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Who is being unreasonable?

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4405cd · 29/09/2024 21:33

So a friend sends dates to other friend for a potential catch up for following week . Friend doesn’t reply due to being busy ,so the other friend makes other arrangements . Am wondering if the friend who tried to arrange should have informed other friend when she made alternative plans , or should friend have responded in an appropriate time ? YABU give friend more time and not make alternative plan ,YANBU…friend should have replied to confirm a date .
New to MN so cannot work out the voting system !!

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4405cd · 29/09/2024 22:06

Ok,thank you for replies .I now fully understand that I am not being unreasonable .
It’s scary how nowadays we do question our judgement. If my lovely Mum was still alive she would have said the same as everyone on MN 😊

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BabyR · 29/09/2024 22:10

The friend who didn’t reply is the unreasonable one. Nobody should have to wait around for others. They could have said they would let them know.

DeliciousApples · 29/09/2024 22:17

Nobody should reply a whole week after an invite to say whether or not they will attend.

I'd expect a reply the following day!

4405cd · 29/09/2024 22:34

BabyR · 29/09/2024 22:10

The friend who didn’t reply is the unreasonable one. Nobody should have to wait around for others. They could have said they would let them know.

Agree . Thank you.

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4405cd · 29/09/2024 22:39

DeliciousApples · 29/09/2024 22:17

Nobody should reply a whole week after an invite to say whether or not they will attend.

I'd expect a reply the following day!

It wasn’t an actual invitation it was a date to potentially meet up . Agree ,that a reply within a couple of days is reasonable. Unless contacting adult children 😂

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Week01 · 29/09/2024 23:00

BeMintBee · 29/09/2024 21:49

How about just posting the full context? So boring when OP just write one sentence at a time in response to other posters questions 🙄 no one want to read through a hundred posts to piece together the actual event!

So boring when people comment rude replies, just don't read if you don't like it.

Skyrainlight · 30/09/2024 08:28

Perfectly fine to make other plans if your friend hasn't responded. That's on them for not replying.

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