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Dh wants to vote BNP.

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Poltershighclimb99 · 23/06/2024 13:13

So everyone has the right to vote for who they want. It’s a democracy after all. However, dh just informed me that he plans to vote BNP this year. I was stunned into silence. I will admit I do not follow politics in the way others do but from what I’ve heard and read about BNP I feel differently about dh now. I’m looking at him differently and feel a bit ashamed of his decision.
what does everyone else think about BNP? Am I missing something?

I guess my AIBU would be
IABU as BNP are a decent political party and it’s up to him.
or IANBU they are homophobic racists who don’t deserve to be a legal party.

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Poltershighclimb99 · 23/06/2024 13:55

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If reform are better believe me I’d be glad to know about it. I’m currently rethinking everything I thought I knew about my partner.

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Poltershighclimb99 · 23/06/2024 13:54

ginasevern · 23/06/2024 13:41

Well someone's got to him and given that his brother is a conspiracy theorist etc, I don't think the answer is far from home. Has your DH shown any other unusual behaviour lately?

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The only thing that has happened lately. This is not a drip feed I can’t see how it is connected but his mum has just been diagnosed with cancer and started treatment this week. That’s the only different thing going on in our lives. We’re obviously really worried about her but how that would manifest into changing political stance I have no idea. She’s been treated amazingly by the NHS. Would something like this change your mind on politics? I can’t see how? Unless I’m being naive?

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MateyMusings · 23/06/2024 13:52

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PeonySeasons · 23/06/2024 13:50

Pure clickbait and froth - no BNP member is standing under that name as far as I can identity.

IamaRevenant · 23/06/2024 13:46

I left my ex when I'd found he voted UKIP. Twat was Polish. Thick and racist and basically voting against himself.

I wouldn't be with someone now who had such conflicting views to me no.

YaWeeFurryBastard · 23/06/2024 13:43

Poltershighclimb99 · 23/06/2024 13:40

I know you’re trying to do something there but I genuinely have no idea. I didn’t know anything about reform. I don’t care enough about politics to make a thread in mumsnet trying to persuade people.

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Well it’s just a load of bollocks isn’t it. Your “well up on politics” husband didn’t tell you he was voting BNP if he was actually voting Reform. Anyone with even a basic knowledge of politics wouldn’t conflate the two.

ginasevern · 23/06/2024 13:41

Poltershighclimb99 · 23/06/2024 13:38

He didn’t remember the exact date, he knew it was coming up and beginning of July. When I say he’s into politics I mean he finds it interesting, reads about it, listens to podcasts etc. it’s not his main interest or anything. Up until like 2 weeks ago he was telling me he is worried about his brother and his strange ideas on things, how he’s easily swayed, what can change in 2 weeks to suddenly think his brother could be right? This is crazy to me. We always have had the same morals and opinions. Together over 20 years.this has come out of nowhere! Literally nowhere!

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Well someone's got to him and given that his brother is a conspiracy theorist etc, I don't think the answer is far from home. Has your DH shown any other unusual behaviour lately?

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Poltershighclimb99 · 23/06/2024 13:40

YaWeeFurryBastard · 23/06/2024 13:38

Ah and there we have it, the purpose of the thread is to insinuate that BNP and Reform are basically the same party 🙄. They’re not. Nice try OP.

P.S. I would never vote reform.

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I know you’re trying to do something there but I genuinely have no idea. I didn’t know anything about reform. I don’t care enough about politics to make a thread in mumsnet trying to persuade people.

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IncompleteSenten · 23/06/2024 13:40

He has the absolute right to vote however he chooses.
He does not have the right to be liked by you afterwards though.

There are some things that tell you in an instant about the core of a person and sadly this is one of them.

It is impossible to be a BNP supporter and a decent human being imvho

OVienna · 23/06/2024 13:38

ginasevern · 23/06/2024 13:35

"He’s quite into politics in general, I said ‘we have election coming up, he asked when"

So he's quite into politics but doesn't know when the general election is? The one that's been in the papers for months. The one where everyone is talking about annihilating the Tories - that one.

He's hood winking you into thinking he has superior knowledge when in fact he's a fuck wit. It also sounds like his brother has sucked him into conspiracy theories and rabbit holes. Don't dismiss his influence. It all sounds a bit dangerous and I would re-evaluate my relationship if I was you.

