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DH pissed me off before we even landed on holiday

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DarlingJess · 26/09/2025 18:19

DH and I are away for the first time in two years and I’m already wishing I didn’t bother.

He had the aisle seat on the flight over. One of the air stewardesses accidentally brushed against him and said sorry. He says ‘don’t you worry darling, that’s the most action I’ve had in years’ and she awkwardly smiled.

I told him (when she was out of ear shot) that he should not have said that and he basically laughed at me and said something about what man wouldn’t appreciate a nice arse in his face.

So, there has been a bit of an atmosphere since we landed and he’s accusing me of trying to ruin the holiday, which is a bloody cheek as far as I’m concerned!!

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Iris2020 · 10/01/2026 17:48

Deleted - zombie thread

BlushingBrightly · 10/01/2026 17:37

CoastalCalm · 26/09/2025 18:22

I’m certain I’ve read this before

What was it Tolstoy wrote: something like 'happy families are all alike, and there are also a surprising number of similarly twatty men around'. I think that was it.

fataroundthemiddle · 10/01/2026 17:36

They say dog that barks don’t bite!

Idontjetwashthefucker · 10/01/2026 17:32

MrsTerryPratchett · 10/01/2026 16:50

You woke up a month’s old thread just to talk about decency being woke?

Your algorithm just be yucky.

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Seems to be a habit, this isn't the only zombie thread that's been resurrected

MrsTerryPratchett · 10/01/2026 16:50

Granddama · 10/01/2026 15:41

For goodness sake. A cheeky remark and the world yells sexist. He's a bloke! Perhaps he has a point and your just jealous! I'd have made a joke of it and not pulled the WOKE card. It sounds like the hostess was reacting because you were.

You woke up a month’s old thread just to talk about decency being woke?

Your algorithm just be yucky.

SandrenaIsMyBloodType · 10/01/2026 16:10

I don’t find it the least bit surprising that multiple women have posted similar threads. Creepy middle-aged man humour is pretty ubiquitous. They reach a certain point in life where they feel entitled to do it and they have no idea how pathetic it makes them look.
DD1 had a job during Covid where she had to take temperatures of people entering the venue by pointing a gun-style thermometer at people’s foreheads. She was 21. It was deathly boring so she used to keep a tally of just how many lame-arse men old enough to be her father made a stupid variation of a “Am I hot enough for you love?” joke. And in the over 40s, it was the vast majority of them and more likely to happen if they had a wife and family with them. 🤮

Wildflowerwonder · 10/01/2026 15:46

Granddama · 10/01/2026 15:41

For goodness sake. A cheeky remark and the world yells sexist. He's a bloke! Perhaps he has a point and your just jealous! I'd have made a joke of it and not pulled the WOKE card. It sounds like the hostess was reacting because you were.

He’s a disgusting sleazy twat. Jeez! Show yourself some respect and recognise him for what he is. Expect better from the men in your life. Do you not think you’re worth it?

Granddama · 10/01/2026 15:41

For goodness sake. A cheeky remark and the world yells sexist. He's a bloke! Perhaps he has a point and your just jealous! I'd have made a joke of it and not pulled the WOKE card. It sounds like the hostess was reacting because you were.

Imbusytodaysorry · 26/09/2025 21:23

DarlingJess · 26/09/2025 18:24

Well it certainly wasn’t myself. He has managed to behave on past holidays!

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@DarlingJess Why is he doing it now ? Are you not sleeping together? Are you going through a rough patch ? Have you never seen him behave like a pig before , no other signs ?

Yamamm · 26/09/2025 20:59

Feels like there’s a trend of people finding (probably made up) threads on other forums and adding a bit more story and spamming Mumsnet.
This forum feels really fake these days. Have been on here almost since the beginning and it’s full of rubbish now. The internet will destroy itself and all that.

TheatricalLife · 26/09/2025 20:53

🤮
That's likely to the last action he'll see ever with that repulsive behaviour. What on earth do men think when they say stuff like that to women? That we find it funny or sexy? It reeks of dirty old perv.

MagicLoop · 26/09/2025 20:50

He's a pig. And he didn't suddenly turn into a pig on this flight. So the question is, why are you married to a pig?

Userengage · 26/09/2025 20:48

Another creepy, pervy pig on a plane.

Bobiverse · 26/09/2025 20:44

Someone posted this exact thing a few weeks ago.

Edit: Ah, it was a little different. Seems there a lot of mumsnetter husbands being perverts on planes.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5391378-comment-to-air-hostess

canchewcashew · 26/09/2025 20:41

Yeah, definitely feels familiar. I'm feeling a bit Hmm, but maybe air travel brings out the 'dirty old man' in some men. As a pp said, I can't believe this kind of behaviour comes as a surprise. People don't just suddenly become pervy as soon as they board a plane.

SevenKingsMustDie · 26/09/2025 20:24

CoastalCalm · 26/09/2025 18:22

I’m certain I’ve read this before

That was my first thought when I read OP’s post…

MrsTerryPratchett · 26/09/2025 20:22

He’s a pig and I bet he didn’t magically turn into one.

Have a lovely holiday alone as much as you can, break up when you get back.

But you probably won’t because he’s probably always been a bit like this.

TheFairyCaravan · 26/09/2025 20:20

CoastalCalm · 26/09/2025 18:22

I’m certain I’ve read this before

I definitely have. I even checked the date of the OP to see if it was a zombie thread.

GlastoNinja · 26/09/2025 20:09

CoastalCalm · 26/09/2025 18:22

I’m certain I’ve read this before

Me too

flippyflopss · 26/09/2025 20:03

Defo read this before but a tad different.

SafeSex · 26/09/2025 20:02

DarlingJess · 26/09/2025 18:24

Well it certainly wasn’t myself. He has managed to behave on past holidays!

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The word you're searching for is "me".

But I agree YANBU and your husband is a pig.

Pomegranatecarnage · 26/09/2025 19:45

CoastalCalm · 26/09/2025 18:22

I’m certain I’ve read this before

The last one was slightly different but involved the husband asking a member of the cabin crew if she was included in some sort of deal.

ShanghaiDiva · 26/09/2025 19:42

CoastalCalm · 26/09/2025 18:22

I’m certain I’ve read this before

Me too.

Pollqueen · 26/09/2025 19:42

Yes he's a bit of a knob but if it were me, I wouldn't let a twatish comment ruin my holiday.

Just flirt outrageously with the resort staff then he may get it

Wishimaywishimight · 26/09/2025 19:41

CoastalCalm · 26/09/2025 18:22

I’m certain I’ve read this before

Definitely - me too! Can there be more than 1 of these neanderthals around??

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