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Would you be grossed out by homemade baked good in care package?

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BusyTraybake · 07/03/2025 15:35

I am helping my sister put together care packages for her wedding. She is paying for the wedding party to stay in a posh hotel for a few nights. We are going to leave little care packages on the bed. I have an exceptional brownie recipe and was going to leave a trio of favours in the box. But sister’s SIL says she would never eat a homemade treat due to hygiene reasons.

obviously I will be clinically clean and wil even wear a hair net as I couldn’t think of anything worse than someone finding a hair.

Who is being weird?

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Waterbaby41 · 07/03/2025 17:21

Laughing at how many people wouldn't eat anything home made but are happy to eat food full of process junk that really is no good for anyone. Lovely idea of yours - just tie a label on with any allergen info (nuts,gluten,dairy etc) and have a fabulous day!!

Zone2NorthLondon · 07/03/2025 17:20

BusyTraybake · 07/03/2025 15:35

I am helping my sister put together care packages for her wedding. She is paying for the wedding party to stay in a posh hotel for a few nights. We are going to leave little care packages on the bed. I have an exceptional brownie recipe and was going to leave a trio of favours in the box. But sister’s SIL says she would never eat a homemade treat due to hygiene reasons.

obviously I will be clinically clean and wil even wear a hair net as I couldn’t think of anything worse than someone finding a hair.

Who is being weird?

You’re getting peculiar answers when there are some minging businesses out there. home made doesn’t mean lack of rigour or poor hygiene. I’d be delighted to receive handmade confectionery. It is v thoughtful

BIossomtoes · 07/03/2025 17:19

countrygirl99 · 07/03/2025 17:18

I'd be offering to help out the fussy ones by taking the brownies off their hands.

Me too!

Flomingho · 07/03/2025 17:18

I would only eat home baking made by people I know as I would know whether they are hygienic.

countrygirl99 · 07/03/2025 17:18

I'd be offering to help out the fussy ones by taking the brownies off their hands.

NotVeryFunny · 07/03/2025 17:17

I would love it. I love home baked things. It's a lovely idea and most people won't react like your SIL.

MolkosTeenageAngst · 07/03/2025 17:17

I wouldn’t think twice about eating them. You might get the odd person who won’t want to eat them for hygiene reasons just as you may get the odd person who won’t eat them because they’re on a diet or don’t like the flavour but you can’t guarantee everybody will like everything, I’m sure there’ll be a couple of people who won’t want the chilli pretzels or won’t use the bag too. Presumably it’s not about buying everybody the perfect gift or everything would have to be personalised/ individual, you’re just wanting to give a generic gift that will be vaguely appreciated by all and the majority of people won’t be worried about eating them just because they’re homemade so go for it.

JustMyView13 · 07/03/2025 17:17

Ocularpatdown · 07/03/2025 17:16

In the past I'd have said yes to eating them but after a colleague brought in baking covered in cat hair it's put me off for life.

Ewww MNHQ - we need a vomit emoji reaction button please, thank you.

Roosnoodles · 07/03/2025 17:17

I have a lovely little bakery where I live. Everything is handmade. It’s also really popular. Perhaps we’re all gross round here. I much prefer it. Lovely idea but I wouldn’t bother wasting your time if it’s unappreciated.

Ocularpatdown · 07/03/2025 17:16

In the past I'd have said yes to eating them but after a colleague brought in baking covered in cat hair it's put me off for life.

BusyTraybake · 07/03/2025 17:16

lifeonmars100 · 07/03/2025 17:15

why do they need care packages, are they ill? it is just that I associate that expression with people being unwell or having a tough time. As for the cakes, just make sure they are labelled as being home made and what they contain because people do have allergies

I meant gift package

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JustMyView13 · 07/03/2025 17:16

I suppose it depends who baked it, but I’m not gonna lie and pretend I’m fussy when it comes to cake / baked goods 🤣
And I haven’t died yet!

BusyTraybake · 07/03/2025 17:15

Ingredients
3/4 cup salted butter, cubed 170 grams before browning, 140 grams after
4 ounces semi-sweet chocolate, choppedChocolate chips work, too
1/4 cup vegetable oil 56 mL
3/4 cup cocoa powder 63 grams
3 large eggs, at room temperature
1 large egg yolk, at room temperature
3/4 cup granulated sugar 158 grams
1 and 1/2 cups powdered sugar 174 grams
2 tsp vanilla extract
1/4 tsp salt
1/2 cup all-purpose flour 65 grams
pinch of espresso powder optional
1 cup semi-sweet chocolate chips You can omit this in a pinch, but it does create delightful pockets of melted chocolate in each brownie!

