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DD14 school rules+uniform changes?

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mina879 · 08/07/2024 22:39

DD14's school has got a new head who is apparently making big changes...

The new uniform:
School sweatshirt
School polo shirt
School black trousers
School shoes or plain black trainers or plain black canvas shoes
No heels or boots

The old uniform:
School blazer
School shirt and tie
Black trousers/skirt
Leather school shoes
No trainers canvas shoes heels or boots

They're also apparently getting rid of detentions, toilet locking, isolations and stuff like that.

Apparently the school will be a 'pleasant and relaxing experience for everyone involved.'

The academy trust also did this to a school up north which apparently had only 1 permanent exclusion in a year after this compared to the 20 they had before!

DD said that they just had an assembly on it - there is a designated wall-attached phone worried students can call home from, teachers are no longer allowed to shout at kids, they now have vape alarms, no more prefects, and there is a 7 min break for using the toilet, water fountains, etcetera, they will now serve lunches made on the premises daily and PE will be thrice weekly!

Most of these changes are starting in September - but detentions, toilet locking, isolations, teachers shouting at students are already outlawed.

Assemblies for non-important matters such as say a competition or odd sock day are optional too!

I'm just curious what your thoughts on this are...

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Twodozenroses · 08/07/2024 23:09

I like the sound of it. We had uniform like that in secondary and it still has it now- polo shirt, jumper and trousers. Although I don’t think it has great behaviour but that’s not linked to the uniform. The kids look much comfort than the kids in my sons school and other schools near here with blazers ties and shirts

mina879 · 08/07/2024 23:17

Twodozenroses · 08/07/2024 23:09

I like the sound of it. We had uniform like that in secondary and it still has it now- polo shirt, jumper and trousers. Although I don’t think it has great behaviour but that’s not linked to the uniform. The kids look much comfort than the kids in my sons school and other schools near here with blazers ties and shirts

It is far better - I agree.

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lazzapazza · 08/07/2024 23:33

How the fuck did that oxygen thief get the job? There needs to be some amount of discipline or it will be chaos.

Easing of the uniform is a good idea however.

Marblessolveeverything · 08/07/2024 23:34

I am in Ireland this is our long lived norm.

No uniform respect to and from all school community no shouting. No ridiculous toilet rules and they haven't imploded. I actually feel ill reading the school rules on here sometimes.

Children doing well pleasant environment to visit and exam results excellent. I can clearly see great relationships across the school as being the priority.

They are regularly told how exams are one access point to success but being a decent functioning human is their priority. I know it obviously takes considerable work by the school team.

MulberryBushRoundabout · 08/07/2024 23:35

no one is able to force you to learn, so they try and make the lessons so nice kids will actively want to be in them.

God it’s so sad that this is ground breaking!

mina879 · 08/07/2024 23:54

lazzapazza · 08/07/2024 23:33

How the fuck did that oxygen thief get the job? There needs to be some amount of discipline or it will be chaos.

Easing of the uniform is a good idea however.

Edited

Gosh what a horrible post. Some people need to think before they press post.

She is very well-esteemed, and all the schools she has reformed have got better test results, less exclusions and happier students.

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Needmorelego · 08/07/2024 23:57

Sounds fantastic.
I hope it goes well.

mina879 · 09/07/2024 00:02

Needmorelego · 08/07/2024 23:57

Sounds fantastic.
I hope it goes well.

Thanks a lot :)

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2dogsandabudgie · 09/07/2024 07:45

mina879 · 08/07/2024 23:00

They have to do homework club during break.

So that is really detention then but it's called "homework club" instead.

Ineffable23 · 09/07/2024 07:52

I mean "second chance activities" and "homework club" both sound like detention by another name. But equally it's more of a natural consequences approach - didn't do your homework, have to spend free time doing homework.

I really hope it works out OP, it sounds like a good approach. My old school used to have detentions etc but it was only very few people who received them and most people were broadly well behaved. It meant it was mainly a nice environment to be in.

MrsTartanTeacosy · 09/07/2024 07:59

Okay, I’m clearly the one that’s going to have to ask - how does no locks in toilets work???

gingeristhenewblack43 · 09/07/2024 08:01

MrsTartanTeacosy · 09/07/2024 07:59

Okay, I’m clearly the one that’s going to have to ask - how does no locks in toilets work???

