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Would you be grossed out by homemade baked good in care package?

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BusyTraybake · 07/03/2025 15:35

I am helping my sister put together care packages for her wedding. She is paying for the wedding party to stay in a posh hotel for a few nights. We are going to leave little care packages on the bed. I have an exceptional brownie recipe and was going to leave a trio of favours in the box. But sister’s SIL says she would never eat a homemade treat due to hygiene reasons.

obviously I will be clinically clean and wil even wear a hair net as I couldn’t think of anything worse than someone finding a hair.

Who is being weird?

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TortolaParadise · 07/03/2025 17:04

I would not be grossed out but I would re-gift it without anyone knowing.

Thepeopleversuswork · 07/03/2025 17:03

@PrimitivePerson

The prevailing view on MN is that every single other human being in the world is irredeemably filthy and contaminated with every disease it's possible to contract. Even touching something they once touched might kill you

See also:

  • people who are outraged at the prospect of other people wearing "outdoor clothes" while sitting or lying on their own bed
  • people who have to put a towel on the bed before sex or change the sheets within seconds of finishing
  • people who insist that guests wash their hands on entry to the home and make them remove their shoes

It makes me wonder how people actually cope with day to day life with the hysterical levels of germ phobia.

shprinkle · 07/03/2025 17:03

I’d eat them.

Also here for the recipe please!

BetterWithPockets · 07/03/2025 17:03

diddl · 07/03/2025 16:38

Brownie you say?

Exceptional you say?

I'd have scoffed that before any thought of who made what where had occurred to me.

Would you care to share the recipe?

Ha! Me too…

ThreeMagicNumber · 07/03/2025 17:03

Breadcat24 · 07/03/2025 16:49

OK then - ecology aside matching pyjama s for getting ready is just cringe. There you made me say it

Well luckily for you, you're not part of the wedding party and aren't expected to wear them.

GreenCandleWax · 07/03/2025 17:02

The church I go to has endless events where there are home-made cakes. Everyone contributes one. Its almost in the DNA of the congregation. I have never once thought to question how safe they are, and they are always lovely. Your idea is great OP. As someone said, if you label it with info about nuts gluten etc. guests can decide for themselves. I'd bet they'll all get eaten.

ClaudiaWrinklemum · 07/03/2025 17:02

I’d eat it. And I can guarantee most the people on here saying they wouldn’t would scoff the buggery out of any cake they found in their hotel room after a load of wedding wines.

Bleekers · 07/03/2025 17:01

It’s her wedding & she can be a food snob if she wants! Don’t bother wasting your time.

This past summer I had “treats” brought from Greece at a wedding. Lord knows where those were made. I didn’t ask, I ate - eating is voluntary.

Theres loads of cute presentation boxes, bags, stickers from labels & ingredients…. I would not bother for her, she made her wishes known. She can put Oreos in.

Fagli · 07/03/2025 17:01

BusyTraybake · 07/03/2025 16:59

It’s not that unusual. I have done the matching pj thing twice for friends’ weddings. It’s nice to have something to wear when you are getting make up done/photos taken.

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Sorry I’m sure your guests will love it, I’ve just never seen it or been to that sort of wedding.

PrimitivePerson · 07/03/2025 17:01

gannett · 07/03/2025 16:58

Don't forget airborne diseases. Anything that's been in the same space as another human being has been fouled forever.

I will never forget that thread about someone whose husband farted in the kitchen. One of the most batshit 20 pages I have ever laid my eyes on.

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You have to send me a link to that!

Worried861 · 07/03/2025 17:01

crumblingschools · 07/03/2025 16:47

Various members of our family have made wedding cakes for other members of the family. None of us are professional bakers/cooks. What would posters who don’t eat home made cakes do in respect of these wedding cakes?

Oh yeah I've just remembered I made my friends wedding cake! Didn't occur to me people wouldn't want to eat it 😂

BreezySwan · 07/03/2025 17:00

Wow, what do you do about school bake sales? The homemade stuff is the best

Ihopeyouhavent · 07/03/2025 17:00

I dont eat cakes or sweet stuff, but my DH and boys would smash them in!!

I'd eat anything savory to be fair.

FuckoffeeBeforeCoffee · 07/03/2025 17:00

Okay, but what's the brownie recipe?!

prelovedusername · 07/03/2025 17:00

At work people’s birthdays were always celebrated with purchases from the local WI shop. We had no idea who made them and didn’t care.

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BusyTraybake · 07/03/2025 16:59

Fagli · 07/03/2025 16:57

Providing pyjamas 😂!!! I’m sure the people who are going to the wedding might like this as you obviously know them well, but I can’t imagine guessing people’s sizes and none of my family wears PJs so would be a complete waste - are they branded with the date and the couple’s names?!! It does sound very over the top and unsubtle, but each to their own. The packaging and treats look very reality tv/Essex wives etc., but I know how popular those programmes are so I’m sure everyone will enjoy it.

It’s not that unusual. I have done the matching pj thing twice for friends’ weddings. It’s nice to have something to wear when you are getting make up done/photos taken.

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gannett · 07/03/2025 16:58

PrimitivePerson · 07/03/2025 16:54

The prevailing view on MN is that every single other human being in the world is irredeemably filthy and contaminated with every disease it's possible to contract. Even touching something they once touched might kill you.

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Don't forget airborne diseases. Anything that's been in the same space as another human being has been fouled forever.

I will never forget that thread about someone whose husband farted in the kitchen. One of the most batshit 20 pages I have ever laid my eyes on.

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BusyTraybake · 07/03/2025 16:57

Breadcat24 · 07/03/2025 16:49

OK then - ecology aside matching pyjama s for getting ready is just cringe. There you made me say it

Cringe all you like. Opinions are like arseholes. We all have them.

We are girls in our 20s who will be having a laugh with mates whilst drinking champagne, getting our make up done.

Cheers 🥂

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IkeaMeatballGravy · 07/03/2025 16:57

My sister made little iced biscuits for her wedding this year, I ate them knowing her kitchen is clean but there were loads left behind at the end of the day. Thinking about it, at most weddings I have been to people leave favours behind. The only ones that don't get left are alcohol miniatures.

You will be so busy in the days leading up to the wedding, it's not worth the faff and the expense.

diddl · 07/03/2025 16:57

I wonder if the posters who wouldn't eat the brownies also wouldn't eat the wedding cake.

I would have thought that the meal would put you more at risk than baked goods.

Fagli · 07/03/2025 16:57

Providing pyjamas 😂!!! I’m sure the people who are going to the wedding might like this as you obviously know them well, but I can’t imagine guessing people’s sizes and none of my family wears PJs so would be a complete waste - are they branded with the date and the couple’s names?!! It does sound very over the top and unsubtle, but each to their own. The packaging and treats look very reality tv/Essex wives etc., but I know how popular those programmes are so I’m sure everyone will enjoy it.

Whatabouterry · 07/03/2025 16:56

I’d love it! I’d think it was a really thoughtful and kind idea.

2Rebecca · 07/03/2025 16:56

Buying unsolicited clothes for other people is rarely a good idea and can be wasteful. The matchy matchy thing sounds naff. Buy them a nice piece of jewellery or a bottle of champagne each. it sounds an OTT wedding.

PrimitivePerson · 07/03/2025 16:56

The most recent homemade food I had was some samosas one of my colleagues made. Absolutely delicious, and I'm still here.