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to tell son NOT to post memes of black people

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mazxim · 17/08/2024 13:34

Please help me . Huge row with 11 year old.

His friend posted a meme of a black person with "bombastic side eye".

He wants to repost it to some silly comment.

I said it is wrong and not the right thing to do even if the person "bombastic side eye" posted it himself on tin tok.

Please give me your thoughts.

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RedHelenB · 17/08/2024 13:53

mazxim · 17/08/2024 13:49

Because some other kid has been posting GIF of a black person dancing and writing the N word under it. And I reported to other parents that it was inappropriate. That's why I am super sensitive about it I guess.
Thanks for all your opinions. I will take it on board.

In that case I agree he should steer clear, it might muddy the waters a bit But as others say ges too young for these apps.

Hectorscalling · 17/08/2024 13:52

mazxim · 17/08/2024 13:49

Because some other kid has been posting GIF of a black person dancing and writing the N word under it. And I reported to other parents that it was inappropriate. That's why I am super sensitive about it I guess.
Thanks for all your opinions. I will take it on board.

That’s completely different. That’s someone taking an image of a black person and then using it to use racist language. That is calling a person the N word.

That is entirely different to simply posting a meme. If his funny comment was a racist comment then his comment is racist. That doesn’t make posting memes of back people, at all, racist.

But surely if he wanted to post a racist comment that would be your issue. Not using a meme.

PinkyFlamingo · 17/08/2024 13:52

Can any one who says it's racist explain why as I don't get it?

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mazxim · 17/08/2024 13:51

May be I was supersensitive to it. I was really appalled at what the other student had posted which was racist, and I just want my child to be more sensitive and considerate to what he posts after what happened.

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SummerSplashing · 17/08/2024 13:50

Overtheatlantic · 17/08/2024 13:37

It’s racist. Black people don’t exist for the amusement of others.

@Overtheatlantic neither do white people, brown people, cats, but people still
post funny memes. It's not posted because he's black, it's posted because he a bloke doing something daft that isn't related to him being black.

@mazxim

you're being daft

liverburd1 · 17/08/2024 13:50

SonicTheHodgeheg · 17/08/2024 13:47

Is it racist ?

As an exercise I put in bombastic side eye in the “add GIF” part of this website and there’s a mixture of people and animals shown.

No it's just a meme where the person happens to be black

Isittimeformynapyet · 17/08/2024 13:49

Saltedbutter · 17/08/2024 13:45

But a racist joke and a non-racist meme surely can’t be compared?

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Yeah, I didn't know what the meme was until after I'd posted when I saw other pps had made it clearer. Jumped the gun a bit there...

Hectorscalling · 17/08/2024 13:49

Reugny · 17/08/2024 13:46

Well if he can't behave in an appropriate manner when he has contact with them, them he has to live with the consequences.

You are his parent not his buddy.

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He isn’t acting inappropriately

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mazxim · 17/08/2024 13:49

Because some other kid has been posting GIF of a black person dancing and writing the N word under it. And I reported to other parents that it was inappropriate. That's why I am super sensitive about it I guess.
Thanks for all your opinions. I will take it on board.

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SonicTheHodgeheg · 17/08/2024 13:47

Is it racist ?

As an exercise I put in bombastic side eye in the “add GIF” part of this website and there’s a mixture of people and animals shown.

liverburd1 · 17/08/2024 13:47

So would re-posting any funny meme with a black person be racist? I assume this would also apply to any other non-white race?

So in turn we should only have memes featuring white people? In which case are we not at risk of being non-inclusive?

I actually know the exact meme you mean and I had thought the black man was actually someone famous. I could be wrong

Reugny · 17/08/2024 13:46

mazxim · 17/08/2024 13:45

Thank you . I totally agree. He is only allowed WhatsApp 15 min x 2 a week during the summer holidays. A lot of his friends are overseas travelling. And the entire year group is on it. I already have the accusations from him that I am trying to isolate him from his friends.

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Well if he can't behave in an appropriate manner when he has contact with them, them he has to live with the consequences.

You are his parent not his buddy.

Notamum12345577 · 17/08/2024 13:46

mazxim · 17/08/2024 13:34

Please help me . Huge row with 11 year old.

