To think that non drinkers are often hard work..

Surely going to somewhere that has decent mocktails is no more challenging (actually probably less) than finding somewhere that does decent real ale, wine by the glass, other alcoholic drink of choice?

How does it actually affect you if she’s not drinking but still happy to socialise and isn’t policing what you’re drinking?

Fuckin’ hell…that’s a bit bloody arsey of you, OP! Why not pay the same amount for the fruit juice…presumably she’s not pouting about having to fork out for your alcoholic drinks when buying in a round. Just find some nice bars that suit all of you. Alcohol’s not great for any of us so if not drinking is working for your friend, just let her get on with it!

Really?

You're the one that sounds like hard work...

Fucking hell OP. If you can’t tolerate her unless she’s had a drink and your whole social circle has discussed this and reached a consensus then stop flogging a dead horse and recognise that the issue isn’t that she’s stopped drinking, it’s that you actually just don’t like her.

I am glad I don't have a friend like you.

Some people are hard work in general. Drinking or not drinking just magnifies that. I know people who are teetotal who are loads of fun and lovely.. I know people who are teetotal who don't shut up about it and are judgemental about others. I know drinkers who are an absolute liability and ruin any fun occasion with their irresponsibility.. and I know drinkers who are great fun.

I don't think it's about being teetotal or not
And also someone's decision to drink or not drink isn't a judgement on you necessarily.. mind you aren't being defensive for no real reason

Maybe it's because she's in an environment where her 'friends' are judging her. Honestly it is starting to sound more and more like you have an issue with alcohol.

Well that's very sad for this "friend " of yours. You can't even be happy for her and instead prefer her with alcohol. You need to look at yourself and your group and wonder whst type of friends you really are

You and your circle 🤢🤢🤢sound insufferable. This poor girl does not have to drink alcohol. Hope she finds some new unbitchy friends

Deciding not to drink alcohol isn’t putting a ban on yourself. It’s simply deciding not to drink. Maybe she wants to feel better, sleep better and look after herself. Lots of people don’t drink for lots of reasons. They don’t regard themselves as martyrs.

How is it really anything to do with you?

Frankly you don't sound like a very good friend

Well, fair enough I guess...I see your point. Maybe if there is enough of you drinking, her more insular non-drinking persona won't be as noticeable?

Unfortunately though, there's nothing you can do about her choices!

It should come as a relief to her.

Mean Girls Go!

I think, in terms of the superiority thing, you're not being unreasonable

People that don't drink, vegans, cyclists and child free people love telling everybody about it, when no-ones asked 🙄

You've got child free people telling you about how much sleep they get, unprovoked???!! 😄

But, you should support your friend, op - and aren't mocktails cheaper anyway?

If you don’t enjoy drinking nights out with her and she’s being a pompous arse about it, do something else that doesn’t involve booze - cinema, roller skating, theatre, a band, etc.

😄 I don't know whether to take you seriously

What a meanie, won’t pay for the drink she wants even though it’s the same price at an alcoholic drink

you also sound a bit jealous, that’s she’s been able to give up, can you? Or are you one of the sad people that needs an alcoholic drink to be able to enjoy yourself

I would support anyone who wanted to quit. I wish I could. Logically I know it's no good for me but alas, I enjoy it too much. The same way I enjoy sugary cake and carbs and chips.

What annoys me is when non drinkers try to become morally superior. There was an article I saw online about an alcoholic who reformed into a non drinker which is amazing but her tag line was something about how much she pities people who drink.

By all means change your habits if want to, but don't start judging other people just because you had an issue.

MN is very strange about alcohol op so I don't see you getting much agreement with your post.

Sorry, but that is a horrible thing to say. She is a better person when under the influence?

I have had people tell me that before. "You are boring when you are sober". Well, those people are not my friends anymore.

Drinkers are hard work.

they think they’re cool and interesting but they’re just drunk and boring. And then the teetotallers have to look after them and get them home

the obsession with having to drink to have fun, couldn’t possibly contemplate a dry wedding or birthday, got to sneak a hop flask, liven things up.

the judgement that if you don’t drink you maybe well stay at home because you’ll just spoil the fun.

no, you don’t need alcohol to have fun. If you do, that’s a you problem.

Op, i knew i remembered your name from somewhere this month as your exact name had a post for lovely girl baby names and you are due next month are you not? Surely you have more going on than this and aren't drinking anyway.

this is one hell of a fishing expedition OP 🎣