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For being terrified after visit from Nottingham Knockers?

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thesecondmrsdewinter20 · 18/12/2024 23:31

Was wfh today and expecting a parcel so when I heard a knock on the door I answered. A young man told me he was an ex con selling things door to door as part of a rehabilitation project and asked to show me what he was selling. Politely but firmly told him I wasn’t interested. Later told DP what had happened and we read about Nottingham Knockers. Planning to call 101 in the morning and the house is all locked up but quite worried as we don’t have a security system, it’s our first home and we moved in only three months ago. I’m going to see if I can get a ring doorbell sorted over the next couple of days but we are going away on Monday for Christmas and I’m terrified the house will be broken into. Does anyone have any advice / reassurance? We are young, in our 30s, and I was quite obviously wary in speaking to him, so I’m not sure we’d really be a target (apparently they target the elderly / vulnerable / anyone willing to hand over cash on the doorstep) but quite frightened.

OP posts:
Delphiniumandlupins · 19/12/2024 01:11

thesecondmrsdewinter20 · 19/12/2024 00:17

Thank you, the problem is we don’t have cameras or any sort of security system, and I would have appeared to be a lone female. Beating myself up for not having sorted a security system yet; we bought the house only 3 months ago. Feeling stupid now.

You are still a less easy target than an elderly person. I'm not a burglar but assume they look for places easy to break into with something worth taking.

Kinneddar · 19/12/2024 01:17

Why are you phoning the police tomorrow. That's basically a total waste of time. Why not phone them at the time

This is one of the most frustrating type of 101 call. Things that happened hours or days before where there's absolutely nothing that can get done

Please phone in about things at the time

thesecondmrsdewinter20 · 19/12/2024 01:19

QueenCamilla · 19/12/2024 00:23

I was sexually assaulted by a gas man, so I wouldn't rush to be lulled into a false sense of security there...

Getting a door camera and not answering to random male visitors is the most sensible course of action.

I am so sorry 💐 x

OP posts:
BobbyBiscuits · 19/12/2024 01:21

It is a scam undoubtedly but not much more so than those ones that work commission only door knocking on behalf of unknown charities.
Please don't panic. Obviously tell the neighbours they've been around and be vigilant for a bit, but you're not in any more danger realistically than you were before they knocked. Yes they could be potential burglars, but so could anyone else walking past without knocking your door.

QuestionableMouse · 19/12/2024 01:24

thesecondmrsdewinter20 · 19/12/2024 00:05

111 is the NHS advice line. 101, which I referred to, is the number for non urgent police inquiries, which the police themselves suggest people use to report this sort of activity.

Because they're scamming people by changing a fortune for cheap and rubbish supplies.

Not because they're going back with a roll of bin bags and nicking everything.

It's honestly infuriating how ridiculously anxious and scared people are of none events. And I say that as someone who has GAD!

claretblue79 · 19/12/2024 01:58

Not sure why people have to be so unpleasant to the OP. It was something that unnerved her and no one has the right to minimise her feelings. Also, just because one person has anxiety problems it doesn’t mean that someone else who is anxious will react in the same way. Just all seems so spiteful to me. Anyway, I hope that some of the more understanding posts have reassured you a bit ,OP

RogueFemale · 19/12/2024 02:34

I share @thesecondmrsdewinter20 discomfort with the nottingham knockers. You know they're lying about being on a scheme for young offenders selling door to door. Therefore you feel they don't mean well, and you just want them to fuck off. And they do, when you politely say no thanks.

BeccaS34 · 19/12/2024 02:47

thesecondmrsdewinter20 · 18/12/2024 23:31

Was wfh today and expecting a parcel so when I heard a knock on the door I answered. A young man told me he was an ex con selling things door to door as part of a rehabilitation project and asked to show me what he was selling. Politely but firmly told him I wasn’t interested. Later told DP what had happened and we read about Nottingham Knockers. Planning to call 101 in the morning and the house is all locked up but quite worried as we don’t have a security system, it’s our first home and we moved in only three months ago. I’m going to see if I can get a ring doorbell sorted over the next couple of days but we are going away on Monday for Christmas and I’m terrified the house will be broken into. Does anyone have any advice / reassurance? We are young, in our 30s, and I was quite obviously wary in speaking to him, so I’m not sure we’d really be a target (apparently they target the elderly / vulnerable / anyone willing to hand over cash on the doorstep) but quite frightened.

