Welp i yelled so angerly at my 6 year old yesterday

I can see you didn't watch any cartoons as a child or as an adult, it's ok though. Would you like me to recommend one to you? Or are you too emotionally intelligent to stoop to my level? Actually, you already proved you aren't, so I'll just recommend it anyway. Watch "the simpsons" (older episodes though) might help you understand my use of k instead of c

I think you’ll find that there’s very few ‘balls’ to be found on Mumsnet, so if you are the owner of a pair I suspect they win by default.

I believe that poster is referring to Krusty the Clown from The Simpsons. So Krusty makes sense (though not as an insult particularly) but not Klown, as they spell that the usual way.

Ok mate!

It truly has improved. I am realising there are all sorts of human beings on MN and your balls has to be bigger than theirs if you want to survive the keyboard warriors.

It's spelt with a C.

Again, maybe if you hadn't called my opinion such rubbish, we wouldn't be here right now. For every action, there is a reaction. Make sure to add that to your parental lessons

You can be boundaried and have strict rules without shouting swear words. Being calm doesn’t equate with being a walk over. Better she learns about the relative natural consequences of poor behaviour, developing understanding/reflection skills will best help with the transition into adulthood.

A better more relevant punishment would be getting her to clean up the mess and pay/collect a replacement.

All these ‘natural consequences only’ 🙄
Sure, swearing is worth apologising for but doing something that they know is naughty - sorry but anger IS a ‘natural consequence’ and it’s actually vital that kids learn this within the safety of their family, and not have to wait until they piss someone else off and have zero coping mechanisms at all.

I will do that, as soon as I decode whatever it is you said means. Hope your day improves from here 🙂.

Sorry, i like being predictable. Find your own source of joy elsewhere

Same reason krusty is spelt with a k

Potato potatoe, rubbish is even worse

How are you demonstrating, "I can live with the fact that others aren't going to have the same opinions as myself", when you literally name called me and belittled me for having an opinion based upon experience you don't agree with?

Oh, and Google is an excellent resource for synonyms @Quiinkong . Instead of repeating ‘emotional intelligence’, which is starting to lose all meaning, perhaps try ‘alternative perspectives’, ‘lack of empathy’, ‘not showing awareness of differentials in social factors’. It adds flavour to what you’re saying without seeming you are just out to insult people.

Why do you spell clown and crusty with a K?

I thought I wrote, 'rubbish' why are you quoting 'such nonsense' when I didn't post that.

You seem very angry, I kindly advise if you carry on calling people ‘loony’ and ‘klowns’ (??), MN will have you on a naughty step for posting privileges.

And here you are again, trying to convince others with your high emotional intelligence that your opinion is the only correct one. You're just here showing yourself up and not really a great example as a parent either. You need to listen to what others are saying. Not all upbringings are the same or are you too emotionally intelligent to realise that? I can live with the fact that others aren't going to have the same opinions as myself because that's what makes us humans but it seems you're still far out there

And here comes the backup singers. If she had the emotional intelligence to not label my opinion as "such nonsense" while giving her so called individual perspective, what you've just said might just make some sense but since you're in the klown squad yourself, I'm not surprised at your response.

It sounds like you learnt your poor parenting skills from your own mum OP. You dd is crying out for attention to the extent that even bad attention is better than nothing.

You need to start putting some effort into parenting her, teens don't go off the rails because they haven't been shouted at enough, it's because parents haven't bothered to put the effort in that children need. Children need their parents time and attention, if you'd had good parents you'd know that.

I understand that you've got a lot on your plate being a single parent but somethings got to give, and at the moment it's your child's behaviour.

My, then, 5 yo was very destructive at one point. Think watering the sofa, that sort of thing. She's bright, knows right from wrong and I just could not work it out. I punished the behaviour, it continued.

I asked her why, and basically she was acting out because I wasn't giving her what she needed. I was grieving for my mum and I didn't realise I had closed off from her.

I bet she wants to connect with you. So, do so. BUT don't beat yourself up, some of the posters on here are out of order. I shouted too, and issued ridiculous age-inappropriate consequences. She went off the rails for a bit at 14 but is now a happy, healthy adult and we have a great relationship. We all make mistakes, it's what you do with the afterwards that counts.

Losing your shit as a mum I'm sure a lot of people have been there. What's done is done. All you can do now is just give her a hug say you are really sorry you shouted but you were so cross at all the mess she made with the powder and that she can't do anything like it again. Stick with the no screen time as you've put it in place. Just try keep that kind of things way out her reach Ilin future. Kids are hard work at times and when they are not sleeping and misbehaving as well it can be difficult