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To feel slightly suspicious of dp

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wwyt · 27/09/2024 11:36

Hi, I'm looking to know would YOU be suspicious? I'm not really suspicious but maybe a bit slightly?

So, dp works for his dads business and has for the last 10 years. Dp doesn't start work until 9. Usually he would set an alarm for 8:30 which sounds really late but his workplace is a 2 minute drive from our home. And he's really easy going 🤣. His dad doesn't drive but a workmate would always collect him.

About a month ago dp started setting alarms at 6.45-7:15 getting up and leaving the house within 10 mins of those alarms. (Extremely early from before) I've been with dp 5 years he's never up that early for work.

He says it's because he's starting to give his dad a lift to work every morning. His mum and dad live a 5 minute drive from our home. That's not too suspicious. But the thing that's making me go 🤨 is he's leaving home in the mornings in his normal clothes. He says he gets ready in his parents house just before he leaves for work as it's easier?

He has a specific work uniform. He would always get ready here before leaving.

So he's started leaving the house over an hour earlier than usual and not getting ready here?

Would you be suspicious?

OP posts:
KaleQueen · 05/10/2024 19:45

If anyone wants a distraction while you wait there’s a full thread here inspired by Watchgate

www.mumsnet.com/talk/_chat/5180344-the-causal-things-that-wealthy-people-take-for-granted?page=1

Errors · 05/10/2024 19:43

Calliopespa · 05/10/2024 19:06

Well to be honest we need op to come back. We are chatting while we wait for an instalment.

And hopefully not filling up the thread in the process (she says whilst continuing to fill up the thread)

Calliopespa · 05/10/2024 19:06

ooopsinamechangedagain · 05/10/2024 15:37

Hope things are ok. Very insensitive for the thread to be taken over by people arguing over the value of a watch. And creating a whole new thread off the back of this one about the watch ffs. 🤨

Well to be honest we need op to come back. We are chatting while we wait for an instalment.

Calliopespa · 05/10/2024 18:56

ZorbaTheHoarder · 05/10/2024 18:11

I didn't realise my illustrative photo hadn't loaded - the shame!
Personally, l think that Patak's are worth every penny!

🤣 the watches are Patek Phillipe not patak but I do kind of enjoy the way this has become a thread about curry sauce.

TheShellBeach · 05/10/2024 18:12

ZorbaTheHoarder · 05/10/2024 18:11

I didn't realise my illustrative photo hadn't loaded - the shame!
Personally, l think that Patak's are worth every penny!

Are you on the right thread?

ZorbaTheHoarder · 05/10/2024 18:11

I didn't realise my illustrative photo hadn't loaded - the shame!
Personally, l think that Patak's are worth every penny!

To feel slightly suspicious of dp
ooopsinamechangedagain · 05/10/2024 15:37

Hope things are ok. Very insensitive for the thread to be taken over by people arguing over the value of a watch. And creating a whole new thread off the back of this one about the watch ffs. 🤨

kayla12345 · 05/10/2024 12:20

How's things OP?

ConnemaraMare · 05/10/2024 10:29

@sunrisemorning it was deleted with ‘MN are taking a look behind the scenes’, if we are talking about the same thread - What Age Do I Look, blonde lady pictures heavily filtered, in her 60s with an unpleasant sounding boyfriend 28.

sunrisemorning · 05/10/2024 10:20

ConnemaraMare · 05/10/2024 10:14

@sunrisemorning that thread was deleted, (if it’s the one with the heavily filtered photos) it was nonsense.

Didn’t the OP request for it to be deleted? Because she felt like shit self-esteem-wise and hoped the thread would help…which it never does. Another thread like that was also deleted at the OPs request.

ConnemaraMare · 05/10/2024 10:14

@sunrisemorning that thread was deleted, (if it’s the one with the heavily filtered photos) it was nonsense.

sunrisemorning · 05/10/2024 10:13

There is a thread to discuss the watch for those more interested in that than the actual thread. We’ll be at 40 pages just debating a watch at this rate.

www.mumsnet.com/talk/_chat/5180344-the-causal-things-that-wealthy-people-take-for-granted

abs12 · 05/10/2024 10:11

OP, how are you? Have you got any further?

