DP weird relationship with ex

@BowlOfNoodles but I'm not going to have a go at him for that. In my eyes if you are intentionally keeping something from me then you're doing something wrong

Again, it's not really the lift that's bothering me, he literally called me as he got to where he was going and said oh you got there fast he just said yeah and changed the subject, had he of told me it wouldn't be as much of an issue as he had tried to hide it like if it's a lift why hide it?

Just for the record I don't believe anything has happened between them since we've been together and I do think he bows down to her just to have an easy life and she is the type if he says no to something she will stop him seeing his DD. It's just an odd situation. I'm not sure if there's feelings there still, he swears there isn't but it's like she can say something and he will agree then make that his opinion when relaying it to me as if it's him but it isn't it's very odd

You're not invited because you don't get on.
You shouldn't interfere at all. Just don't ask about his ex and ask him not to tell you.
He is calling her when you're not there because you're suspicious.

People saying an ex can't do a favour? IMO if there's children involved that's a very immature stance.

I feed my ex's cat when he takes the kids away... because he doesn't know anyone else round here and I don't want my kids' cat to die... it's not because I'm trying to be his friend or like going to his house.

I kind of just thought as he spends all his time with our DD he would want 1-1 time with his DD, I did mention to him before about it and he says things like oh do you want to come everywhere with me, do you want a tracker on me etc so I left it. Now I wonder if his ex has told him to spend time with her without us or he simply doesn't want to I don't even know anymore

@BowlOfNoodles she uses the child everytime, talks about how she is alone and pays for everything - he gives her maintenance every month and when takes DD out buys her anything she wants but she still constantly asks and he gives, even if that means having to ask me for money at the end of the month until he's paid. I've paid for mostly everything for our DD the only time I ever brought it up was because he never offers to help me pay so
He said he will give me the amount he gives his ex which I declined as I don't think that's fair at all and he would be left short which isn't fair and
Would fall back on me helping anyway

@BowlOfNoodles she uses the child everytime, talks about how she is alone and pays for everything - he gives her maintenance every month and when takes DD out buys her anything she wants but she still constantly asks and he gives, even if that means having to ask me for money at the end of the month until he's paid. I've paid for mostly everything for our DD the only time I ever brought it up was because he never offers to help me pay so
He said he will give me the amount he gives his ex which I declined as I don't think that's fair at all and he would be left short which isn't fair and
Would fall back on me helping anyway

I gotta be honest the strong independent woman in me wouldn’t ask for a lift. I left you for a reasons and to be dependent on you, na thanks not for me, I got more pride. Maybe she’s the same.

to your exs ex, that’s wrong, children are a joint venture and they cost simple as. My ex paid maintenance obvs and anything they needed. Again his ex didn’t do or take them anywhere mostly due to not being able to drive and would constantly tell the kids to ask there dad to take them x y z place. They went out and I mean out out involving 2 - 5 hour journeys to make their wishes come true re birthdays and the like but we weren’t made of money and grew tired of always being the ones going on £200 days out because mum said ask dad.

when I was with my ex, in each situation that came up, I wore different hats. I wore the hat of how their mum felt relating it to my mum being a single mum, how the kids felt relating it to how I felt growing up and lastly my hat, how I felt as a partner. I’d always try to find a middle ground between all 3.

I really tried my best and I always tried to be fair to all of us. You can’t please all the people all of the time. But I’ve learnt I can’t always be the one to be disappointed.

my ex did respect some of what I said wasn’t ok for me and not others, his lack of boundaries with his ex is what made me finally snap. But as I said earlier, I made it clear to him, he chose to make her happy, I decided it was a hill I’d die on. I left.

@BowlOfNoodles also nothing to do with the child, I would never keep him from seeing her and would never tell him not to give money, she bleeds him dry every month saying she has no money she does it all alone blah blah, his money his choice. I am the one spending my money on our daughter due to this without saying anything

@EG94 I do regret not listening to the Ted flags at the beginning, it was way worse back then, believe it or not we've come far with this

On the same token with this situation and ops lack of tolerance I believe she'll feel resentment when she's the ex and you've always gonna remember tomorrow! I'm positive absolutely positive that she won't appreciate the next Mrs saying he can't give her a lift! I've seen these situations play out numerous times. The baby fathers gf that gave me hell telling my sons dad not to contribute towards school uniforms because I could afford it etc... is now in ex what goes around comes around remember that always