  • Prep: Preheat your oven to 350℉. Spray an8×8 metal pan with nonstick spray and line with parchment paper (this makes for easy removal & slicing later).
  • Note: A 9×9 pan is fine, too. Start with about 6-7 minutes less bake time as the layer of brownie will be thinner.
  • Brown the Butter: Add cubed butter to a medium saucepan over medium heat. Melt the butter, stirring occasionally. Once it's melted, turn the heat to medium-low, and continue cooking the butter, stirring frequently. The butter will get foamy and bubbly, then turn a deep golden shade with a nutty, caramely aroma. (This will take about 3-6 minutes once the butter has melted.)
  • Once the butter is browned, stir in your semi-sweet chocolate until completely melted, then whisk in the vegetable oil and cocoa powder. Set aside to cool slightly.
  • Make the Brownie Batter: In a large mixing bowl, add the eggs, egg yolk, and granulated sugar. Whisk for about 1-2 minutes, until the sugar is fully dissolved. (Feel the mixture between your fingers – if it's completely smooth, you're good! If you feel sugar granules, keep whisking.) Next, whisk in the powdered sugar, vanilla, and salt. Then, check that the chocolate mixture is no longer piping hot (it will be quite warm, though), and whisk it into the bowl of eggs/sugar/. Fold in the flour & espresso powder, then the chocolate chips. The brownie batter won't be very thick.
  • Bake: Pour the batter into your prepared pan, and bake for 29 to 32 minutes. The center will have the slightest wobble when you move the pan, and the outer edges will appear set.

I know it’s hard but leave the brownies overnight. They really do taste so much better the next day. Add hazelnut cream and broken up kinder bueno or Ferrero Rochers for even more decadence

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godmum56 · 07/03/2025 17:15

Its a lovely idea but I don't know you and haven't seen you kitchen or hygiene habits so I wouldn't eat it sorry.

SunnyWarrington · 07/03/2025 17:15

Without getting into the merits of who has the better brownie recipe (obviously, I think I do, but just to be clear, I am joking here) I think this would be a lovely thing to do. When I got married, I made 250 for the later part of the night, and there were none left by the following morning, so most people I know like homemade... I believe one friend did pocket about ten to take back to his hotel for a 4am snack!
If the budget allows, you could get some of those mini cake-boxes with a window in them, and make up some stickers with "Busy Traybakes" on them - and I'm not just referencing your username here, I do actually mean to write Busy Traybakes likes it's a professional company. Unless the guests are on here reading this, most won't look past the company name - set up an Insta page, you might even get repeat orders!

lifeonmars100 · 07/03/2025 17:15

why do they need care packages, are they ill? it is just that I associate that expression with people being unwell or having a tough time. As for the cakes, just make sure they are labelled as being home made and what they contain because people do have allergies

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 07/03/2025 17:13

Do people literally throw away home-food in the bin rather than give it to someone else who will eat it? That sort of food waste would bother me far more than any hygiene issues. No need for lies either.

WonderingAboutThus · 07/03/2025 17:13

It wouldn't occur to me not to eat it, and love it.

Tormundsbeard · 07/03/2025 17:12

Bake sales at school and at the office…. All feature homemade cakes and biscuits that everyone eats and are absolutely fine afterwards.

what are people talking about??

Poonu · 07/03/2025 17:10

I wouldn't eat it but wouldn't want to hurt anyone's feelings so might lie and say they were delicious and bin them.
I don't think I would be alone in this behavior.

theJackofHearts · 07/03/2025 17:10

I wouldn't even think about it

BIossomtoes · 07/03/2025 17:09

When I think of all the things of unknown origin I’ve eaten in 70 years I wouldn’t think twice. It’s unbelievable that people are this precious.

Yellowbananasarebetterthangreen · 07/03/2025 17:09

I would without any worries at all.
All the people on this thread commenting that they wouldnt - presumably you are happy to eat shop bought cakes etc - dont be kidding yourself they are better 1) they'll usually be full of additives, preservatives, weird ingredients its better not to eat 2) just as likely to potentially not be made in hygienic conditions. Ive encounted eg a tooth in a sweet. And a bit of jewellery in a tin of sweetcorn!

Home made stuff will be freshly made with nothing but ingredients readily available made in shops and will be lovingly made with care. Healthier and nicer by far.

PrimitivePerson · 07/03/2025 17:07

gannett · 07/03/2025 17:02

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5238134-d-p-farting-while-hes-prepping-food

Enjoy. The funny thing is I just google searched it and it's not even the only one on this site.

"Presumably he isn't pointing his bum directly at the food?"

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!

newnamesix · 07/03/2025 17:07

I think the care packages (or whatever people want to call them) sound lovely - fun and thoughtful. I would absolutely eat the brownies and anyone who doesn't want to can pass them on.

The only time I can recall not eating something from a hygiene perspective was at a lovely little French cafe in south ken. The hipster guy behind the counter kept scratching his head and his exposed midriff while making my sandwich, which was pretty gross.

My motto is, if I don't see it, I assume it's fine and I'm never ever ever ill. I've probably even unknowingly ingested some cat hair and toddler snot in my lifetime.