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Repeating himself during sex!

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Dellicious · 04/08/2025 08:04

I have a new man. He’s lovely. We have had sex three times now, and that’s been lovely too apart from the fact that he keeps saying the same thing over and over again as we DtD!

He keeps saying (sorry if this is TMI but the whole thing is, and if you’ve got this far…) ‘My dick feels good’. Must have said it literally 50 times each time. It’s almost like a nervous tic. It’s often barely audible, but sometimes it’s normal volume. We’ll be doing it and he’ll say it, and it’s almost like he’s saying it to himself or doesn’t even realise it!

Always that exact phrase. Maybe with an ‘Oh’ or a ‘Yeah’ involved beforehand.

I haven’t mentioned it. It’s not overly problematic and I don’t want him to feel embarrassed. It’s just odd (to me). Obviously I’m pleased his dick feels good! But I don’t need to be repeatedly told.

I feel like I might need to say something, but how can I do this sensitively?? Maybe I should start repeating a phrase of my own, over and over. ‘Have I left the oven on…?’ I really don’t know.

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FigTreeInEurope · 04/08/2025 09:16

It's a bit emotionally immature. Talking about how amazing it feels, how gorgeous you are, "God, I'm loving this..." It's not hard to mix it up a bit, unless he's very stunted in his ability to express himself. I think I'd struggle not to see him as a bit absent of appropriateness. Reply each time with "makes my minge twinge".. See if he gets the message.

ReadingSoManyThreads · 04/08/2025 09:15

‘My dick felt good’!

Next time reply - "oh really? I hadn't heard", or "no shit, you said it enough times". Or "I'm glad, now you don't need to tell me a hundred times next time!"

anyolddinosaur · 04/08/2025 09:15

Rhythmic repetition would reminder me of the joke about the elderly grandfather and the ice cream van.

I think you are going to have to tell him and suggest a few other ways he can say it's good.

weareallcats · 04/08/2025 09:14

Severe ick.

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Dellicious · 04/08/2025 09:11

Agapornis · 04/08/2025 09:02

Dare I ask... Is the point of climax:
My dick feels good, grunt, my dick feels good, grunt, my dick feels goooood.

I couldn't not giggle.

Oh! This reminds me that i haven’t mentioned the best/worst bit!

No - he makes no different a sound at climax than beforehand. Just louder, with a grunt or two. If he hadn’t been saying the exact same thing dozens of times previously, his orgasm sound would be well within the bounds of normal.

But then, ha! The only change comes immediately afterwards when he says ‘My dick felt good’! Moved it to the past tense!

That’s made me laugh thinking about it.

I just wish he’d use a wider vocabulary! Cock. Even ‘it’ or ‘that’.

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Dangermoo · 04/08/2025 09:06

Dellicious · 04/08/2025 09:02

I did actually have this once. He didn’t do it all the time but on occasion he would refer to that. At the time my DS was about 6 and would often use the same word to describe his own. Suffice to say that the similarity in language was enough to make the relationship a brief one (the relationship with the man, not my DS! That relationship continues to this day!).

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🤢 😆

EmeraldShamrock000 · 04/08/2025 09:05

Have the conversation after the next session, just ask, why? 😅

lazyarse123 · 04/08/2025 09:04

Overnightfloats · 04/08/2025 08:09

Sorry, this is not helpful. I have a dreadful work day ahead of me and this has distracted me from my misery, so thank you for sharing. Could you try to mirror him back with your own catch phrase and see how that goes? “Ceiling needs painting” would be mine…

A bit off topic but this reminds me of an occasion when dh and I were dtd in the living room not long after dh had tiled the fireplace and I blurted out "oh I didn't know you tiled underneath the mantelpiece" . Apparently that's a bit of a mood killer 😂😂.
Sorry no useful advice.

Agapornis · 04/08/2025 09:02

Dare I ask... Is the point of climax:
My dick feels good, grunt, my dick feels good, grunt, my dick feels goooood.

I couldn't not giggle.

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Dellicious · 04/08/2025 09:02

Dangermoo · 04/08/2025 09:00

It could be worse though - he could be calling it his willy. 👋

I did actually have this once. He didn’t do it all the time but on occasion he would refer to that. At the time my DS was about 6 and would often use the same word to describe his own. Suffice to say that the similarity in language was enough to make the relationship a brief one (the relationship with the man, not my DS! That relationship continues to this day!).

