to not let neighbour use my shower!

So are you going to help her?

Insurance. Private hospital. Private shower.

Public hospital - plastic shoes in the showers.

They just get on with it, I should think, since there's no other option.

But letting a person you are on nodding terms with into your home to get naked in your bathroom is entirely optional.

I don't know how people on here manage when they have to go to hospital and share a shower with complete randomers

For me I'm quite untidy, a bit embarrassed about the state of my bathroom and would probably say no on that basis unless we were friends or I had a guest shower then I'd try really hard and agree to every other day.

Me too. Also our shower is over bath,not walk in, I’m used to getting in and out but would be afraid of neighbour having an accident.

Yes, let her use it. You can do as PPs have suggested and make it so it the least possible intrusion.

It is known to be good for your own health to help somebody else - the late great Dr Michael Mosley did a whole podcast on this.

To think pooing in the shower is disgusting | Mumsnet

And let's not forget, some people shit and wee in the shower.

Just let her have a shower FGS

Cheeky moo!!

Give her the hose pipe!

Seriously though it's up to you. I think there's nothing wrong with asking but equally nothing wrong with saying no.

For me I'm quite untidy, a bit embarrassed about the state of my bathroom and would probably say no on that basis unless we were friends or I had a guest shower then I'd try really hard and agree to every other day.

If you do say no I'm sure they have other neighbours or can pop to the gym, or work something out.

Having no hot water is different from having a broken shower.

I know, exactly!
I mean, personally I'd go as far as just rinsing the pube away I'm pretty sure it wouldn't mean I had to take to the fainting couch or get my house professionally fumigated.

Many of us have said that we've done it in practice.

Same.
Been rebuilding our bathroom.
We've literally been peeing in buckets- strip washing and washing our hair in the sink for 6 months as the work has dragged out.
Never occurred to us to ask the neighbours.

Most likely he had somewhere else to shower. You better believe people will ask. I admit I do believe in the general principle of no harm asking, they can always say no, though I wouldn't ask. I wouldn't be comfortable asking or showering at a neighbour's house myself (unless I knew them really well and we were friends more than neighbours). I wouldn't even ask my best friend though. That's my own discomfort. I know she wouldn't mind.

She's asked to use my shower once in an emergency and I said yes, though was a bit uncomfortable. Never had to happen though as her issue was resolved.

Ah, OK!
I agree about community in London. I've never felt so quickly and easily welcomed anywhere as I do here, including previous stints living in the Home Counties, Scotland and the East Midlands.

well yes, this is also an option. But re my previous post: adults (if here is representative) have lost the ability to say "sorry, no, i can't"

They have to invent an elaborate excuse.

If we're reducto ad abusudum-ing it tho (love that) OP should emigrate to Australia tomorrow. It's the only way to avoid letting your neighbour move in and steal your house.

I should think most of the people making those arguments are doing so in specific reference to this situation: one person.

I don't think most families would ask, as most people would realise that a family of 6 or whatever is a different proposition to a single person.

When my neighbour used my shower for a bit, her DP, who also lived there, didn't. It was just her who came and asked and just her who used it. I never asked why, but I think it's likely a combination of him/them thinking asking for two showers was a bit different that one, and possibly the fact that he was a man and I'm a woman and they thought that might be an uncomfortable ask. (of course it's also possible that he had somewhere else he could easily shower whereas she didn't).

i used to be in the army. It is totally normal to give a shower a quick once over after you've used it. But I've done that all my life when using a bathroom (and toilet)

And if neighbour did leave a pube? I'm a grown up: i would say, next time she came over: "can you give the shower a squirt round with this [hands over shower spray] no need to scrub, just swish it round with the hose, and please use the squeegee on the glass otherwise it gets full of limescale"

I do despair that adults (if this place is representative) have lost the ability to think/speak like adults, and communicate in an adult way with other people. (the neighbour is an exception, good on her for asking)

Have had a male neighbour use my shower for a couple of weeks in the past, and an elderly neighbour allowed my kids to use her shower (I showered at work) when we had an issue with our water. We all survived the ordeals. We all still speak to each other and I'm very pleased to report that my teenagers, unprompted, wiped down the neighbour's shower area when they'd finished (because they're in the habit of doing that at home). Thank you gifts exchanged. Kindness was the winner.

And yeah, some people are filthy in the shower, according to the internet anyway, it's a weird, cheeky request and she shouldn't have asked you.

That's kind of you (and given OP is familiar enough that she walks dogs with her neighbour, I'd most likely be okay with helping her too). I'd find a way though. I'd go to a motel if needed and stay for the two weeks. Get a bucket or solar shower.

I'd likely help a decent neighbour too, but the neighbour who let's her kid kick the ball against the fence for an excessive amount of time a day can forget it no matter how unclean she feels.

I would let her at a time that suits you

I remember once my lovely neighbour let us use her shower when we had no hot water

No of course you're not being unreasonable, but she has a hell of a cheek asking someone who knows nothing about her really if it's ok if she gets naked in their bathroom. You have no idea if she has diseases, is hygienic, pees in the shower etc. Gross.

Also, if she still has running water she can wash perfectly well in a sink and wash her hair in the sink too. It's one bloody week, she'll be fine. Yes, it's inconvenient and it's 100 percent doable and there are also showers available at swimming pools and more.

Take the risk of her blanking you, she's a cheeky cow and if she's willing to ask this who knows what will be next, plus I'd be looking for ways to avoid her anyway from now on, this is why staying on polite nodding terms only with neighbours is a good idea, if they get pushy it can get awkward.

Is there a gym locally? That would definitely be my go to if having shower issues but I’d also definitely want one every day. Maybe say that you aren’t sure of your movements everyday so suggest it might be more convenient for her to join the gym and shower there - she might find a new hobby as an extra benefit too

Absolutely no way would I agree to this. My home is private and unless it's an actual emergency, no neighbours are coming in, ever. You need a break next week, do that. She's been very cheeky even asking in my view. So what if all these posters would do it, in theory.