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Is it safe for my 7 month old to sleep in the cot?

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YourZingyLilacDreamer · 18/07/2024 23:28

I'm having an awful time with baby and sleep.

If I put him in the cot and I stay in the bed, is it safe? I will be on the opposite side with a single duvet.

There is a gap where the two mattresses meet where the Ikea cot bar is. Can he suffocate? He can roll and has a snuze alarm on.

I'm worried sick but I need a way to transfer him back to the cot or co sleep safely

Is it safe for my 7 month old to sleep in the cot?
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3luckystars · 18/07/2024 23:29

Could you get a bed rail for the cot?

Allnewtometoo · 18/07/2024 23:31

I had this set up with ds2 from birth. I slept close to him, with the duvet only ever over my bottom half..

Overthebow · 18/07/2024 23:32

It would be better if you slept next to baby rather than having a big gap.

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YourZingyLilacDreamer · 18/07/2024 23:33

That's the gap.... It's the bottom of the cot, more a dip.

Is it safe for my 7 month old to sleep in the cot?
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YourZingyLilacDreamer · 18/07/2024 23:34

Overthebow · 18/07/2024 23:32

It would be better if you slept next to baby rather than having a big gap.

I can't sleep as I pull the duvets up when I'm asleep....

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YourZingyLilacDreamer · 18/07/2024 23:34

3luckystars · 18/07/2024 23:29

Could you get a bed rail for the cot?

Like put the cot back up normal?

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YourZingyLilacDreamer · 18/07/2024 23:35

Allnewtometoo · 18/07/2024 23:31

I had this set up with ds2 from birth. I slept close to him, with the duvet only ever over my bottom half..

Yeah I can't sleep with a duvet half on me. What about using the baby blanket? That's waffle material?

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YourZingyLilacDreamer · 18/07/2024 23:37

Overthebow · 18/07/2024 23:32

It would be better if you slept next to baby rather than having a big gap.

And risk rolling on him or him going under the covers? I thought this is safer as a separate sleep space dedicated to him?

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3luckystars · 18/07/2024 23:37

No a bed rail, like you would use for a toddler or small child. Or you could put the cot side up part of the way too, then you could still put them into the cot safely, they couldn’t roll anywhere and if the climbed over (unlikely) they would be on the bed anyway.

Readytoevolve · 18/07/2024 23:38

I wouldn’t sleep like that personally. I suggest putting the cot side up.

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YourZingyLilacDreamer · 18/07/2024 23:38

3luckystars · 18/07/2024 23:37

No a bed rail, like you would use for a toddler or small child. Or you could put the cot side up part of the way too, then you could still put them into the cot safely, they couldn’t roll anywhere and if the climbed over (unlikely) they would be on the bed anyway.

That would be less safe as they could get wedged between.

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YourZingyLilacDreamer · 18/07/2024 23:39

Readytoevolve · 18/07/2024 23:38

I wouldn’t sleep like that personally. I suggest putting the cot side up.

Why not?

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3luckystars · 18/07/2024 23:39

Or half up and enjoy your duvet!

Overthebow · 18/07/2024 23:39

YourZingyLilacDreamer · 18/07/2024 23:34

Like put the cot back up normal?

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I would put it back to a normal cot if you can’t co sleep safely, especially now your dc can roll and move about. That dip also isn’t safe.

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YourZingyLilacDreamer · 18/07/2024 23:39

Overthebow · 18/07/2024 23:39

I would put it back to a normal cot if you can’t co sleep safely, especially now your dc can roll and move about. That dip also isn’t safe.

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Why isn't that dip safe and how do I make it safe?

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3luckystars · 18/07/2024 23:40

YourZingyLilacDreamer · 18/07/2024 23:38

That would be less safe as they could get wedged between.

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No they couldn’t. In between what?

Good luck anyway and hope you get some sleep soon x

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YourZingyLilacDreamer · 18/07/2024 23:40

3luckystars · 18/07/2024 23:39

Or half up and enjoy your duvet!

Costs dont come half up anymore. They don't slide up and down

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Quitelikeacatslife · 18/07/2024 23:40

Why can't he just sleep in the fully made up cot? What am I missing?

Growuppeople · 18/07/2024 23:40

Just put him in a normal cot? Put all the sides on if you can. They can still see you and be next to the bed

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YourZingyLilacDreamer · 18/07/2024 23:41

3luckystars · 18/07/2024 23:40

No they couldn’t. In between what?

Good luck anyway and hope you get some sleep soon x

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In between the bed guard and the cot. It's not safe, not approved for that.

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YourZingyLilacDreamer · 18/07/2024 23:41

Growuppeople · 18/07/2024 23:40

Just put him in a normal cot? Put all the sides on if you can. They can still see you and be next to the bed

He's not going back to sleep when I transfer.

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Gettoachiro · 18/07/2024 23:41

I'd go with putting the cot side back in fully.

Have you tried him in his own room yet sleeping? It might be that he just wants peace and quiet if not.

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YourZingyLilacDreamer · 18/07/2024 23:42

Quitelikeacatslife · 18/07/2024 23:40

Why can't he just sleep in the fully made up cot? What am I missing?

He won't transfer in the early morning. Tried everything. Needs to be held and I'm hoping this is a good way to transfer. I'm exhausted.

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Overthebow · 18/07/2024 23:42

YourZingyLilacDreamer · 18/07/2024 23:39

Why isn't that dip safe and how do I make it safe?

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Because unless the cot is specifically made and tested to be an attached next to me cot, and attached properly to the bed so it can’t move, the gap could be too large or it could start to slide and baby become wedged. To make it safe either get a proper next to me cot designed to be used like this, or put the side back on.

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YourZingyLilacDreamer · 18/07/2024 23:42

Gettoachiro · 18/07/2024 23:41

I'd go with putting the cot side back in fully.

Have you tried him in his own room yet sleeping? It might be that he just wants peace and quiet if not.

Yes I'm constantly getting up as he's screaming past midnight and won't stop until I lift him up..nothing is helping

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