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Dangermoo · 04/08/2025 09:00

It could be worse though - he could be calling it his willy. 👋

Dangermoo · 04/08/2025 08:57

Missedthis · 04/08/2025 08:08

Can I suggest this, and the preceding, thread OP?

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5383729-please-tell-me-times-where-youve-got-the-ick-with-a-guy

😆 🤣 😂 was going to suggest the same! He would be gone - down the road muttering 😆 🤣

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Dellicious · 04/08/2025 08:51

PurpleChrayn · 04/08/2025 08:49

In what universe would this be preferable to just asking him to stop??

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In the universe where people make lighthearted remarks that aren’t meant to be taken seriously?

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Dellicious · 04/08/2025 08:51

anyolddinosaur · 04/08/2025 08:43

Some of the suggested comments, while funny, would suggest you were not totally engaged, while he is at least saying he is enjoying himself.

Maybe he just doesnt know how to talk about sex and you need to teach him some new phrases. Maybe he does want you to say something back, perhaps agreeing with him that it feels good to you also? Could be fishing for compliments?

I think I am engaged. I don’t mind talking during sex at all. I think it’s a good thing. I have no issue saying or hearing things. It’s just the repeating of that one single phrase that’s the issue. If he mixed it up a bit then it would be fine! Even when he’s coming it’s the same, just a bit more forceful and accompanied by a bit of a grunt.

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PurpleChrayn · 04/08/2025 08:49

Overnightfloats · 04/08/2025 08:09

Sorry, this is not helpful. I have a dreadful work day ahead of me and this has distracted me from my misery, so thank you for sharing. Could you try to mirror him back with your own catch phrase and see how that goes? “Ceiling needs painting” would be mine…

In what universe would this be preferable to just asking him to stop??

NancyJoan · 04/08/2025 08:47

Please say ‘Have I left the oven on?’. Please.

BlueHatOnAGoose · 04/08/2025 08:46

"Could you stop saying that, its putting me off"

Job done.

BunnyRuddington · 04/08/2025 08:45

Mochudubh · 04/08/2025 08:24

Next time say "So does mine". That'll give him pause.

Grin
ReadingSoManyThreads · 04/08/2025 08:44

Mochudubh · 04/08/2025 08:24

Next time say "So does mine". That'll give him pause.

I'm howling 😂😂😂

anyolddinosaur · 04/08/2025 08:43

Some of the suggested comments, while funny, would suggest you were not totally engaged, while he is at least saying he is enjoying himself.

Maybe he just doesnt know how to talk about sex and you need to teach him some new phrases. Maybe he does want you to say something back, perhaps agreeing with him that it feels good to you also? Could be fishing for compliments?

Didimum · 04/08/2025 08:42

Maybe I should start repeating a phrase of my own, over and over. ‘Have I left the oven on…?’ I really don’t know.

😂😂😂

Seriously though, OP, there’s no need to ‘get the ick’ on behalf of others here if you like the guy. It seems like you are mildly perplexed and concerned if ongoing it will continue to be off putting.

Understandably it’s early days but you can’t have a meaningful relationship with someone if you can’t have a conversation with them and they aren’t the right person for you if they respond negatively to something you’ve brought up tactfully. So bring it up tactfully.

Fiery30 · 04/08/2025 08:26

Perhaps he is enjoying himself too much in the moment, so he doesn't realise how many times he is saying it. Everyone has different forms of expression- whether it is moans or saying specific words/phrases. Bring it up casually and say, it seems like you really enjoyed it by the number of times you said X. Make it lighthearted, so it's not embarrassing for either one of you. If you don't want him to say it that often, you will have to say at some point.

Silvertulips · 04/08/2025 08:25

It doesn’t sound conceited. He’s not telling OP it feels good for her, he is letting her know that he’s enjoying it

How did you get that??

It gives me the ICK thinking about it!

It’s like talking over a film! Rude and unnecessary!!

Mochudubh · 04/08/2025 08:24

Next time say "So does mine". That'll give him pause.

Thelonelydonkey · 04/08/2025 08:23

I wonder if any of his previous partners are on here............