DH constantly complaining about adult DDs TikTok

If I were her I would block him. What a joyless twat.

YANBU why does he care so much? Maybe you should be enquiring as to why a grown man has TikTok surely that is more of an embarrassment 😅

YANBU. He sounds like a snobby grump. She is happy and having fun with it. I bet her tik toks are great too. Maybe he's embarrassed for himself because he's no fun!

Does she have a job and is she being productive with her life, basically is this just an add-on to an otherwise healthy and responsible life? Or is this her life?

Your DH is a fun sponge. Much like my mum was when she was exactly the age I am now

Well, then he should probably just keep his negativity to himself. If he's got something to say, he should say it to her directly - maybe he's anti-SM, anti-exhibitionism, find it attention-seeking, finds it a wast of a life. Whatever his opinion is, I'd be telling him to spit it out once and for all and then stop moaning. It's pointless going on and on.

I have to admit that I find the vast majority of TikToks utterly mind numbing and despair a bit at what sometimes appears to be a bit of a 'look-at-me' generation who never seem to experience anything fully because they're too busy recording it for 'the gram'.

That said, it sounds like your DD isn't after followers or attention, but just posting clips as a way of keeping family & friends in the know of what she's up to.

It sounds like your DH is embarrassed by her.

I agree that the best thing DD could do is block him from seeing her posts.

He sounds absolutely awful, what a miserable prick. It may not be his thing but, as you say yourself, he doesn’t need to watch it! Why have such a negative, horrible reaction to seeing his daughter happy in life, particularly as she lives so very far away? I don’t think I’d be tolerating him haranguing her anymore, I’d hate for her to be put off from speaking with you because he’s a knobhead.

He sounds awful. If he doesn't like it, he doesn't have to watch it! I'd tell him to stop bloody moaning about it and sod off 🙄

To me it sounds like he is jealous maybe?

On one hand I’d be tempted to ask her to block him because he clearly has an unhealthy fixation with it and it’s impacting your home life having to listen to him. On the other hand I wouldn’t want to admit to my daughter that her father was such an utter arsehole that he was constantly watching her social media and then slagging her off and tearing her down for twenty minutes afterwards.

Have you tried losing it with him and pointing out that he’s being a shit father and needs to grow up?

I agree. How is his life generally? He sounds like he is jealous of other people enjoying themselves.

Does he think that his disapproval means she should immediately do what he wants?

Does he think that 'as her father' he should have a say over her activities and life?

Is he actually a controlling misogynist?

This was my thought! Sad really if it is the reason...

I think it shows self-possession and strength of character that, when her father complains to her about it, she just says "well I like it". That's the energy young women need for this world.

I think it would be worth cutting him off when he starts complaining. "I am very clear about your feelings on the matter. I don't need to hear about them again. You know my view is that you should just stop watching but, if you won't do that, then you can just KEEP IT IN YOUR HEAD!"

Life would be so much easier if people would just keep in their heads a bit more often.

Good on your daughter standing by her own choices and preferences as an adult.
If he keeps up with the carping about this, she soon won't care what he has to say about anything.

But the OP's daughter is a grown woman using TikTok? 😳

Honestly OP, just tell him to unfollow her or stop moaning and repeat every time he starts.

In the words of Buzz Lightyear " You are a strange, sad little man and you have my pity"

I think it's a wonderful thing to be able to see your child enjoying their life on the other side of the world so often. An absolute privilege.

I would push back hard on this his comments to her would not be acceptable to me if made more than once anyway.

Good on your DD for putting him in his place. She is old enough to do what she wants and he needs to suck it up.

All that said, I agree with your DH, to me it is pointless, pathetic, embarrassing as you say, and may I add immature and attention seeking. I would be unhappy if my adult DCs did this and thats the truth. The difference is i would keep my opinions to myself and not look at the content again.

I doubt very much it's jealousy as PPs suggest. Its most likely a strong dislike of this type of show off self indulgent behaviour that many young people seem to enjoy. He is entitled to hate this as much as she is entitled to do it. The issue is his complaining about it.

He needs to shut up and not watch it! Coming from someone who hates TikTok and finds it cringey AF! Just remove yourself if it bothers you! It’s odd that he gives it this much headspace really!

I agree with your DH about the ridiculous attention-seeking dances being pathetic as those kind of videos really make me cringe! I can’t swipe past them fast enough!

However if he's already made his feelings on them clear then he doesn't need to keep repeating it every time.
Also, I don't think the whole "Well he's on there himself, therefore he's a hypocrite" argument is valid as TikTok has all sorts on it now. The childish cringey dances were 2020/2021. The majority of content on there now, doesn't involve any dancing. I don't post on TikTok but I do follow a few funny people on there who have me in stitches every time.