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To take an extra door lock to a hotel?

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MrsSchrute · 04/07/2024 17:59

I'm travelling alone for work next week, staying overnight in a hotel.

I'm thinking of buying an extra lock to secure the hotel door, I've read too many threads on here about people walking into hotel rooms to feel totally relaxed!

Am I being overcautious? Have you used an extra lock? Is there one you would recommend?

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RichardMarxisinnocent · 05/07/2024 11:08

I stay in a lot of premier inns and they all have either chains, or deadlocks. My understanding of the deadlocks is that no standard key card, even the ones used by housekeeping, will open a door which is dead locked. The hotel has very small number of emergency master keys (maybe 2 or 3) held by staff like the duty manager, or head of security, which will open deadlocked doors if needed (such as a fire and rooms need to checked for anyone who couldn't evacuate) . I've been in other hotels which have also had deadlocks. I always use the deadlock as soon as I enter a hotel room and never felt the need for anything else.

AstonMartha · 05/07/2024 10:58

I would usually say that you are being over cautious but Dh had someone walk in to his room last week (premier inn had given her a swipe). He had just got out of the shower and the poor woman was probably more traumatised than him!

I work away a lot and have never had a problem but it is now something that I will consider.

backinthebox · 05/07/2024 10:53

PS I do stay in some dodgy counties and cities, and find the dodgier the country, the more likely the hotel is to have better security.

One of my colleagues was a victim of a high profile kidnapping and beating recently, so I am pretty hot on hotel security. He was kidnapped outside of our safe zone though.

I know many more colleagues who have been in hotel fires though.

BitOutOfPractice · 05/07/2024 10:53

Please don’t wedge your door shut. The risk of not being able to escape in a fire, or for rescuers not to be able to get in, actually makes me want to cry.

Double lock the door, use the chain / bar.

backinthebox · 05/07/2024 10:51

I travel for work and every single hotel room I have ever stayed in has had a separate physical lock - a chain or bolt or one of those flip over bars. In 25 years of professional travel the only person I have heard of assaulted in their room had someone come in through their sliding door to the garden, which was not locked.

I check all the doors in my room when I first get into it, and there are always extra security latches. I mainly stay in high end chains. The only places I have not found these locks have been low budget B&Bs.

SoupDragon · 05/07/2024 10:50

Myblindsaredown · 05/07/2024 10:40

I find this bizzare, what’s the odds of someone smashing her hotel room door down and raping her? Has that ever happened?

You just set the alarm up so it goes off if the door is opened.

Myblindsaredown · 05/07/2024 10:40

Jutemat · 04/07/2024 18:01

I'd say take a rape alarm instead, I used to have one rigged up to my shed door.

I find this bizzare, what’s the odds of someone smashing her hotel room door down and raping her? Has that ever happened?

Myblindsaredown · 05/07/2024 10:39

Is it a really dodgy hotel? I travel for work regularly and it wouldn’t cross my mind to do this but to be honest I stay in chain hotels large ones in main cities nothing rough or dodgy,

Chersfrozenface · 05/07/2024 10:34

WolfFoxHare · 05/07/2024 10:27

TBH I don't think any hotel is completely safe but I always have felt safe in the ones I've stayed in.

And come to think of it, one of the hotels where I walked into an obviously occupied room with a genuine, working key card was a Hilton.

WolfFoxHare · 05/07/2024 10:27

Chersfrozenface · 05/07/2024 10:05

I wouldn't be too sure about Hiltons.

See this thread on what happened to one woman staying at a Hilton on expenses.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/_chat/5084579-sister-just-had-some-guy-walk-into-her-hotel-room

TBH I don't think any hotel is completely safe but I always have felt safe in the ones I've stayed in.

MsCrawford · 05/07/2024 10:23

I used to work away a lot, never had an issue with anyone getting in to the room- but did have a fire in a hotel in the middle of the night- which was a little scary. Whatever you get as an extra safety measure (which I think is a great idea) make sure you can get out quickly too

Chersfrozenface · 05/07/2024 10:05

WolfFoxHare · 05/07/2024 09:51

Maybe it depends on the hotel type - I'm usually in chains like Radisson or Hilton because they're always central, clean and feel safe - my expense account is pretty good.

I wouldn't be too sure about Hiltons.

See this thread on what happened to one woman staying at a Hilton on expenses.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/_chat/5084579-sister-just-had-some-guy-walk-into-her-hotel-room

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Maybe it depends on the hotel type - I'm usually in chains like Radisson or Hilton because they're always central, clean and feel safe - my expense account is pretty good.

StMarieforme · 04/07/2024 23:10

My advice is to make sure the receptionist doesn't announce your room number! They should pass it to you written down. I have refused a room when they have said it out loud, and told them that they now need to (silently) allocate me a new room.
I also compliment those who do it correctly.

coldcallerbaiter · 04/07/2024 22:59

spsy · 04/07/2024 20:45

I don't recall a single high-profile case in the media about a traveller who was assaulted by in a hotel room by a complete stranger
There was a news story last year about an x factor star who was raped when a hotel porter used his key to enter her room. www.theguardian.com/tv-and-radio/2023/jul/15/lucy-spraggan-reveals-she-was-sexually-attacked-during-x-factor

Real housewife of Cheshire Tanya also.

https://www.mirror.co.uk/3am/celebrity-news/real-housewives-cheshire-star-tanya-4975906.amp

Real Housewives of Cheshire star Tanya Bardsley reveals how she was sexually assaulted in hotel by worker

Tanya Bardsley – who is married to footballer Phil Bardsley – woke after a night out to find a stranger by her bed touching her

https://www.mirror.co.uk/3am/celebrity-news/real-housewives-cheshire-star-tanya-4975906.amp

curtaintwitcher78 · 04/07/2024 22:18

OldTinHat · 04/07/2024 21:07

Try it at home. Roll a towel up and push it tight against the bottom of the door (assuming carpeted floor btw) and then try and open your door and see what happens.

