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To think the hilarity just wasn’t necessary?

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DonnySue · 21/07/2024 20:41

Was at my grandmas earlier with DD (9). My sister, her husband and their kids were there too. We were talking about history and I was absolutely fascinated by it (I love history, especially British history) and at one point I took myself outside into the garden to have a few minutes of thinking and reflection on what we’d been talking about.
DD came out to ask what I was doing and I said “just having a few minutes to reflect on what we’ve been chatting about”.

She went back inside and then I heard howls of laughter coming from the living room. DD had told them what I’d said and they were all in stitches over it. It really ruined my thoughts and I tried to get the topic back up and running but sister kept saying everyone was still reflecting - cue more hilarity.

was what I said really that bloody funny?? Pissed off but also a bit embarrassed 😞

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MilkTwoSugarsThanks · 21/07/2024 21:08

its my absolute favourite topic and I was dying to just go off and think about it by myself for a while

Sorry Donny but that's weird.

AzureAnt · 21/07/2024 21:07

Tbh OP it does come across as a bit pretentious and honestly if a sibling or a friend if mine said it I think I would struggle to keep a straight face 😑

Overtired345 · 21/07/2024 21:06

How....weird and intense of you. I'm afraid that is a very unusual reaction and will absolutely bring some eye rolls, if not laughter, in any normal circle

KarenOnTour · 21/07/2024 21:06

It really isnt that big a deal, dont feel defensive op

Tarantella6 · 21/07/2024 21:05

It is a bit earnest. I would have smirked, I admit. How deep was the conversation that you needed to reflect on it?! I suspect your dd was baffled, said it in a funny way and they were trying to reassure her that they weren't laughing at her.

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DonnySue · 21/07/2024 21:04

We were talking about the medieval times and the Anglo Scottish wars.

its my absolute favourite topic and I was dying to just go off and think about it by myself for a while so I simply said “I’m just popping outside for a minute”. What’s attention seeking about that?? The “reflection” thing was said to DD in private

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HolyPeaches · 21/07/2024 21:02

MonsteraMama · 21/07/2024 20:58

Oh bless you, it's nice that you're so passionate and invested in the topic but you must realise that this is a very weird thing to do?

It's just a bit pompous and intense isn't it? If that's who you are absolutely own it, but also be prepared to be roasted for it a bit by your nearest and dearest. Everyone is weird in their own way, just own it!

OP, please ignore this patronising comment.

What you did, is not a weird thing to do at all. Nor is it pompous or intense.

AnneLovesGilbert · 21/07/2024 21:02

You’ve got to tell us which bit of history it was.

MyOtherCarisAVauxhallZafira · 21/07/2024 21:01

If I said this my brother would never stop laughing. It sounds quite pretentious OP.
You could've just said I was getting some fresh air/taking 5 minutes.

Hillrunning · 21/07/2024 21:01

Look, it is horrible that they made fun of you but surely you realise it isn't a usual thing to do. I'm not condemning, being autistic, I have certain subjects that I adore thinking about but even I know not to tell anyone else quite how intensely I feel about the topics because other people will find it odd.

They were mean and rude to you and I'm sorry for that but you have now learnt something valuable - that they don't think the way you do and can't be trusted not to use that against you.

LostTheMarble · 21/07/2024 21:00

VeterinaryCareAssistant · 21/07/2024 20:55

Do you scream and howl in the Sistene Chapel?
Iykyk

It’s definitely giving Sistine Chapel isn’t it…

MrsTartanTeacosy · 21/07/2024 20:59

It sounds like you felt a real connection to what you were talking about, don’t feel bad about that!
Did it feel like loving laughter, or mean laughter? My adult children will sometimes be laughing over my, shall we say eccentricities, but I always feel it’s family closeness nothing else and laugh at myself too…it’s a nice atmosphere whereas yours doesn’t sound like you felt it was?

MonsteraMama · 21/07/2024 20:58

Oh bless you, it's nice that you're so passionate and invested in the topic but you must realise that this is a very weird thing to do?

It's just a bit pompous and intense isn't it? If that's who you are absolutely own it, but also be prepared to be roasted for it a bit by your nearest and dearest. Everyone is weird in their own way, just own it!

Doingmybest12 · 21/07/2024 20:57

What part of British History were you talking about to need to withdraw and reflect during the visit. Maybe something horrific ? But then I wouldn't describe that as fascinating. Your DD did make you look a bit silly by repeating what you said, I'm not surprised they had a bit of a laugh about it. You've got to own it I think, I'm afraid it might get brought up again when ever you are all together.

Acapulco12 · 21/07/2024 20:56

DonnySue · 21/07/2024 20:53

I didn’t announce it, I actually said I’m just popping outside. I told DD when she asked what I was doing sat outside

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Ah okay, sorry I misunderstood. What did you say when you were leaving to go outside? I do think it wasn’t nice of them to laugh at you though (although I’m sure it was well meant ❤️)

StopInhalingRevels · 21/07/2024 20:55

Jifmicroliquid · 21/07/2024 20:49

I’m afraid I’d laugh at a relative or friend if they said that. It just seems a bit… intense?

Next time just say you’re having a bit of fresh air maybe.

Exactly this.

It's a bit attention seeky, when "I just popped out for some air" would have been more than sufficient. It just backfired a bit as the attention you got, was laughing.

Barrenfieldoffucks · 21/07/2024 20:55

Sounds like you might scream at paintings tbh.

Anyway, you're not unreasonable to do what you did, unusual perhaps. Especially if it was a conversation you were enjoying but then missed a load of. But equally it may have seemed amusing. Presumably your relationship is normally good and you could assume their mirth was intended in good humour?

VeterinaryCareAssistant · 21/07/2024 20:55

Do you scream and howl in the Sistene Chapel?
Iykyk

AnnaL94 · 21/07/2024 20:54

I think they were rude to laugh, and then to continue saying “we’re reflecting” to make fun of you. It’s bullying to make someone feel embarrassed when they’re not equally participating in the “banter”.

You sound a lot more intelligent than them OP.

Never stop being you.

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DonnySue · 21/07/2024 20:53

Acapulco12 · 21/07/2024 20:51

I don’t think it was fair of them to laugh at you (although I’m sure it was light-hearted), but I’m curious about what made you want to decide to leave the conversation and reflect on it and announce it to everyone.

I really do mean this kindly and gently, but if I was mid-conversation with anyone (friends, family or anyone else) and they suddenly said they were excusing themselves to reflect on what we’d been talking about, I’d think they were a bit pompous (unless we were talking about something very serious and life-changing, obviously!)

I didn’t announce it, I actually said I’m just popping outside. I told DD when she asked what I was doing sat outside

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SoYoung · 21/07/2024 20:52

I'd have laughed too, it's a bit over the top! Don't you feel a bit daft?

Blondiney · 21/07/2024 20:51

😂

Acapulco12 · 21/07/2024 20:51

I don’t think it was fair of them to laugh at you (although I’m sure it was light-hearted), but I’m curious about what made you want to decide to leave the conversation and reflect on it and announce it to everyone.

I really do mean this kindly and gently, but if I was mid-conversation with anyone (friends, family or anyone else) and they suddenly said they were excusing themselves to reflect on what we’d been talking about, I’d think they were a bit pompous (unless we were talking about something very serious and life-changing, obviously!)

HRTQueen · 21/07/2024 20:51

Sorry I would laugh 😬 seems a little over involved

LemonMead · 21/07/2024 20:51

Aw, OP. Im sorry it hurt you. I think I’d have had a wee giggle too, but with you rather than at you. It’s quite endearing that you went off for a think.

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