DP wants to end relationship over misunderstanding with waitress

I am entitled to respond to the original post without reading updates

No, it's ignorant HTH.

As others have said this isn't something that should have escalated and is toxic masculinity at its finest. You and me baby against the rest of the world etc. 😕 just not healthy cut and run sounds like u deserve better. If there are no kids involved I would run for the hills.

Spoke to her like what? The OP doesn’t say how he spoke to her… she said “DP was adamant he had ordered his meal without mushrooms, yet his food had arrived containing them. A bit of a back and forth started between him and the waitress, who was saying DP definitely didn't ask for no mushrooms.”

She said she doesn’t remember.

So if he did ask for no mushrooms…. Then he has every right to say so. It doesn’t say he was rude. It says they had a back and forth. The OP admits she doesn’t like confrontation, so any type of disagreement makes her uncomfortable. Most people are just jumping to the conclusion that he was rude. If I was adamant I had asked for something specific in my order, then I will absolutely stand my ground. 🤷🏻‍♀️

my response is to the original post, and the information that I was given. I’m not going to fill in the imaginary blanks.

I've been with my husband for 14 years.

If he spoke to a waitress like that, not only would I not back him, I would get up and leave him in the restaurant.

He wouldn't though, because he's not an arsehole, and if he were, we wouldn't have been together for 14 years.

So stop elaborating and insinuating I’m saying stay with an abusive arsehole.

That’s a wild take considering you insinuated - no, actually, outright said - that everyone saying he was a twat is clearly single.

Doubling down on being wrong is such a mushroom hater thing to do.

I’m an autonomous being, and I’m not going to lie just because some arsehole man wants me to.

I've read all of your comments OP and this man is a narcissist and he is emotionally abusing and controlling you. PLEASE please find the strength to end it with him immediately, if not for your sake then for your daughters....imagine how damaging a man like that could be to a young girl.

I am entitled to respond to the original post without reading updates, just like many others. And in this case, I stand by what I said. And it doesn’t need to be exaggerated into him needing her to lie for him. Wise up like. There is always going to be a time in your relationship when you don’t agree with your DH/DP but you back them anyway, especially in public or with family friends, etc!…… and then you talk about it with them after! But you should always show a united front. We are all capable of letting ourselves down at times, and we don’t need a partner to jump on top of that. Like I said, tell him after he was a prick.

If he’s abusive and horrible then she should absolutely leave him, that’s a no brainer. So stop elaborating and insinuating I’m saying stay with an abusive arsehole. Victim mentality on here is wild. 🤪

@Butterfly75756 your fuckwit DP has found your thread…

You should end it with him instead. Sound like a troubled gentleman who will only get worse at time goes by. Smh

Oh look. The soon to be ex DP has posted.

I am.

It’s with someone who respects me and doesn’t expect me to be a liar for them. He doesn’t admonish me for what I wear or how I do my hair. He doesn’t ask for my help then criticise how I do it. He doesn’t threaten to leave me over an argument. He doesn’t worry more about being embarrassed in public than me being in tears.

Loyalty test? What a pathetic idea.

I am with someone who doesn’t except me to compromise my principles to bolster their fragile ego.

Also, if you can’t be bothered RTFT, at least read the OPs updates. He’s an abusive man-child.

This!

Run for your life lady! This man is no good!

He sounds like a grade A bellend. Please don’t waste any more time on this sulky, rude man child

You should have absolutely backed him, even if you didn’t remember. I would feel the same way as him. I would tell him after you didn’t have to be such a prick over it. But you failed in loyalty. I wouldn’t dream of doing that to my husband. He likely would have felt annoyed at himself after too. But that is awful saying I don’t remember. 😳 the waitress should never have argued back in the first place and dealt with it immediately. He had every right to get annoyed by the situation, and you made it so much worse. Anyone else on here validating your feelings and saying he was in the wrong…. Are likely not in long term solid relationships!!

How did you manage not to laugh at him. He’s pathetic.

Actually, it sounds like he is an emotionally and mentally abusive twat waffle. I bet when she dumps/dumped his sorry, worthless ass, he will try/tried to talk himself back into her good graces. Because he needs someone to abuse, as men like him are wont to do.

ITA!💯
I bet he would walk away as soon as she started. People like her, HOPEFULLY now ex, love to dish it out but cannot take it because, in their small, pathetic little minds, they are perfect.

@Butterfly75756 I hope you are doing okay and enjoying the weekend. I am sorry that you had to put up with so much shit from that twat waffle. Hopefully, you are enjoying the peace of not being put down and diminished. You deserve so much better. Best wishes!

@Jalopy77 You've linked the thread to itself. Oops

That's the link the this thread, am I missing something?

Eerily similar indeed.

The link is to this thread

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5293015-dp-wants-to-end-relationship-over-misunderstanding-with-waitress

Please tell me this isn't your husband? 😕They sound eerily similar.

I like mushrooms and would happily take you out for dinner and eat them and prove not all men are arseholes, and show you how real men act when taking out their lady