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Old friend keeps blocking me - can’t understand why?

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BySharpLurker · 02/11/2024 20:39

Looking for some outside perspectives on a friendship situation that has me feeling pretty confused and disappointed.

I have this old friend, Sandra, who I’ve known for years. We’ve had our ups and downs, but generally, when we’re in touch, it’s been easy and enjoyable. That said, she has a habit of randomly disappearing on me, and sometimes even blocking me. After a while, she’ll just unblock and start chatting again.

Recently, she went quiet again. I tried to reach out to see if everything was alright, sent a friendly message, and asked if she wanted to catch up sometime. No response - just straight-up blocked again. No falling out that I’m aware of, nothing I can think of that would’ve caused offence.

It’s left me feeling pretty down and a bit hurt. I get that people can get busy, or maybe she just didn’t want to meet, but the blocking feels extreme and, honestly, a bit confusing. Part of me wonders if I’m overthinking it, but who wouldn’t in this situation?

Has anyone else had a friend act like this - coming and going, or blocking and unblocking with no clear reason? How do you handle it when a friend’s behaviour is this unpredictable?

OP posts:
Emmadaily · 02/11/2024 22:19

Sandra is Not a friend

Move on a be happy x

Coolasfeck · 02/11/2024 22:29

She’s not your friend and is emotionally abusing you in a way.

I had ‘friend’ like this. She was popular and fun but would sometimes go cold on me or even make arrangements and not turn up. I used to make attempts to run after her. After a while I realised she was on a Mean Girls thing but we’re not in secondary school.

I stopped contacting her. At most I say hi if I see her in the street. Not long ago she sent a WhatsApp of an old photo of us and said it would be lovely to meet for a drink. I just replied with a heart emoji and left it. She’s probably burned through other friends.

Noseybookworm · 02/11/2024 22:46

How do you know that you're blocked? I would just ask her why she does it - I have a friend who regularly will deactivate her Facebook for a few weeks and then come back on - could she be doing that?

BabyCloud · 02/11/2024 23:43

Block her so that she can’t ever do it again.

cuppaonce · 13/11/2024 02:26

i block friends when they piss me off. one is just hard work, shes a user, and just not enjoyable to be around. Shes in a friendship group, we all moan about her, and i cant be doing with her shit. I know she would be phoning me to ask what shes done wrong to upset people and them ill get blamed for telling her straight, and then she will be key board warrior ! cant be doing with her at all.
The other friend i have blocked temporarily because shes insisting that she and her hubby come and stay with me in the winter, and i just dont want them til the summer. I have an old house and i cant afford to heat all the rooms. They come every year in the summer. They can wait til then .

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