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Bumblebeestiltskin · 02/08/2024 15:27

What everyone else is saying, sorry OP. Didn't it make you stop and think why he's not bothered about seeing you after a month away?

Sunnydiary · 02/08/2024 15:26

Have you ever been to his home?

Cocothecoconut · 02/08/2024 15:24

Your his side piece
find a better one

savethatkitty · 02/08/2024 15:23

You're being ridiculous for somehow thinking you are in a relationship with this man. I don't even think your in the top 10 list of his priorities (sorry).

KreedKafer · 02/08/2024 15:20

I think the relationship is probably over, OP. He just doesn't have the guts to tell you.

SamW98 · 02/08/2024 15:20

The same as your other thread - this guy ain’t single.

Who was he away with? I’d lay money on it being the wife who doesn’t know they’re separated (because they’re not)

Honestly this one isn’t even subtle - you’re his bit on the side and he’s either now bored with you or got someone else.

Find your self respect. Stevie Wonder could see the red flags with this bloke.

BigPussyEnergy · 02/08/2024 15:19

Buddysbunda · 02/08/2024 14:37

If he wanted to, he would. Send this one back.

Was about to say the same thing. However…

My ex used to travel a lot on business - usually 2-3 weeks sometimes longer. When he got back he’d come straight to see me and spend an hour, then head home to see his DCs, which I was totally understanding about. I’d always suggest he spend the first two days home with them, then come and see me. A few times he would tell them he’d be home the following day and stay at mine, which was lovely of him, but most of the time I accepted that he should be with them first. It sucks, but that’s life when your other half is a parent.

i don’t see anything wrong with him seeing the kids first, but he should WANT to see you, and try to squeeze in some time with you as soon as he can. This one doesn’t seem that bothered.

5128gap · 02/08/2024 15:16

I agree with PPs. He is extracting himself from your relationship. There's no way if he was keen you'd have had to insist on meeting him at the airport after a month. Nor would 'being on holiday in his mind' mean a holiday from you. I think you have two choices dependent on your appetite for straight talk. Either call him and tell him you have noted the distance and assume he no longer wants to continue seeing each other. Or alternatively do nothing and allow him to fizzle out. Don't argue the rights or wrongs of wanting to see him or accept crumbs and excuses.

sunsetsandboardwalks · 02/08/2024 15:13

Starlight1979 · 02/08/2024 14:54

OP I have just noticed your other thread from last week with completely different details to this post.

Anyway, based on the key facts in this and your other post (he doesn't let you ring him, doesn't respond to your messages, can't be with you overnight, doesn't arrange to see you etc) I'm going to point out the glaringly obvious.

He is married / in a relationship with someone else.

The fact he says you can't ring him and he can't reply to texts in case he is with his daughter is absolute bullshit. it's because he is with his wife / girlfriend.

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Well, that explains a lot.

Rickrolypoly · 02/08/2024 15:10

You're not his girlfriend sweetie. Just move on and find someone who is interested in you. This man is not.

IamSmarticus · 02/08/2024 15:06

You are not ridiculous in wanting to see him but for some reason, it doesn't sound like he wants to see you unfortunately.

In fact after reading your other post, I would tend to agree with a PP that he is either married or in a relationship with someone else. Even if he isn't, this isn't a relationship, you need to get rid and find someone else.

BobandRobertaSmith · 02/08/2024 15:04

How long have you been dating? If it’s only been a matter of months, he has a DD you don’t know yet, maybe you are being a bit demanding… Realistically, if he has a child, he is never going to be able to stay over whenever you want, he has commitments, she should be a priority. Perhaps this relationship isn’t for you.

If it’s a long term relationship, he’s just not that into you…

Justcallmebebes · 02/08/2024 14:57

Starlight1979 · 02/08/2024 14:54

OP I have just noticed your other thread from last week with completely different details to this post.

Anyway, based on the key facts in this and your other post (he doesn't let you ring him, doesn't respond to your messages, can't be with you overnight, doesn't arrange to see you etc) I'm going to point out the glaringly obvious.

He is married / in a relationship with someone else.

The fact he says you can't ring him and he can't reply to texts in case he is with his daughter is absolute bullshit. it's because he is with his wife / girlfriend.

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This doesn't sound good at all. This is not a relationship. I'd bin and move on

Starlight1979 · 02/08/2024 14:57

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coxesorangepippin · 02/08/2024 14:54

He's not your boyfriend

Starlight1979 · 02/08/2024 14:54

bradmore47 · 02/08/2024 14:27

Basically my boyfriend of 2 years has been travelling as he had a month off between jobs - I haven't seen him since 16 July properly (I picked him up from the airport on Weds but I had to insist as we didnt have anything in the diary - and just had to drop him home as he had to look after DD) - he won't commit to seeing me citing summer holidays being difficult. We have an evening event next week to go to but he can't stay the night and then nothing in the diary. I miss him and I just want us to spend some time together but he won't commit because he is still on holiday in his mind. Am I being ridiculous about wanting to see him?

OP I have just noticed your other thread from last week with completely different details to this post.

Anyway, based on the key facts in this and your other post (he doesn't let you ring him, doesn't respond to your messages, can't be with you overnight, doesn't arrange to see you etc) I'm going to point out the glaringly obvious.

He is married / in a relationship with someone else.

The fact he says you can't ring him and he can't reply to texts in case he is with his daughter is absolute bullshit. it's because he is with his wife / girlfriend.

OuchIsLife · 02/08/2024 14:54

Have a word with yourself. Why do you want to have this person as your boyfriend if he doesn't want to see you?

sunsetsandboardwalks · 02/08/2024 14:51

How is it a relationship if you never see each other?

DaniMontyRae · 02/08/2024 14:47

It's been 2 weeks since 16th July not a month.

And you've seen him at the 2 week mark to pick him up from the airport and you are spending time with him again next week (week 3).

Starlight1979 · 02/08/2024 14:47

he won't commit because he is still on holiday in his mind.

Huh? What the hell does that mean?

But anyway yeah I agree with everyone else, he's not interested. Cheeky fucker wanting a lift home from the airport though.

Comingupriver · 02/08/2024 14:45

I said YABU and you are to be in a relationship with this man. He clearly isn’t treating you or prioritising you. Move on and find happiness. Don’t chase him.

Olika · 02/08/2024 14:44

If he really was into you he would turn the heaven and earth to be with you. Just end it.

DelphiniumBlue · 02/08/2024 14:43

Whats the deal with his DD? As he's been away for a month, is it now his turn to look after his child, hence the summer hols "being difficult"?
But, sorry, I agree with everyone else, if he wanted to see you he would be making some effort.

StormingNorman · 02/08/2024 14:40

He’s not that into you.

BeeCucumber · 02/08/2024 14:40

He is hoping you will end it so that he doesn’t have to. Sorry.