AIBU to think my DH has gone mad over this baby name?

I find few names truly awful (my name being one), but this one really does make me wince. It’s utterly odd to like a name because it’s something ‘nice’ spelt backwards (the anti Lana I guess?). Do you even believe in a concept of heaven? And quite frankly it’s a reflection of how he sees a son vs a daughter, your eldest gets a very normal name and your daughter an overtly cutesy nonsense one because she’s a girl? Very ‘Harry and Balthazar’ isn’t it.

As opposed to Oliver, where I taught 5 in one class once and it’s been in the top 5 of baby names for 2 decades! The snobbery on this thread is unreal

its not unique. It’s used heavily in America and it’s incredibly tacky, common and chavvy. You may aswell include coco and channel in your list too.

I actually quite like the name.
Surely no one actually says "This is Bob....his name means.....". They just say "This is Bob".
The name may have come about by being "Heaven" backwards but now it's a pretty common name (as in popular - not chavvy a word I cannot stand). I never understand the hoo ha people make about the origins of the name. All names have beginnings.
@kweefa obviously you and your husband do have to agree with your child's name but Nevaeh isn't anything unusual these days.

Absolutely horrendous chav fodder. It’s giving 45p energy drink and a gold bar. Avoid.

Nurses wouldn’t survive without a dark sense of humour.
You’d be horrified at some of the conversations we had when I was a nurse.
It’s the way we treat people that matters. My dm was a brilliant midwife for many years. And yes she absolutely rolled her eyes at some name choices. She’s a human being not a robot.

You need to get a grip.

Sorry, it is really chivvy

If he likes the meaning behind it, what about Celeste or Talia?

*chavvy

Could people stop using the word "chavvy".
It's horrible.

Nevaeh isn't that uncommon a name actually. It is even in spellcheck!

Funnily enough I've met a few people who spelled it Neveah, 'it's heaven backwards'. Facepalm.

I went to school with a Sian whose name was pronounced See-an as her parents had seen the name written down and loved it but didn’t know the pronouciation. Every time we had a supply teacher, she’d have to correct them.

Welsh names are very nice but my goodness they get butchered over the border. Most of them are fully phonetic, but ‘Rh’ names in particular bear the brunt.

You can spell it Neve. I know two spelt like that.

Personally I think that the person who gives birth to the baby gets to choose its name
I'd stick to your guns and go with a name you love x

There's a dark sense of humour between yourselves to cope at work, and then there's coming home and taking the piss out of the names of poorly babies in your care with your mates.

Two very different things.

Have you tried the Baby Names board? Agree with the PP who said there's some ageism on this thread. And some snobbery. Plus when I was a kid I couldn't imagine a 50 something Tracy but now I know several. Similarly when I was 18 in 1986 and first heard the name Joshua in a music hall song. I couldn't imagine anyone calling a child that. Some names are popular for a short spell and some names are more classic.

You just need to find something you both agree on.

Firstly, it's not unique. Far from it. In my own circle of friends and extended family, I know of 3.
Secondly, it's bloody awful! Why on earth would anyone want a made up name that was another word spelled backwards? You wouldn't call a baby Legna (angel spelled backwards) would you, for example? So why does Heaven have to be singled out for the backwards treatment?
Sorry, I hate it.

It’s awful, and far from unique.

What about Celeste or Celestine? Also means heaven, also unusual, but much nicer.

Other pretty and unusual names might include
Amaryllis
Damaris
Rosaline
Juliana
Alethea
Calista
Jessamine

Can't she just be Heaven the right way round?

So is the name.

In answer to your question, he's utterly deluded.

Nevaeh I not a unique name. It's a rabbit hole some parents seem to have gone down though, probably believing it IS actually unique. It isn't. It's quite frankly a horrendous, ugly and ridiculous name and a child should not be saddled with it.

I agree that Niamh (you can spell it Neve) could be a compromise, if you can get your DH to extract his head from his arse for long enough to think about it.

I would absolutely use my veto if I were in your shoes. My foot would go down hard! Not happening! You need to do this, or you might regret not doing it.

This is one of the few occasions where I think that showing DH this thread might actually be a good idea. It might just get through to him what so many others will think of the name, and why it shouldn't be imposed on your new baby.

slightly off topic but are you supposed to pronounce this as ‘neeve’? I’ve been saying it ‘nev-ah’!

Nevaeh is in the top hundred so no one will have to imagine a 50 year old Nevaeh when she’s fifty, because they’ll exist in a decent volume. Honestly I wouldn’t use a single name your DH or you have suggested for my baby so while he’s unreasonable to dig his heels in on one name you don’t like, he’s not unreasonable to not like the names you’ve suggested instead.

There’s a baby name app called Kinder which might help you find a name. It works like Tinder for baby names, and if you match on a name it joins a joint list.

Leilani or a varied spelling of it is also an American (Hawaii) name meaning Heavenly if that's what he wants

Neveah might be incorrectly prounced Nivea, does he want his child named after a moisturiser?