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Jay Slaters mum asking for more donations

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cauliflowercheeseplease · 18/07/2024 22:32

I understand it's an awful thing that's happened but the Gofundme has reached almost 60k and Jay's mum is asking for more donation to give him a memorable send off.
I'm sure there is more than enough left to enable her to do this after she's paid out those that have helped with the search? Although I did read somewhere some of those that flew out went home earlier as she didn't pay as promised?
Is this wrong of me to say?

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IllMetByMoonlight · 18/07/2024 23:26

cauliflowercheeseplease · 18/07/2024 23:19

Do you not think it's bad taste really to ask people for more donations when they've had 60k already? Why should it be up to strangers to pay for her son's funeral? If you want to donate then that's your choice but I'm sure his family and friends could all pull together to make his funeral memorable if they genuinely cared

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I know nothing about this case; I've not read about it, don't have a TV so not seen any news coverage, and d e f i n i t e l y haven't noseyed around it on socials. But I couldn't ever bring myself so low as to berate a bereft mother on a parenting forum.
Check yourselves!?

PixieLaLar · 18/07/2024 23:26

The whole go fund me doesn’t sit right. The way it was created the same day he went missing and now asking for more money….60k is WAY more than enough to transport a body back to the uk and have a funeral.

Comedycook · 18/07/2024 23:26

Skinglow · 18/07/2024 23:22

Calling them the 'lower' classes is all I need to know about you.

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Lower, upper, meh. The class structure in the UK is entrenched I'm afraid.

And yes look at the people discussing this on Facebook, the interest in this case has been overwhelmingly from the working class section of society. They feel like he is one of their own, hence why they are so willing to donate

TheTigerWhoCameToEatMyArsehole · 18/07/2024 23:26

Skinglow · 18/07/2024 22:40

What do you want from this thread? People to slag off a woman who has just lost her son?

Are you one of the people who are trolling her on SM?

She lost him a month ago.

Rosellabella · 18/07/2024 23:24

People choose to donate and maybe she will use it for counselling because that’s a terrible thing to happen to someone

Itisjustmyopinion · 18/07/2024 23:22

MakeMeAirtight · 18/07/2024 23:12

Dont speak ill of the dead.

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He doesn’t deserve any kindness at all

Skinglow · 18/07/2024 23:22

Comedycook · 18/07/2024 23:19

I think the whole situation is actually quite an interesting insight into social classes in the UK.

I've noticed on Facebook that the working classes have embraced this story and ironically the lower, poorer classes are usually the type who are most likely to donate to something like this.

Calling them the 'lower' classes is all I need to know about you.

TaylorSwish · 18/07/2024 23:21

MakeMeAirtight · 18/07/2024 23:12

Dont speak ill of the dead.

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So you want me to lie and say he was a kind, studious guy who never hurt a soul? 🙄

MakeMeAirtight · 18/07/2024 23:21

murasaki · 18/07/2024 23:20

Does that also apply to Fred West, Harold Shipman, Myra Hindley and the Krays?

Just asking.

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Yawwwwwwwn

murasaki · 18/07/2024 23:20

MakeMeAirtight · 18/07/2024 23:12

Dont speak ill of the dead.

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Does that also apply to Fred West, Harold Shipman, Myra Hindley and the Krays?

Just asking.

LuluBlakey1 · 18/07/2024 23:19

Rantypanties · 18/07/2024 22:43

I’m sure they’ll be able to claim on his insurance for repatriation…

Really? I'd be astonished if he had bothered with travel insurance.

The British Consulate are making the arrangements which suggests the government will be picking up that bill.

Comedycook · 18/07/2024 23:19

I think the whole situation is actually quite an interesting insight into social classes in the UK.

I've noticed on Facebook that the working classes have embraced this story and ironically the lower, poorer classes are usually the type who are most likely to donate to something like this.