Ah that makes a bit more sense. I was thinking of the usual hard floor.

chutneypig · 04/07/2024 21:26

I travel a lot for work and most hotels I've stayed in recently have only had the kind of lock that automatically opens when you turn the handle from the inside. It wasn't very reassuring when someone tried to get in my room at 4am last month. Undoubtedly drunk and mistook their room but it still didn't do a lot for my blood pressure.

I'm going to look at a wedge now.

MrsMaudeLebowski · 04/07/2024 21:15

Does anyone else remember this post from last year? The OP of the thread was woken by the hotel receptionist in her room at a Travelodge. She posted footage of his behaviour after the incident. He was known to the police and hadn't been DBS checked.
https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/uk/4853593-hotel-safety
I found her account horrifying and would definitely consider a wedge or lock if I was travelling alone. A similar thing happened to a friend who was holidaying in France as a student - although in that case the hotel receptionist was hiding in her room when she returned in the evening so an extra lock wouldn't have helped. Just because these incidents don't make the news, doesn't mean they don't occur.

Hotel Safety | Mumsnet

This is my story but I know tis has happened to other people too. In May I was staying in a Hotel and at 1 am the hotel receptionist let himself into...

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/uk/4853593-hotel-safety

OldTinHat · 04/07/2024 21:07

curtaintwitcher78 · 04/07/2024 20:16

I have stayed in hotels without chains/bolts.

Can someone explain how the towel works? Would the door not just push the towel away?

Try it at home. Roll a towel up and push it tight against the bottom of the door (assuming carpeted floor btw) and then try and open your door and see what happens.

User7842462 · 04/07/2024 20:57

I don't think there's many high profile cases, except that poor woman from X factor, she was raped by a hotel porter. Lucy Spraggan. Horrific situation, and the X factor staff didn't offer much support, if any at the time.

That's horrific, however I don't think it's the same risk profile as an anonymous female traveller. She was already a celebrity at the time and the hotel staff could find out exactly who was staying in which room. It's a deplorable act but comparable to a crime committed by a stalker or acquaintance who knew their target would be alone in that hotel during a specific time. It was essentially pre-meditated and compounded by the fact the guests were all "famous" with the Xfactor behind it.

redannie18 · 04/07/2024 20:52

I travel a lot on my own and have a portable lock, i like it for peace of mind. I’ve had people come in to my room in the middle of the night on several occasions in the past, and even if its an innocent mistake its still terrifying having a stranger come in to your bedroom at night!!

Londonrach1 · 04/07/2024 20:50

We just move a chair in the room to the door. If no chair a shoe, bag ....

Scully01 · 04/07/2024 20:45

User7842462 · 04/07/2024 20:35

This isn't meant to sound goady but I'm genuinely curious what the statistics are for the number of solo female travellers assaulted in their hotel rooms by complete strangers (ie nobody they knew personally or would have known they were staying there).

It feels like everyone is terrified of hotel rooms and make them sound like the most dangerous places ever. Yes, housekeeping or other guests may stumble inside or attempt to open the wrong door by accident but these aren't criminals by default. The nature of a hotel where hundreds of humans are staying in close proxity to each other means room mixups will happen. It would be psychologically abnormal for a normal person looking for their own room to suddenly decide to commit rape just because they happened to enter the wrong door where a woman was staying.

Many stories of "someone tried to open my door" and "someone entered my room by accident" come with the subtext that they escaped sexual assault by a hair. But if it was an honest mixup of keycards, why would another hotel guest who simply wanted to go back to his room even consider assaulting another guest? That person was probably equally mortified to stumble into a stranger's room.

The design of a hotel is also completely anonymous. So if you make sure that nobody sees you enter and exit the room, and don't make unnecessary small talk with other guests, then who would know there's a single female staying there? As a male hotel guest, it would be ridiculous to contemplate assault as all your details and ID are on file. Hotels have CCTV and it would be the easiest job in the world for police to compile a list of suspects.

As a frequently solo female traveller, I actually feel safer inside hotels because of the anonymity. Literally nobody knows who's behind any of the doors. As long as you take basic precautions like making sure nobody sees you enter the room and locking the door from the inside. The genuine risks of solo travel would be people who know you personally. Work colleagues, friends of friends, dating partners, social media followers who know exactly that you're alone in the city and also where you're staying.

I don't recall a single high-profile case in the media about a traveller who was assaulted by in a hotel room by a complete stranger (also whilst alone in the room to begin with, so not including cases were someone was invited back to the hotel). Happy to stand corrected, but I think it's just something that doesn't happen very often, if at all.

I don't think there's many high profile cases, except that poor woman from X factor, she was raped by a hotel porter. Lucy Spraggan. Horrific situation, and the X factor staff didn't offer much support, if any at the time.

spsy · 04/07/2024 20:45

I don't recall a single high-profile case in the media about a traveller who was assaulted by in a hotel room by a complete stranger
There was a news story last year about an x factor star who was raped when a hotel porter used his key to enter her room. www.theguardian.com/tv-and-radio/2023/jul/15/lucy-spraggan-reveals-she-was-sexually-attacked-during-x-factor