To think it's ridiculous to fall out over a Facebook post ?

The previous thread gives a lot more detail about the mum's behaviour. And while I agree that 'my little family' was poking the bear, the not seeing the baby was the result of a lot of appalling behaviour from the mum, not the FB post.

Reading your other post, your mum does seem very immature and needy. She was basically criticising your in-laws in front of your DH which is really rude and unfair. He must have been really embarrassed.

She obviously feels like she is in a competition with your in-laws where your baby is concerned which is probably why she is so cross that there is no mention of her being on holiday with you and your baby.

Growing up with a mother modelling behaviour like your mother, it isn't surprising that you have grown up not being able to contact conflict well. You have learnt from her and you are reacting in similar ways. But you can do better and you are capable to reflecting over what happened and making different choices. Spend this time away from your mother thinking over who you want to be, how you want to respond, so that when you meet again and she says something that triggers conflict, you can handle it in a more mature and balanced way.

Imagine, in years ti come, this is you and your daughter. She threatens you with not being a part of your grandchild life, then shares a fb post about her and her family going away. Despite you being there.

Seems like she already cut you out.

Now can you see why it may come across as hostile to your mum?

You need to sort your shit out, or this will be you and your child one day.

I feel sorry for your partner. Imagine having to live with this shite drama.

You say your FB post was fine but also have admitted you weren't talking to your mother when you wrote it so sounds like you did kinda know it would only address your DH and baby? You call your mother controlling but tried to control her by threatening to not let her see her grandchild unless she did as you wanted. The fact you admit that you didn't mean it and only said it to get a reaction actually makes it kinda worse? Honestly you both need some self reflection here! Your relationship sounds absolutely exhausting. As your baby gets older, is this what you want her to see? Is this what you want to teach her about parent-child relationships?

You both sound pathetic

Don't put pictures of your kid on the internet

My mom has a real issue with admitting when she's in the wrong and is as stubborn as mule. I'm 33 ….. I just want to know if I'm being unreasonable. I don't think I am.

You should have grown up by now yet you’re still acting like a petulant child. Maybe you and your mum need therapy to change the child/parent dynamic in your relationship otherwise you’ll both still be acting like a pair of drama queens when you’re in your 60’s.

I also agree that parents should stop posting pics of their kids on social media when they’re too young to consent. I think it’s a breach of their right to privacy.

You also sound very self centred and selfish.

The apple never falls far from the tree, try and break this ridiculous cycle before your daughter learns it.

Why asking this, is it even relevant? Is it because every other person seems to go for therapy? Or the spelling of mom? I believe this is a common spelling of mum up north in UK

Really, you both sound as bad as each other. Sounds like she has a history but what you said was just nasty.
Your Facebook post was passive aggressive.

Oh FGS why so dramatic, why the ultimatum of threatening your mum with not seeing her GD growing up due to her not apologising. You both sound as stubborn and unreasonable as each other, no wonder you don't get on.
Just try to get on ??

The pair of you need your heads banged together for being so tit for tat. She sounds needy and petulant, you sound childish and petulant. Not see gc grow up, that was so over the top, I'd be spitting if my d said that to me to be spiteful.
I'd leave it for awhile and let the dust settle a bit and then make contact with her.
Can your f help smooth the way?
If there is really no coming back from this then you need to consider your options, but c should be able to have a relationship with both gp, even if your h deals with it initally.

Are you American?

Completely agree with this ☝️ OP, have you had any counselling to talk about/work on your own emotional responses, and where they might stem from (i.e. the behaviour modelled by your mum growing up)?

This.

OP, Sounds like youhave an emotionally immature parent.

It's exhausting and I can see why you said and did as you did. I get it.

Just try and make some space between you both. Establish some boundaries of you think you can hold them or go low contact if you can't.

Also, read 'Adults of Emotionally Immature Parents' by Lindsay Gibson.

This is what I would do. Or your daughter will be caught in the middle soon enough. Not fair on her. Be a better parent than you had.

Oh don’t play dim, it doesn’t suit anyone. You know that you’ve put up a post that implies they weren’t there, “my little family”, honestly. Heres hoping you didn’t just bring them along for childcare and don’t plan on using them instead of nursery before you threatened no contact.