To ask if there are certain “red flag” AIBU topics which you avoid?

Oh and anything to do with "donning my hard hat,"

It's smug, twee and honestly....why?!? Why are you posting if you're expecting to have strangers on the internet throw rocks at your head or whatever you think will happen with your nonsense.

Unless you are actually donning your hard hat, amd want our opinion on whether it suits.you or if you should get one in another colour.

Anything where someone is a narcissist.

FFS. How many actual narcissists are there? Narcissistic personality disorder was one of the rarest conditions to the point it was being removed as a diagnosis. Now apparently everyone's ex/boss/parent on Mumsnet is a full blown narcissist.

Any thread where people are spouting utter claptrap about things "invalidating your house insurance".

For me it's the ones where the OP posts a picture of their pregnancy scan like, "The sonographer told me it was a boy but I still think it could be a girl, does this look like a girl to you?"

You know those people usually are the drama and just can’t get along with anyone 😂 and they’ll be the same ones crying about not having a village if and when a partner leaves etc or if they feel lonely after the kids fly the next.

If it starts with “So”.

"Fumming" 😂. I know just what you mean but I'd have to open that one for sheer curiosity!

Congratulations, here's your "be kind" medal.

I've come to the conclusion that it must be a secret mumsnet rule that people's names in thread titles must be spelt incorrectly.

Anything with 'high earners' in the title. It usually turns out they mean anything over £40k or something, and everyone is talking at cross purposes and projecting.

Anything like - why do 'x nation' hate the British? Again, just stupid nonsense.

Anything with 'SAHM' in the title as it brings the most bitter working mums out in full force.

Anything about trans.

Anything about not being able to stand at school gates or some such nonsense

Anything about housework - who cares?

Any thread that's not AIBU

Threads where you can just tell by the title that the OP is just itching to broadcast how superior they are in some way.

Thread titles where you can immediately tell the poster has no idea how privileged/wealthy they are compared to most other people.

And, yes it’s probably snobby, but thread titles that are littered with misspellings, bad grammar etc. You just know the OPs post is going to be one massive paragraph with hardly any full stops and be barely comprehensible.

I avoid:

anything about babies
anything about schools or teachers
anything about Autism or ADHD
anything about gender
anything about ‘men’ vs ‘women’
political clickbait

I use a different site for TV stuff now as those threads are so annoying.

I have loads of American friends and family. 😁

Oh this makes sense now. I’d interpreted it as PP only being interested in posts about illegal activity 😂

Well that's ridiculous! One of my besties is an American.

The telly addicts ones - new series starting and the OP just cut and pastes all the gumpf from the Radio Times (other listings are available!) without a 'personal' opinion
Then they @ about 400 people so they can watch it as it is being broadcast and write their inciteful thoughts as it is playing

Any thread beginning with the words ‘am I the ONLY one who…’

The OP and the posters who pat themselves on the back for being so ‘different’ to everyone else is so embarrassing.

I think I might start to avoid the botox, wegovy etc threads because you get shouted down if you dare suggest that it might be more healthy to learn to love your body as it is, and maybe do some exercise. MN is the only place I've seen comsmetic surgery talked about as a feminist cause.

Actually the same is true for any thread that touches on obesity. I rage every time I see someone post that you can't out-run a bad diet.

By contrast the competitive cleanliness threads are the kind of batshit I come here for.

Anything that has “!!!!???” in the title.

Trans subjects - (though in real life I would love to deal with (frighten / intimidate) any man in a womans space.
(yesterday, me comfortably naked in a continental sauna - Vs man in swimwear getting angrier and angrier 😂)

I actively avoid trans threads (not easy as the anti-trans crew have an amazing ability to drag their pet soapbox into literally anything). I'm strongly pro-LGBT rights and have many dear trans friends; firstly it actually hurts to see how prejudiced people are against them, secondly my time is better spent doing actual work in the real world that has a real impact to fight for LGBT rights, not having internet bunfights.

Less deeply I avoid the parking threads (boring) and the "how do people afford X or Y" threads (they have more money than you, I'm not sure how complicated that is to understand).

I get very frustrated by the threads with some sort of interpersonal dilemma that can be easily resolved by five minutes of clear communication and yet the OP refuses to do it.

Dog threads

Competitive cleanliness threads. The ones that start off with someone asking how often other people wash sheet/towels, clean their floors etc - you inevitably reach peak MN when someone claims to be doing it every hour and announces that anyone not doing the same is "vile" and disgusting.