Girl pulled dd’s pants down

I wouldn't be happy with that response. I would ask what measures they have in place already and what else they'll be putting in place as a result of this incident. They should be liaising with the girl's parents rather than "hoping" you've managed to do it

Definitely speak to the head this should be treated as a safeguarding issue and a if they're using clubs that aren't dealing with it appropriately they need to know.

Ensure training is up to date.
Talking to children about inappropriate behaviour.
Not dismiss it as something the parent is to sort out and actually deal with it as a club

I am shocked at the responses. This is not acceptable. The girl's parents should be doing more than making her apologise.

If you let his go your daughter will think this is acceptable. Well done for taking this seriously.

If it had been a boy the replies would be so different.

Not good enough. I would be replying again asking about their safeguarding training.

But realistically, what do you think will happen. Obviously it’s horrible, however it can’t be undone so making the organisation aware and getting an apology seems like the appropriate next steps.

This happened to my child at school nursery. It was taken very seriously, safeguarding, social services etc plus things put in place at the nursery.

And it's crap. If helps dc feel comfortable leggings with tie waist may make her feel confident that it can't happen again. And no you shouldn't have to do this but crap happens and hopefully other child will be properly spoken with.

If I was sports instructor I'd be giving the parents a warning that any other incidents then child cannot attend. I would expect the school to give the year group a general talk on the pants rule etc

And kid could have learnd it from older siblings or you tube etc.
Called pantsing back on my day and I'm old

Totally unacceptable. Very surprised other children didn't comment and raise the sports instructors attention to it.

wtf!
a young girl has been forcibly exposed to a bunch of boys. At 7 almost all children have a sense a shame and embarrassment…

this will stay with her for life and that’s not an exaggeration…I was made to strip wash on a camping site by my dad age 7, he being a bloke didn’t see the issue, and probably thought it safer than sending a 7 year girl unaccompanied to women’s communal washrooms where I might not wash properly 😳🙄. I’m 60 and have never forgotten the experience. and my dad didn’t set out to do this to humiliate me

the girl in question does need to be spoken to by adults. This isn’t normal. It isn’t acceptable. Frankly the apology will be forced and re-shame the girl she did it to possibly. There needs to be consequences for something so disturbingly deliberate. I’m not saying this needs police etc, but if parents don’t react with horror their daughter has done this, I would take it further to whoever was organising event and get girl banned/suspended until she understands implications of what she’s done.

Sadly this could be a red flag that the girl is acting out behaviour from home and she is being abused - so absolutely tell the school safeguarding team.

Go on then, what do you suggest?

I would be surprised if the Head is dismissive. I would expect them to treat it as a safeguarding issue. I would imagine the schools safeguarding policy and behaviour policy will be available to view on the schools website. Have a little read beforehand. Forearmed is forewarned.
She definitely needs to be spoken to because it’s completely inappropriate.

I cannot believe some of the replies here brushing this off as silly behaviour. How utterly humiliating for your DD OP, I hope she’s ok. The girl in question needs a serious talking to, intentional or not she needs to be told that this isn’t acceptable behaviour and likewise the head should be having words with the mother to set expectations.

That's not acceptable at all. Mortifying for your daughter and speaking from experience something she'll never forget especially because it happened in front of boys who saw her privates. Awful. I hope the mother of this child explains properly why this is so bad and gets a real apology for your daughter and that school take it seriously. NSPCC offer schools information on PANTS, privacy information etc. Maybe an assembly would help at school as a reminder to all about privacy and keeping their grubby hands to themselves!

Not read through all the replies, but surely there is a safeguarding issue here? And it should not, in any way, be ‘minimised’ or dismissed.

In effect your child had her genitals publicly exposed against her will - I appreciate it was a 7yo who did it, but this is assault? The girl who did it may have been being silly, but (as a former beaver scout leader, Brownie pack leader and childminder of children ages 5-10) I’ve never encountered this sort of behaviour ever, and would actually refer the family to social services to ensure that there is nothing underlying it and that parenting support was in place.

Re the company/school running the Extra curricular - they need to hold an investigation as to how a the children were left unsupervised such that this was able to happen. And they need to issue a serious apology. It is a major breach of safeguarding and their duty of care to the children in their charge.

As a former shout/brownie leader I would be mortified and, yes, kacking myself over the implications of this event. As a parent I would be screaming from the rooftops.

I honestly can't believe some posters here are minimising this. It is not acceptable in any shape or form or for any reason. I think you're doing the right thing in speaking to the head and I hope that a stern word will be had with this child, since her mother doesn't seem to think it's a big deal. I would hope that the Principal will not think you are overreacting and will take it very seriously. I think perhaps that both the fact that you haven't had a reply from the club and that the child's mum is being somewhat blase about it are making you think the Principal's reaction will be the same. Continue to push the sports club for a response. I feel so bad for your DD. If this had happened to me at her age I would have been absolutely traumatised.

If it's children from the school then I would be mentioning this to the school as well as the club. I think they need to have a talk across the school about private parts being private. There is a good chance the girl who did this was messing around and only intended to pull her friends shorts down, but this is still not appropriate.
If the girls are in the same class it may be worth letting their teacher know and at school staff can keep an eye out as to whether this game is being played by anyone else

Something similar happened to a girl in Dds school. It turned out that the person that did it was being abused herself at home.
Please speak to the school.

The sports club absolutely need to respond. They should be mortified by it. Is it completely separate from the school? If so, find out who's the 'boss' and approach them.

Teacher here. Was this a sports class at school or a club elsewhere? I’d it was a school club, you absolutely must report it to the staff member in charge of safeguarding. Several issues here: how did the supervising teacher not see? Sport is inherently risky so the teacher should have been supervising at all times; if he/she left the group unsupervised, that could be a disciplinary matter. Your daughter has been exposed in front of her peers, most of whom were boys. The culprit may herself be at some risk as this behaviour didn’t come out of the blue, so has someone else done similar to her? The school absolutely has a safeguarding responsibility to all concerned.

If the incident happened in a changing room away from an adult’s eyes, that is different, but still needs to be reported.

if it was a sports club outside school, then it’s nothing to do with school but a reporting to the club.

It is possible that the culprit was being silly and intended to pull down your daughter’s shorts only but unintentionally pulled her pants down too. It’s still wrong of course, but the intent might not be what everyone is assuming. Unfortunately it’s a fairly common practice for boys to pull each other’s shorts down as a ‘joke’ but I’ve never come across a girl doing this before.

Either way, it needs addressing by the school or club concerned, not just by the parent.