Your responses to twats are next level... Entertaining amonst the crap of uncertainty. Hoping there is some random, crazy, innocent explanation. Good luck ❤️

User19876536484 · 05/10/2024 10:05

BananaNirvana · 05/10/2024 08:18

@Shade17 anyone who spends upwards of £20k on a watch is a grade A arsehole but you do you 🙄.

I have relative that makes a living dealing in high end watches. People buy them as investments. I don’t think they actually wear them.

sunrisemorning · 05/10/2024 10:01

SurelySmartie · 05/10/2024 09:37

And especially if the woman is a neighbour in her 50s!

I know quite a few friends and acquaintances doing online dating (and ‘dating’) at the moment, they are in their 40s and 50s and the number of 20 something men trying to shag them is shocking! The men are all either too old or too young!

There was a recent thread with a woman in her 60s dating a man in his late 20s.

SurelySmartie · 05/10/2024 09:37

And especially if the woman is a neighbour in her 50s!

I know quite a few friends and acquaintances doing online dating (and ‘dating’) at the moment, they are in their 40s and 50s and the number of 20 something men trying to shag them is shocking! The men are all either too old or too young!

TheShellBeach · 05/10/2024 09:05

Errors · 05/10/2024 08:31

i have to agree. Spending £20k on a watch does not prove you have £20k. It proves you used to have £20k

Grin
Errors · 05/10/2024 08:31

BananaNirvana · 05/10/2024 08:18

@Shade17 anyone who spends upwards of £20k on a watch is a grade A arsehole but you do you 🙄.

i have to agree. Spending £20k on a watch does not prove you have £20k. It proves you used to have £20k

BananaNirvana · 05/10/2024 08:18

@Shade17 anyone who spends upwards of £20k on a watch is a grade A arsehole but you do you 🙄.

Errors · 05/10/2024 08:05

Thousands of pounds on a watch 😂 fuck me, they saw you coming @Shade17

I suppose someone will be along in a minute to say it’s an investment.
Well so are, y’know, actual investments

Outnumberedmummy2022 · 05/10/2024 05:08

HollyKnight · 04/10/2024 20:47

Cool. Another thing to add to the list of things MN(etters) is trying to sell me.

France
Ugly sack dresses
Chopard Brescia rollerball pen
Go Ape!
Patek watches

Anyone else’s search results now Patek watches, Nordic socks and Chopard Brescia rollerball pen 😂

Dandelionsarefree · 04/10/2024 23:07

HollyKnight · 04/10/2024 20:47

Cool. Another thing to add to the list of things MN(etters) is trying to sell me.

France
Ugly sack dresses
Chopard Brescia rollerball pen
Go Ape!
Patek watches

😂😂

Calliopespa · 04/10/2024 22:41

sunrisemorning · 04/10/2024 21:02

I can’t believe how crass people are about money on this thread, so cringey considering what OP is going through. ‘Oh £400 watch? I spend that much a day on my hand-woven loo roll made for me personally by the deft little hands of peasant children’.

In all honesty I think most of us were saying the comments were off …

The point here is that op says he wouldn’t wear it unless trying to impress so that is relevant to what he is up to. We can, However, rule out @Shade17 as the other woman I think! There would be no winning her over with that watch🏃🏼‍♀️⌚️

sunrisemorning · 04/10/2024 21:02

I can’t believe how crass people are about money on this thread, so cringey considering what OP is going through. ‘Oh £400 watch? I spend that much a day on my hand-woven loo roll made for me personally by the deft little hands of peasant children’.

KaleQueen · 04/10/2024 20:59

Meanwhile….@wwyt is wondering why these people are debating the value of watches….and probably spending Friday night with her husband side-eyeing him as he pretends all is well