I think OP means the toilets aren't locked to prevent kids meeting up in there, rather than the cubicles have no locks.

NotRightNowPlease · 09/07/2024 08:02

MrsTartanTeacosy · 09/07/2024 07:59

Okay, I’m clearly the one that’s going to have to ask - how does no locks in toilets work???

I think meaning the students will have access rather than an allocated few minutes use.

Needmorelego · 09/07/2024 08:03

@MrsTartanTeacosy I would assume it means the toilets will be available for use throughout the whole school day rather than locked for most of it.

HelpMeGetThrough · 09/07/2024 08:05

I'm just curious what your thoughts on this are...

Looks great on paper, I think the reality will be very different.

stickygotstuck · 09/07/2024 08:09

Sounds great. Hopefully a hugely positive change for ND children especially.

My school (not UK) was very much like this, except for no uniform at all. It wasn't unusual or experimental, it was the norm.

I would be very interested in a update in a year's time or so, @mina879

GaspingGekko · 09/07/2024 08:14

My children's school is like this. But I'm another poster who's not in the UK.

It's honestly depressing to hear about what is considered normal rules in England. Here there are real relationships between teachers and students, children are engaged in the lessons, there is trust and community with parents and school.

OP I really hope that this works out for your DCs school.

CameToASuddenArborealStop · 09/07/2024 08:15

This sounds great, I hope it works.

My DC is at a private school which has a similar approach (very few rules, mostly natural consequences, no uniform, detentions and other punishments are rare, teachers treat the students as reasonable people, there’s a lot of humour - some of the HoY emails are very funny) and it works very well. I’ve always wondered if that’s because the school is selective, or whether it’s an approach that can work for most young people.

FateReset · 09/07/2024 08:15

Sounds great! Which parts are you worried about?

No shouting will stop teachers with a quick fuse losing their temper and yelling (often frightening the wrong students and having no effect on the ones who were misbehaving!) Or frightening the whole class by suddenly screeching over something. Too many teachers are lazy or lack skills or persistence needed to gain respect from students. IME the teachers who are genuinely respected and/or feared are the ones who never raise their voice.
Also stops teachers handing out detentions, isolations and exclusions for trivial things. So many more effective ways to discipline.

Comfortable uniform, nicer more nutritious food,

BuffaloCauliflower · 09/07/2024 08:15

Sounds brilliant, give the kids trust and autonomy so they can learn for their own sake. Treat them like people. I think it’ll be great.

Lindy2 · 09/07/2024 08:24

Marblessolveeverything · 08/07/2024 23:34

I am in Ireland this is our long lived norm.

No uniform respect to and from all school community no shouting. No ridiculous toilet rules and they haven't imploded. I actually feel ill reading the school rules on here sometimes.

Children doing well pleasant environment to visit and exam results excellent. I can clearly see great relationships across the school as being the priority.

They are regularly told how exams are one access point to success but being a decent functioning human is their priority. I know it obviously takes considerable work by the school team.

My neurodiverse DD would have been so much happier in this environment. She might have actually got a decent education.

My neurotypical DD would also thrive with this approach rather than just cope.

Unfortunately here we are stuck with strict uniform rules, detentions for every tiny infringement even if completely by mistake, the repeated message that if you don't pass your exams you are a life failure and a whole load of kids who finish education a shell of their former selves.

Arewealljustloosingtheplot · 09/07/2024 08:46

It sounds to me that they have abandoned all their standards for an easy life tbh. It wouldn’t be for me.

Life2Short4Nonsense · 09/07/2024 08:49

I would have loved this as a child.

But I do think black trousers in the summer will be too hot. Do they not get to wear shorts?

Boomer55 · 09/07/2024 08:52

cansu · 08/07/2024 22:44

Sounds lovely but unfortunately it will soon be a feral mess where kids control the classrooms and no one can learn anything. Good luck. I should also add that lots of teachers will leave. Check out who leaves at Xmas for signs about how well it is going.

Exactly. 🙄

Needmorelego · 09/07/2024 09:00

@cansu or maybe the students will appreciate being treated like actual humans and in a respectful manner so they won't piss around.