The double standards on here are getting out of hand

You have just posted:

'the fact that some women are green with envy that other females are leading very successful and fulfilling lives while they are alone and miserable.'

Would you call that statement reasonable and not based in hatred?

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Well exactly. Maybe women shouldn't be allowed to post replies, but we can have AI generated acceptable woman response to each problem?

That has nothing to do with whether men are welcome and treated adequately.

So what’s the point in arguing it’s just for mums anyway?

So why isn’t it called parents net….. it’s for mums.

I doubt this would be the case, unless the husband was abusive. go and read the thread. It absolutely was.

Whenever a woman on here says ‘I’ve got a history of being in abusive relationships’ everyone immediately believes her and suggests advice, therapy, hugs etc.

At the same time, the moment anyone says their partner has told her the same thing, the response is ‘He’s lying, it’s the ‘crazy ex’ trope, he’s the common link here so it’s something he was doing’.

Oh yes indeed.

Ok, let's assume this is true and the double standards are getting out of hand.

What would you like to do about it?

Are you the guy who posted about your grumpy wife? You got some good advice.

Yesterday I read a thread about a woman who was considering ending her affair because her husband had been diagnosed with cancer and a few posters told her to continue and not feel guilty.

I doubt this would be the case, unless the husband was abusive.

Another poster wrote about her daughter complaining her father / posters husband was always miserable and lots of posters attacked a suggestion that the posters should try to cheer up her husband. The gist was a wife isn't responsible for trying to make her husband happy.

No one is responsible for anyone’s happiness.

If you felt that a spouse is responsible for making their spouse is happy, why are you wanting to leave your wife? Why not make her happy?

I made up you describing women as being motivated by jealousy?! Err, OK....

Right, thank you for confirming that you made up that rubbish.
Next time try harder.

The cancer thread made me so furious yesterday that my post was pulled and I was warned. It honestly made me lived, I still feel terrible for that man and I am probably one of those who would normally be accused of hating men tbh.

What I hate are the really shitty things people do, then make excuses for and then want other people to validate.

Not sure about the general double standard, but in this particular case it was a man with an apparent stash of £120 grand. Which isn't precisely the same as a suggested secret money pot of a few grand.

It's the only motive you gave though...

laughs in Tattle

I do agree with you OP. You are far from wrong.

Do all divorcees have to get a short haircut as a condition of receiving the financial settlement? It's like going back to the early 20th century when divorced women were frowned upon by society.

[citation needed]

Yes but the majority of care givers are women. So it’s a site for parents but posters are mainly women.

Very good point. I agree with you.

Ah, yes, of course. The old misogynistic stereotypes. Women recognising patterns of abuse and/or using their own, usually hard-earned experience to help others, by definition must be bitter. They must be of that unenviable brand of woman who is unable to catch, or keep a man - as though this is the entirety of the measure of women's worth. Angry women are 'haters'. It just isn't done, or a desirable feminine attribute, for women to be legitimately angry at the inequalities they still experience on a more-or-less daily basis. 'Shrill'. 'Bossy'. 'Harridans'. 'Bitches'. 'Harpies'. All are examples of pejoratives I've seen used against assertive women on this very site to put them back into their box.

If Mumsnet has any problem with double standards, it's internalised misogyny, and posts like the above beautifully demonstrate precisely this problem.

Where exactly did I say that those were ALWAYS the motives? Don't put words in my mouth (or fingers).

I didn’t say it was, and I quite agree.
I was merely pointing out that the double standards exist in the real world as well as on MN.

I guess my view is more that society is set up to benefit a particular demographic of men. A demographic that isn't even the majority of men. So a woman's perspective IMO, isn't against all men, even if you could argue that it's against some men. And even then, my views suggest that those very same men are pigeonholed by the patriarchy.

I'm a mother of son's and a daughter, partner, sister etc to males. Nothing in my perspective is against men. It's for equality. That's what feminism is about.