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cauliflowercheeseplease · 18/07/2024 23:19

IllMetByMoonlight · 18/07/2024 23:15

Reporting this thread as in incredibly poor taste. A woman has lost her son.
What's the matter with you.
Ffs.

Do you not think it's bad taste really to ask people for more donations when they've had 60k already? Why should it be up to strangers to pay for her son's funeral? If you want to donate then that's your choice but I'm sure his family and friends could all pull together to make his funeral memorable if they genuinely cared

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ILoveToCleanSaidNooneEver · 18/07/2024 23:18

Haven't read the whole thread, but was he insured? How much does it cost for body repatriation?

I thought it was odd that a Go Fund Me was established hours after he went missing tbh.

The boy is dead, and it is clear it is misadventure, so whilst I won't be giving a donation, I'm certainly not criticising people who will.

My condolences to his family and friends.

Skinglow · 18/07/2024 23:17

Meltingwaxlady · 18/07/2024 23:13

If there was ever to be a charitable foundation we could hope for a foundation that campaigns for restrictions on armchair detectives and tiktok vultures , or at least the companies that give them a platform.

I'm actually pretty disgusted that MN hasn't shut this speculation down. Still I suppose the clicks mean MN doesn't need a Go Fund Me to keep going, unless you count the begging for Premium members.

murasaki · 18/07/2024 23:16

MakeMeAirtight · 18/07/2024 23:12

Dont speak ill of the dead.

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That's accurate, not speaking ill.

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cauliflowercheeseplease · 18/07/2024 23:16

Meltingwaxlady · 18/07/2024 23:13

If there was ever to be a charitable foundation we could hope for a foundation that campaigns for restrictions on armchair detectives and tiktok vultures , or at least the companies that give them a platform.

I have to agree with this. Crazy conspiracy theories that get spoken about are ridiculous. Not just on this case but many others. I don't think the creators care their thoughts could potentially interfere with court proceedings etc as everything has to be investigated

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IllMetByMoonlight · 18/07/2024 23:15

Reporting this thread as in incredibly poor taste. A woman has lost her son.
What's the matter with you.
Ffs.

murasaki · 18/07/2024 23:15

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Meltingwaxlady · 18/07/2024 23:13

If there was ever to be a charitable foundation we could hope for a foundation that campaigns for restrictions on armchair detectives and tiktok vultures , or at least the companies that give them a platform.

MakeMeAirtight · 18/07/2024 23:12

TaylorSwish · 18/07/2024 23:07

Most of us haven’t attempted to kill somebody by smashing their head in with a golf club so badly the skull is visable while laughing, only stopping when someone else intervened, laughed in court about it and then committed more crimes whilst serving community service. . .

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Dont speak ill of the dead.

Garlickest · 18/07/2024 23:12

My opinion of Jay hasn't changed since he went missing: he's just a teenage twit. Giggling in court for ABH, not being able to find his own way back to his hotel, yomping off across the mountains because he wanted breakfast despite being offered a lift, knowing there would be a bus, and his mate Bradley telling him not to try walking.

All those of us who've been teenage twits could've come to a sad end. I once crossed a Greek island on foot, following a goat track, in the middle of the night. I'm glad I didn't end up down a ravine and I'm sorry Jay did.

His parents - and the secretive Lucy - have been extremely opaque on why they want all this money, though. It's none of my business but I don't have to like 'em for it.

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TheFairyCaravan · 18/07/2024 23:11

If she wants her son to have a lavish send off then she needs to pay for it, not beg other people who are probably a lot less fortunate than her to do so.

He was a wrong un. Like it or not, it’s true. It’s sad a mother has lost her child, but she’s coming across as incredibly greedy imo.

billyt · 18/07/2024 23:10

Rantypanties · 18/07/2024 22:43

I’m sure they’ll be able to claim on his insurance for repatriation…

Do you really think he bothered about insurance.?

People like this go on holiday and when it goes wrong....

GoFundMe.