Put a sign up that says ‘smile you’re on camera.’ It might be a deterrent to thieves even if you don’t actually have one.

rainydaysandrainbows · 19/12/2024 02:58

@thesecondmrsdewinter20 I don't get why if they're going around so many houses would they pick yours over any of the others? Is your house particularly vulnerable? If so, that's a wider risk not from these callers but in general and if not, I don't get what your concern is.

latetonews · 19/12/2024 03:00

They are conmen and prey on the elderly and vulnerable to buy their overpriced tat but as far as I’m aware are not known to carry out burglaries.

LawrenceSMarlowforPresident · 19/12/2024 03:58

thesecondmrsdewinter20 · 19/12/2024 00:46

As with many of the comments, this is just nasty. I think most people would have been unsettled / anxious after this experience. I was probably hyperbolic in using the word ‘terrified’, but I’ve been shocked by the unkindness shown in many of these replies.

I very much doubt that most people would be unsettled or anxious (much less terrified) after such an encounter. I would imagine that most people would go on about their day without a second thought. A ring doorbell might put your mind at ease, but it really seems that you’ve overreacted to a non-event.

Unconvinced8768 · 19/12/2024 04:07

My Dad was killed by a prisoner out on day release so bad shit does happen. Incidentally the next time we had Notts Knockers after he died, I was absolutely hysterical and so scared I called 999. It’s ok to be alarmed. They are not nice people.

LBFseBrom · 19/12/2024 04:19

I've never heard of them burgling anyone.

Unconvinced8768 · 19/12/2024 04:34

LBFseBrom · 19/12/2024 04:19

I've never heard of them burgling anyone.

Oh well, that’s ok then, isn’t it 🙄

nonbinaryfinery · 19/12/2024 04:38

WinterMorn · 18/12/2024 23:51

You are seriously overthinking this. It's really not a big deal. As for being "terrified"...why?

People are terrified of everything these days.

CyranoDeBergerQuack · 19/12/2024 04:57

DrFosterWentToGloucester23 · 18/12/2024 23:58

My FIL once bought a load of kitchen cloths from one of these men and …

Absolutely nothing happened.

Apart from having a clean kitchen!

CyranoDeBergerQuack · 19/12/2024 05:05

"Omg, i answered the door...I was so discombobulated and terrified, I accidentally answered the phone!
Hell-fire and brimstone will rain down on me."
I'm so surprised the human race survives in this country as most here seem terrified of everything and everyone

CalicoPusscat · 19/12/2024 05:06

I had them once in Dartmoor when visiting a relative, they were fine. Just selling kitchen stuff and they had ID. I didn't want anything myself but shouted over my shoulder to relative and they didn't want any dustbans/brushes/cloths either, the guy was fine. No burglaries.

runningpram · 19/12/2024 05:11

If it’s any comfort DH DID buy something a few years ago.😂but (touch wood) there have been no break ins or other activity!

CyranoDeBergerQuack · 19/12/2024 05:11

Nottingham knockers would be a perfect name for a brothel.

TimeForATerf · 19/12/2024 05:13

I think you need to put this from your mind OP. We’ve had these young men come door knocking on and off in our area for literally decades and I’ve never been burgled. They are usually from the NE, Teesside accents, and always have a large supply of shit products available at extortionate prices.

They go door to door to door, I’m pretty sure they can’t rob every house. Whether they are opportunists or not I don’t know, but I don’t think they are casing the joint. The worst that one did to me was call me a fucking slag when I wouldn’t buy anything whilst DD stood there mouth open.

Anyway, I’m pretty sure drug dealing is far more lucrative and less of a risk these days.

Jostuki · 19/12/2024 05:19

Complete over reaction unless you thrive on drama or have an anxiety disorder.

He's not going to come back and tie you and your husband up, microwave the cat and steal all your worldly possessions just because you didn't buy some tea towels from him.

SurelySmartie · 19/12/2024 05:22

MasterBeth · 19/12/2024 00:02

Yes, some people try a doorstep selling scam. Don't buy anything from them. But they are no more able to case the joint than anyone else at your front door. And they are not going to break into your house because you're sensible enough not to pay a tenner for a J Cloth.

(I live in Nottingham. I resent your phraseology, btw. )

What ‘phraseology’ did op use that was offensive?

RedRiverShore5 · 19/12/2024 05:26

You are being ridiculous, the scam is after people have been foolish enough to buy something from them and gone to get cash, if it looks like you have a lot of cash about, look vulnerable, etc. Since you said no thanks this doesn't apply to you.

JingleB · 19/12/2024 05:32

Given the sensationalist thread title, is anyone else disappointed it turned out to be “door to door salesman turned up and I didn’t buy anything”?

Terrified, ffs.