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to tell son NOT to post memes of black people

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mazxim · 17/08/2024 13:34

Please help me . Huge row with 11 year old.

His friend posted a meme of a black person with "bombastic side eye".

He wants to repost it to some silly comment.

I said it is wrong and not the right thing to do even if the person "bombastic side eye" posted it himself on tin tok.

Please give me your thoughts.

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Posypippin · 17/08/2024 14:15

mazxim · 17/08/2024 13:41

its a meme of a black guy giving the side eye

That in itself is not racist no… unless replying to a common with context to make it racist I suppose?

Katemax82 · 17/08/2024 14:15

Overtheatlantic · 17/08/2024 13:37

It’s racist. Black people don’t exist for the amusement of others.

If the exact same thing was done with a white person is that OK? The mere fact they are black means you can't include them in anything?

Bromptotoo · 17/08/2024 14:14

After a bit of Googling I've learned that a bombastic side eye seems to be a sort of dirty or doubting look.

It's not related to race so I can't see why a meme with a black person doing one is racist.

SummerSplashing · 17/08/2024 14:14

mazxim · 17/08/2024 13:43

Backstory: He himself reported someone on the chat for using the N word when it was used against him. So for him to then post the meme, I think is not appropriate.

@mazxim

thsts totally different. No wonder your kid is confused by you.

Danglers · 17/08/2024 14:13

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Demonhunter · 17/08/2024 14:12

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Demonhunter · 17/08/2024 14:11

One of the many memes using it in the last few years...

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Fargo79 · 17/08/2024 14:07

Reugny · 17/08/2024 13:46

Well if he can't behave in an appropriate manner when he has contact with them, them he has to live with the consequences.

You are his parent not his buddy.

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In what way has he behaved inappropriately?

BunsHun · 17/08/2024 14:06

As a 25 year old of mixed heritage, this is not racist at all. It's literally a meme. The joke would remain the same even if the person in the meme was White or Asian.

Edit: It's pretty exhausting watching people get offended FOR black people. If black people themselves aren't offended, why are you? This whole race thing is getting ridiculous imo.

Wordsmithery · 17/08/2024 14:04

I don't see what's racist but tbh I'm not sure I've fully grasped the meaning of bombastic side eye. If you're saying you shouldn't have memes of black people then that's ridiculous. Memes don't have to be rude, do they?

LadeOde · 17/08/2024 14:04

Just did a google of bombastic side eye meme, and it's almost full of black children some with captions of 'criminal side eye' which i find quite offensive, so yes, i'd say it definitely is in racist territory.

DontBiteTheCat · 17/08/2024 14:02

Do you mean similar to this meme, which has been doing the rounds for months using black people, white people, animals and even Shrek?

Why have you chosen to make this about race and then post about it online?

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Saltedbutter · 17/08/2024 14:00

GreyTS · 17/08/2024 13:56

Gotta love white people, always jumping in to tell people shit is not racist 🙄 my friend is black and she doesn't find that racist.....same on a thread the other day, Irish people explaining calmly why a saying was offensive but no you all know better, your Irish grandmother/ friend/partner think it's hilarious. Honestly you Brits are literally violently racist, just say you don't give a shit and stop trying to justify yourselves and your language towards minorities

Thankfully you, the hero of civilisation, have arrived to explain to everyone why it’s racist. But you haven’t.

All you’ve done is make racist comments. In fact, the only racism on here is from you….

5128gap · 17/08/2024 13:59

Its nuanced. You won't get a consensus either way on here, probably nowhere tbh. But the point is, you don't need it. He's 11. If you as the responsible adult in charge of him have sufficient doubt to question it, then don't allow it. Its hardly a huge impeachment of his rights to tell him not to do something you find controversial. In 7 years time he will have the rest of his life ahead to make his own decision. Right now, you're in charge.

Hectorscalling · 17/08/2024 13:57

GreyTS · 17/08/2024 13:56

Gotta love white people, always jumping in to tell people shit is not racist 🙄 my friend is black and she doesn't find that racist.....same on a thread the other day, Irish people explaining calmly why a saying was offensive but no you all know better, your Irish grandmother/ friend/partner think it's hilarious. Honestly you Brits are literally violently racist, just say you don't give a shit and stop trying to justify yourselves and your language towards minorities

Do piss off.

I am not white. You do realise plenty of people are British and also not white.

You do realise that people post on MN who are not white and are not British don’t you?

Hectorscalling · 17/08/2024 13:56

RedHelenB · 17/08/2024 13:53

In that case I agree he should steer clear, it might muddy the waters a bit But as others say ges too young for these apps.

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How would it muddy the waters.

Posting memes is fine

posting memes along with the n word isn’t not fine. The water is crystal clear. The difference is crystal clear.

I would be really concerned if people couldn’t see the difference between to 2. The meme is not the problem. Accompanying it by racist language is

GreyTS · 17/08/2024 13:56

Gotta love white people, always jumping in to tell people shit is not racist 🙄 my friend is black and she doesn't find that racist.....same on a thread the other day, Irish people explaining calmly why a saying was offensive but no you all know better, your Irish grandmother/ friend/partner think it's hilarious. Honestly you Brits are literally violently racist, just say you don't give a shit and stop trying to justify yourselves and your language towards minorities

silverjackal · 17/08/2024 13:55

What's race got to do with anything here?

Lemia · 17/08/2024 13:54

I think it’s a bit ridiculous telling him he can only post memes of people of his own race.

Sandwichgen · 17/08/2024 13:53

Surely only wrong if he is doing it to amplify what the other kid did?

SummerSplashing · 17/08/2024 13:53

Reugny · 17/08/2024 13:42

He's legally too young for WhatsApp and tik tok.

Tell him if he posts it you will ban him from the apps until he shows he is mature enough to be allowed to use them, then follow through by confiscating his phone and replacing it with a dumb phone.

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@Reugny

why shouldn't he post it?

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