This.

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Poltershighclimb99 · 23/06/2024 13:38

ginasevern · 23/06/2024 13:35

"He’s quite into politics in general, I said ‘we have election coming up, he asked when"

So he's quite into politics but doesn't know when the general election is? The one that's been in the papers for months. The one where everyone is talking about annihilating the Tories - that one.

He's hood winking you into thinking he has superior knowledge when in fact he's a fuck wit. It also sounds like his brother has sucked him into conspiracy theories and rabbit holes. Don't dismiss his influence. It all sounds a bit dangerous and I would re-evaluate my relationship if I was you.

He didn’t remember the exact date, he knew it was coming up and beginning of July. When I say he’s into politics I mean he finds it interesting, reads about it, listens to podcasts etc. it’s not his main interest or anything. Up until like 2 weeks ago he was telling me he is worried about his brother and his strange ideas on things, how he’s easily swayed, what can change in 2 weeks to suddenly think his brother could be right? This is crazy to me. We always have had the same morals and opinions. Together over 20 years.this has come out of nowhere! Literally nowhere!

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YaWeeFurryBastard · 23/06/2024 13:38

Poltershighclimb99 · 23/06/2024 13:30

I think it may be reform that he was talking about. Are they basically the same. A quick google didn’t make me feel better!

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Ah and there we have it, the purpose of the thread is to insinuate that BNP and Reform are basically the same party 🙄. They’re not. Nice try OP.

P.S. I would never vote reform.

EasternStandard · 23/06/2024 13:36

I think you’ve got the party wrong op not sure they’re still around

BakedOrDeepFried · 23/06/2024 13:36

Reform is not the same as BNP. I'm not voting for them because Farage is a prick but I wouldn't be horrified/sickened if someone I knew was, in fact a few of my friends are.

BodyKeepingScore · 23/06/2024 13:36

This would also be enough for me to end a relationship with someone. I could not be in an intimate relationship with someone whose moral compass was so diverged from my own.

Topseyt123 · 23/06/2024 13:35

I didn't know those shits even existed as a political party anymore.

I wouldn't be at all impressed with DH if he voted for them and it might be the end of the road. Thankfully mine wants to vote either for a local independent (who doesn't seem extreme) or for LibDem. Maybe Green.

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ginasevern · 23/06/2024 13:35

"He’s quite into politics in general, I said ‘we have election coming up, he asked when"

So he's quite into politics but doesn't know when the general election is? The one that's been in the papers for months. The one where everyone is talking about annihilating the Tories - that one.

He's hood winking you into thinking he has superior knowledge when in fact he's a fuck wit. It also sounds like his brother has sucked him into conspiracy theories and rabbit holes. Don't dismiss his influence. It all sounds a bit dangerous and I would re-evaluate my relationship if I was you.

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Poltershighclimb99 · 23/06/2024 13:34

cupcaske123 · 23/06/2024 13:32

There are certainly far right sympathisers in Reform. It's not the same as the BNP though. Depends who the local candidate is and their views.

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I just feel like any association with BNP, their people/ideologies etc tells me it doesn’t matter who the local candidates are they probably all have the same ideas?

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cupcaske123 · 23/06/2024 13:34

Poltershighclimb99 · 23/06/2024 13:32

So still pretty horrendous right?

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Depends. Is he always gnashing his teeth towards Dover? Does he go on about immigrants a lot?

Notreat · 23/06/2024 13:34

Poltershighclimb99 · 23/06/2024 13:32

So still pretty horrendous right?

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Yes.

Tulula · 23/06/2024 13:34

Poltershighclimb99 · 23/06/2024 13:32

So still pretty horrendous right?

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Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 23/06/2024 13:34

Reform is Farage's outfit. Farage likes to think he come across as someone who'd be a bit of a laugh down at the pub, but he's a dangerous extremist and racist, and he's only ever out for himself. I saw this yesterday. It sets out his record in a few minutes.

Tulula · 23/06/2024 13:34

Poltershighclimb99 · 23/06/2024 13:32

So still pretty horrendous right?

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It does sound like you're trying to whip people up... Why are you asking strangers when we can all access the same Google

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Poltershighclimb99 · 23/06/2024 13:32

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So still pretty horrendous right?

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