His friend posted a meme of a black person with "bombastic side eye".

He wants to repost it to some silly comment.

I said it is wrong and not the right thing to do even if the person "bombastic side eye" posted it himself on tin tok.

Please give me your thoughts.

Is the meme joke anything to do with the guy being black? Or would it be funny in exactly the same way if the guy was white? If so and he just happens to be black, I don’t see an issue with it. However, if him being black is part of the joke, no then your son (assuming he isn’t black himself) should not be posting it.

Saltedbutter · 17/08/2024 13:45

Isittimeformynapyet · 17/08/2024 13:43

Nip it in the bud, OP.

As the adult you didn't need to have a huge row with your 11yr old son - you just tell him that it's unacceptable and explain why.

A colleague's partner once shared a racist joke on my WhatsApp and I immediately replied "I can't believe you thought I would find that funny. Never share anything with me again".

It's not even up for discussion, let alone a row.

But a racist joke and a non-racist meme surely can’t be compared?

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mazxim · 17/08/2024 13:45

StSwithinsDay · 17/08/2024 13:40

He's 11. He shouldn't be on WhatsApp for starters.

Thank you . I totally agree. He is only allowed WhatsApp 15 min x 2 a week during the summer holidays. A lot of his friends are overseas travelling. And the entire year group is on it. I already have the accusations from him that I am trying to isolate him from his friends.

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soupfiend · 17/08/2024 13:45

Hadjab · 17/08/2024 13:43

That’s ridiculous. As a black person, I use memes of white people, black people, cats, dogs, et al. I find the most appropriate meme/gif and use it.

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Jesus, dont tell cats there are memes about them, they'll have us!!!

abracadabra1980 · 17/08/2024 13:44

StSwithinsDay · 17/08/2024 13:40

He's 11. He shouldn't be on WhatsApp for starters.

This.

Saltedbutter · 17/08/2024 13:44

Can you explain your issue with it?
Do you find it racist? Or do you also have issues with him posting memes of white people? Just trying to get some context as you’ve given very little.

Hectorscalling · 17/08/2024 13:44

mazxim · 17/08/2024 13:43

Backstory: He himself reported someone on the chat for using the N word when it was used against him. So for him to then post the meme, I think is not appropriate.

you jumped the shark there.

Its nowhere near similar to using the n word.

MonsteraMama · 17/08/2024 13:43

Wait is he just using a reaction meme in response to a post like this (in which case I don't see how that's racist)

Season 2 Shade GIF by Martin
soupfiend · 17/08/2024 13:43

Goody2ShoesAndTheFilthyBeast · 17/08/2024 13:40

Isn't it when you look at someone in a suspicious way?
Giving someone the side eye.

Unless adding bombastic changes it.

Wasn't there a song called bombastic? Something about TV?

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Mr Bombastic?

Showing my age there

So memes of any other ethnicity and taking the piss out of people period (of any ethnicity) is generally what people do, but not about black people?

Whats that about?

Whats racist about looking at someone suspiciously

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 17/08/2024 13:43

mazxim · 17/08/2024 13:40

Yes. That is my point. We live in an asian country and kids go to international school.

I grew up in Britain. I said although you do not think it is racist, it is in fact a. racist action, and this is not for entertainment. He said what if I posted a white person. I said you need to understand the history of black people, and you shouldn't post just because others do.

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Is he Asian?

Asian people have historical racial issues too

Isittimeformynapyet · 17/08/2024 13:43

Nip it in the bud, OP.

As the adult you didn't need to have a huge row with your 11yr old son - you just tell him that it's unacceptable and explain why.

A colleague's partner once shared a racist joke on my WhatsApp and I immediately replied "I can't believe you thought I would find that funny. Never share anything with me again".

It's not even up for discussion, let alone a row.

Hadjab · 17/08/2024 13:43

Overtheatlantic · 17/08/2024 13:37

It’s racist. Black people don’t exist for the amusement of others.

That’s ridiculous. As a black person, I use memes of white people, black people, cats, dogs, et al. I find the most appropriate meme/gif and use it.

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mazxim · 17/08/2024 13:43

Backstory: He himself reported someone on the chat for using the N word when it was used against him. So for him to then post the meme, I think is not appropriate.

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