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To think it’s unfair that some people get inheritance while others start with nothing?

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ThisCandidCritic · 06/02/2025 14:22

Isn’t inheritance just another way of keeping wealth in the hands of the privileged? AIBU to think we should heavily tax or abolish inheritances altogether?

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Kuretake · 06/02/2025 21:46

The whole point of this thread is whether inheritance should be taxed at 100%. If it is, you will have nothing to leave to your children because that would be unfair. That's what this thread is about.

I thought the thread had moved on a bit. I did say earlier but no reason you should have seen it that I don't support the obviously troll suggestion that inheritance is made illegal or something. I would support moving from income being hugely taxed to a more wealth based regime and would support an increase in inheritance tax as part of that.

I have an IFA so no worries there but thank you.

Tourmalines · 06/02/2025 21:47

jealous much .

Happilyobtuse · 06/02/2025 21:49

ThisCandidCritic · 06/02/2025 14:22

Isn’t inheritance just another way of keeping wealth in the hands of the privileged? AIBU to think we should heavily tax or abolish inheritances altogether?

By that same logic, Isn’t handing money to people who don’t work and have never paid into the system grossly unfair?! But we live in a country where we try to ensure no one is left behind and everyone has the basic minimum.

When we work hard all our lives we do so in the hope that we can help our children have a better life than we had. That is what motivates people to work. Everyone isn’t born with the same intelligence, looks, health, money etc. so life can never be fair. But we can work hard and save to leave the next generation better off.

Say tmrw you create a new app, it makes you a lot of money, would you be happy if we said you have to give it all to the government to decide what to do with it rather than your own children benefit from it?! You might have worked long hours and not had time to spend with your children as you worked on your app. Your children might have made sacrifices by helping to take care of siblings etc while you worked day and night on your app. Your only hope was that atleast you could leave them better off than you were. Now when you finally can cash in and get money for your invention would you be happy to have to hand it all over to the government in tax?! No one would work if that was the case, what would be the point?!

Totallymessed · 06/02/2025 21:49

BIossomtoes · 06/02/2025 21:33

To a degree. We’re also balanced. We both believe we’re only here once and money’s to be enjoyed, not hoarded.

Having money to just enjoy and fritter away is extremely privileged. I'm amazed you don't realise that. You really don't seem to have a clue about life for a significant proportion of the population.

Totallymessed · 06/02/2025 21:53

Anyway, it seems that the main proponents on the thread of abolishing inheritance are all wealthy. I think the term is "champagne socialism."

MasterBeth · 06/02/2025 21:55

GreenYellowBrown · 06/02/2025 14:31

I’d love to know why the recipients of inheritances should pay further tax on money that the giver has already been taxed on? Any thoughts?

Why shouldn't they? There is no principle that says income should only be taxed once. My income is taxed. The purchases I make with that taxed income are taxed. The savings I make from that taxed income are taxed.

I may receive an inheritance of several hundred thousand pounds when my mum does. I have done nothing to deserve it. She will be dead. It is personally reasonable that that windfall should be heavily taxed.

ThinkAboutItTomorrow · 06/02/2025 21:56

You are right OP.

£5.5trillion of wealth (70% of all Uk wealth) is owned by people born before 1964 (30% of the population.

Over the next 30 years this will be inherited by their kids / grandkids.

Overwhelmingly it will go to people who are already fairly well off.

This is the biggest wealth transfer in history and will increase inequality

I know people like to think it's all hard earned but most of it comes from getting lucky on property as prices have gone crazy, and great pensions which grew fast in economic boom times.

SoapySponge · 06/02/2025 21:58

Who the hell are you OP to stop my children getting the benefit of my life savings?

Ilovelurchers · 06/02/2025 22:00

You're absolutely right of course, OP. And anybody who understand what the word "fair" means, and was being honest, would concede this.

And yet, the sample I dipped in to was post after post, attempting to claim it is "fair" that some people get a massive hand out due to who they happen to be born to, whereas others get nothing......

This is a very right wing website. So the answers you are getting don't surprise me.

I can't bring myself to read all the responses, as they will make me furious.

Comedycook · 06/02/2025 22:04

Ilovelurchers · 06/02/2025 22:00

You're absolutely right of course, OP. And anybody who understand what the word "fair" means, and was being honest, would concede this.

And yet, the sample I dipped in to was post after post, attempting to claim it is "fair" that some people get a massive hand out due to who they happen to be born to, whereas others get nothing......

This is a very right wing website. So the answers you are getting don't surprise me.

I can't bring myself to read all the responses, as they will make me furious.

What if a dependent child was orphaned? Would you think it's unfair if they were left any money, even a modest amount?

Jenkibubble · 06/02/2025 22:05

Slawbans · 06/02/2025 20:42

The problem is if you couldn’t leave it as inheritance it would be a race to spend it all. And then who would pay the £1400 a week for their care care home? The answer is you would

That’s a whole other subject / post !!!!!!

