses work for me (or smart wide leg trousers with a fitted shirt - big belts also help to give the illusion of a defined waist) but recently I realised it's all I seem to wear when I want to look "nice" so thinking of personal shopper myself as I feel like i have one "uniform" at the moment.

I mean, I’m no fashion queen! Today I’m wearing combats and biker boots and a leather jacket 🤣

But if you like those types of items, why not dig around the shops and see what you can find that have that vibe but might in a more modern length, for example?

Both the skirt and jumper look to me to be about 2 or 3 decades old. You can have a similar look but have it be contemporary.

no! I’m 69 and don’t wear combinations like that as yea I think it’s frumpy.

I quite like the jumper and it's colour looks as if it would work with your colouring. I think the hem needs a re-shape with a steam iron and the sleeves rolled up and might look nice with a shirt underneath.

You have nice boobs and a waist OP - try and make the most of these. Have you got anything v-neck?

This outfit isn’t great, sorry OP.

I would bin the jumper.

Ia the skirt stretchy so you can pull it up and make it a bit shorter?

The tights need to be swapped for 15 denier in black or preferabley brown as that’s a softer colour.

Why did you put this outfit on? Are you going somewhere in particular or just hanging around at home? If just at home / running errands etc Im older than you and I wear gym leggings and an oversized hoody.

I also have good legs but a belly I’m trying to hide!

Have you looked at co-ords? They’re comfortable and look up to date IMO.

Sorry it does, I am way older than you and would not wear that. The jumper is too long for the skirt and looks as if it has seen better days, fine for slobbing round the house and the sort of thing I fling on if I have a lot of cleaning to do. What colours and styles are you drawn to and what do you enjoy wearing?

That jumper is what is known in my family as a “dog walker”.

Have a look at Melissa Murrell’s YouTube channel. She has great suggestions for dressing all different body shapes, including plenty for ladies carrying a bit of weight around their middle.

It's not to OP, that's why she posted on here for help.
It's possible to be warm and comfortable whilst wanting to look good.

Agree with others OP, colours look drab. There was a great transformation on here not long ago from an OP who got a lot of stuff from Uniqlo, M&S and John Lewis. Trying to jig my memory, I realise you're not looking to buy new stuff.
I'll link if I find it.

Do you feel better now you've made this cuntish comment?

Seriously? That's the least of the problems with that outfit!

I also think you need better underwear as the bra is not supporting your breasts.

They need to be brought up and closer together as that will make you look slimmer. In the photo it looks like your breasts have argued and are trying to move away from each other.

a good pair of knickers will help to streamline your stomach area.

Start with good foundation garments because no matter what you wear I’d you don’t have good fitting underwear all clothes will hang badly on you.

Don’t mix blue and black

Me too!

Yes, that is a frumpy and unflattering outfit. As you want to address that, a few thoughts:

• You write about your consciousness of your belly a lot. Are you taking any steps to address your weight/fitness? As that’s really the foundation for a lot of things.
• There’s an MN Style and Beauty board that is a really great place to get specific, non-judgmental advice. They’ll even suggest specific items in your price range. Highly recommend.
• I also recommend trawling Insta and finding a fashion influencer who is roughly your age and size, and whose style you like (people on the Style and Beauty board will be able to give you suggestions). They’ll give you a template to work from + inspiration.

Bluntly, no one would look at you in this outfit, even if you were wearing leggings instead of the skirt, and think “oh she has nice legs”. You absolutely do but they’re totally lost in this outfit - the proportions are all off.

A slightly more fitted top half and wide leg or flared jeans/trousers, or an a-line skirt would create a much more balanced look.

@MEGANORKS....ahem. I'm in my 60s and I wouldn't wear that.

I'm afraid so OP. It looks like you don't want people to see you.
The jumper is too damaged, the bottom is loose, just bin it or try to salvage it by tucking it in.
The skirt length and material are unflattering. I think that gal belongs to the bin, I don't see what you could do with that.

Don't think that your age or your figure are a problem though. I see plenty of very cool women, who manage to be stylish, intential, and comfortable, whatever their age or size.

I'd suggest you spend a bit of time collecting styles you like on Pinterest, see what they have in common and work from there.

Exactly!

I don’t think you look pregnant. You look like a fairly average 45 year old woman. A little bit of a mom belly like most of us.
Have you tried any shapewear to help smooth you out and feel more confident?
I agree that bigger clothes don’t actually help. They don’t hide things much they just make you look bigger and more shapeless all round.

I’m 60s and I wouldn’t wear that!