Im NOT volunteering BTW , despite my dad potentially needing one in the near future :(

wipeywipe · 06/02/2025 22:08

Having money to just enjoy and fritter away is extremely privileged. I'm amazed you don't realise that. You really don't seem to have a clue about life for a significant proportion of the population.

Where did that poster say she frittered money away?!

Newusername3kidss · 06/02/2025 22:08

HebeHerbivore · 06/02/2025 14:28

My parents were fairly poor, not privileged at all and worked bloody hard to own their own home and paid taxes all their lives, damn right they passed it onto us when they died. We will do the same to our children when the time comes.

Same here. My parents were such savers - wish they had spent their bloody money and had more fun but they were obsessed with owning their own house and passing it down to us so we would always be ok. Lost them both way too young. If there was no inheritance what would be the point in trying to get save / buy a house. Might as well just live day by day.

brunettemic · 06/02/2025 22:11

ThisCandidCritic · 06/02/2025 14:22

Isn’t inheritance just another way of keeping wealth in the hands of the privileged? AIBU to think we should heavily tax or abolish inheritances altogether?

😂😂😂

BlueSilverCats · 06/02/2025 22:16

Ilovelurchers · 06/02/2025 22:00

You're absolutely right of course, OP. And anybody who understand what the word "fair" means, and was being honest, would concede this.

And yet, the sample I dipped in to was post after post, attempting to claim it is "fair" that some people get a massive hand out due to who they happen to be born to, whereas others get nothing......

This is a very right wing website. So the answers you are getting don't surprise me.

I can't bring myself to read all the responses, as they will make me furious.

Well sure, vast amounts vs nothing will always seem unfair.

But most people are nowhere near that.

DD is a working class kid , she'll get a one bed flat when we die (in a town on one of those worst places in the UK lists) and that's if we don't need any care . Anyone who begrudges her that and think is fighting for "fairness" is deluded.

AzurePanda · 06/02/2025 22:20

@wipeywipe the statistics on this are self explanatory, just take a look at the percentage of higher rate tax payers and the percentage of estates which incur an IHT liability combined with the mean UK earnings numbers. How could the majority of the value of UK estates liable to IHT not belong to higher rate taxpayers?

wipeywipe · 06/02/2025 22:23

@AzurePanda so you can't link anything?

ThinkAboutItTomorrow · 06/02/2025 22:24

I know it's emotional on an individual level, but as a group the wealth about to be transfered came from house prices increasing 1145% since 1980 and equity prices increased by 7 x since 1984.

And as it stands only. 6% of inheritance is taxed.

Totallymessed · 06/02/2025 22:27

wipeywipe · 06/02/2025 20:50

And I work p/t because anything more I earn is taxed at 40%.

Hilarious. So you only bother to work part time because you don't want to pay tax (!) and you don't need the money. But you think you should get your bit from the money people have saved working full time for decades.

Well, you're honest about your hypocrisy, I'll give you that.

wipeywipe · 06/02/2025 22:27

How could the majority of the value of UK estates liable to IHT not belong to higher rate taxpayers?

Because so much is down to property/equity gains & the gains are varied depending upon location. Many parts of London that are now expensive and gentrified were nothing like that in the past.

wipeywipe · 06/02/2025 22:32

@Totallymessed

I said And I work p/t because anything more I earn is taxed at 40%

Why have you inferred that to mean I pay no tax?!

But you think you should get your bit from the money people have saved working full time for decades.

My parents and in-laws are millionaires &
I am a higher rate tax payer despite being pt. DH is too and works f/t. What bit of money do I want from others?

Hilarious

I'd say ludicrous...

Newposter180 · 06/02/2025 22:35

Comedycook · 06/02/2025 14:26

Life's not fair...stop the press! This is brand new information.

I got an inheritance...I don't think it's fair my parents died young. That's life though.

Some people lose parents young...some live for ages.

Some have rich parents, poor parents, kind parents, abusive parents.

Some people are born in war zones...some people are born in peaceful countries.

Welcome to the world

This!

Is it also unfair that some people’s parents can afford piano lessons or to send them to private school and others’ can’t? Yes, but that’s life. Really good point by PP that often the people getting inheritance have lost parents young. I’m sure they’d rather have their parents and see all the money go on care fees after a long life (I would).

Totallymessed · 06/02/2025 22:35

wipeywipe · 06/02/2025 22:32

@Totallymessed

I said And I work p/t because anything more I earn is taxed at 40%

Why have you inferred that to mean I pay no tax?!

But you think you should get your bit from the money people have saved working full time for decades.

My parents and in-laws are millionaires &
I am a higher rate tax payer despite being pt. DH is too and works f/t. What bit of money do I want from others?

Hilarious

I'd say ludicrous...

Yup, yet another champagne socialist. I wonder if Emma Thompson posts on Mumsnet?

wipeywipe · 06/02/2025 22:36

@ThinkAboutItTomorrow will have a read. But did the inheritance come from higher rate taxpayers payers as opposed to being inherited by higher rate taxpayers? So as I already said DH and I are a higher rate taxpayers household and may inherit but gps and parents weren't.