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Dh wants to vote BNP.

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Poltershighclimb99 · 23/06/2024 13:13

So everyone has the right to vote for who they want. It’s a democracy after all. However, dh just informed me that he plans to vote BNP this year. I was stunned into silence. I will admit I do not follow politics in the way others do but from what I’ve heard and read about BNP I feel differently about dh now. I’m looking at him differently and feel a bit ashamed of his decision.
what does everyone else think about BNP? Am I missing something?

I guess my AIBU would be
IABU as BNP are a decent political party and it’s up to him.
or IANBU they are homophobic racists who don’t deserve to be a legal party.

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Nevercloserfortherestofourlives · 23/06/2024 16:03

Anyone looking for a laugh on a boring Sunday afternoon should watch Nick Griffin (BNP leader) being ripped to shreads by Bonnie Greer on Question Time 2009. Classic. 😁

Hoppinggreen · 23/06/2024 16:00

So not only does he want to vote for a party that is openly racist but he wants to vote for a party that has no candidates?
I could not be with a man who is not only racist but stupid

Nevercloserfortherestofourlives · 23/06/2024 15:56

Sorry, just realised that this is about the BNP who have thankfully receded into oblivion. My comments about Reform stand.

whyhavetheygotsomany · 23/06/2024 15:51

You can't vote for them they arnt standing so good luck to him

Nevercloserfortherestofourlives · 23/06/2024 15:49

JT69 · 23/06/2024 14:58

You might want to look at Led by Donkeys and their peice on Farage. Reform have few policies and want to dismantle the NHS. Not even a political party , a company which the gullible pay into while Nige laughs all the way to the bank…. One of my parents has announced they are voting reform - it’s hard to get my head round. Just BNP in suits..

If anyone actually looked at their ‘manifesto’ (which is largely non-existent) they would see that the section on ‘Funding of Reform UK Plans’ resembles some sort of sixth form attempt at an economics essay. And a very bad one.
All the other rhetoric is unsubstantiated hot-air.

To quote one example of unsubstantiated hot-air, I give you the pledge by ‘Nige’
’Reform UK will ensure that our elderly people can live with dignity through long-term reforms funded by a growing economy’
How will they actually do that ? CF above ‘Funding of Reform UK Plans ‘
Apart from the shit grammar.

I may be a pedant but I really don’t have any faith in a politician , lecturing me on what should be taught in schools, when he has so little grasp on English grammar. Completely unfamiliar to the comma, which let’s agree, is pretty basic.
Taken from Nige’s manefesto;

’Any teaching about a period or example of British or European imperialism or slavery must be paired with the teaching of a non-European occurance of the same to ensure balance’
Apart from the poor grammar, what is meant by an ‘occurance of the same’ ?
Very, very bad English language and communication via the written word. Maybe Nige should have to subscribe to some basic courses in literacy in order for him to have citizenship.

Cattery · 23/06/2024 15:41

Poltershighclimb99 · 23/06/2024 13:28

It must be reform then, is that the same thing? Someone else mentioned. I’ll Google now. I have no clue.

I guessed you meant Reform. A party of neo-nazi, shit-stirring haters who want us to all to live in 1958.

askmenow · 23/06/2024 15:37

Given he professed to not knowing there was an election or who's standing, he's likely saying it to wind you up.
With regard to his comment about "a lot of people coming here and we can't afford it"
Well he's right about that... statistics prove unregulated immigration is making people poorer!

Per capita GDP is dropping so yes we are poorer individually but the gross GDP is up because there are more people in the country.

Those at the top profess this isn't true and scaremongering but they want the cheap labour force and wages kept down.
This is why we have such a disparity in aspiration. Why bother to even try when you can survive on top up benefits and untaxed side hustles.

BeachParty · 23/06/2024 15:24

User364837 · 23/06/2024 14:18

Im annoyed I’ve lost 5 minutes of my life reading this thread which is clearly a load of rubbish 😆
so… he supposedly didn’t tell you he was voting bnp. Or reform. 🙄

This 😁
As in I mean he hasn't even said who' he's voting for, "up on politics" but didn't know when the General Election is (come on, everyone who's even slightly interested in politics knows when that is as we either want the fuckers out me or be cheerleading Nige and the rest of them by wittering on about boats)
Benefit of doubt It sounds like he's said he's voting for someone far right and OP has got themselves confused even more by googling all sorts Confused

CaptainOliviaBenson · 23/06/2024 15:21

Merryoldgoat · 23/06/2024 13:14

This would be enough for me to end my relationship.

Yes, me too!

DojaPhat · 23/06/2024 15:20

It's sad that probably the least racist country in the world is crippling itself by never being able to talk about issues that seriously affect people for fear of racism.

Have you ever read anything so far fetched your only response is to blink because where would you even start!?!

KimberleyClark · 23/06/2024 15:06

Deal breaker for me.

Tulula · 23/06/2024 15:05

Poltershighclimb99 · 23/06/2024 14:36

You are welcome not to read or comment on any post. But this is genuine. I have stated many times I am naive about politics. I assumed BNP I have since been corrected. If there’s even a tiny chance a party may be racist. Yeah I’ll be ashamed. Racism is disgusting.

So is ignorance and judgement without trying to understand any facts whatsoever.... Very weird thread

Tulula · 23/06/2024 15:04

Poltershighclimb99 · 23/06/2024 14:32

ill admit I didn’t ask much I was blindsided to be honest. Maybe I didn’t want to know. I just said I am ashamed of him and that I’d be mortified if he told anyone. He’s not generally someone easily swayed and he’d look into all parts of a party usually. Im very confused.

So you said you were ashamed of someone you love.... Without knowing why or anything about what party or what they actually do? And not listening or asking any questions? Maybe reevaluate your relationship if that's where you're at

Needmorelego · 23/06/2024 15:00

@Poltershighclimb99 who are you going to vote for?
(you don't actually have to answer as voting is secret)
If you plan on voting and are as completely clueless about politics if you say you are - then please do some proper research.
It's people like you that don't really think enough about what and who they are voting for that ruin it for everyone (see the massive Brexit cock up as an example).
Either go and read up about who is actually standing in your area.
What party they are representing.
Then read about that party and what they stand for and their manifesto.
Or don't vote.

JT69 · 23/06/2024 14:58

You might want to look at Led by Donkeys and their peice on Farage. Reform have few policies and want to dismantle the NHS. Not even a political party , a company which the gullible pay into while Nige laughs all the way to the bank…. One of my parents has announced they are voting reform - it’s hard to get my head round. Just BNP in suits..

Nevercloserfortherestofourlives · 23/06/2024 14:54

Oh dear

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Nevercloserfortherestofourlives · 23/06/2024 14:52

ginasevern · 23/06/2024 13:41

Well someone's got to him and given that his brother is a conspiracy theorist etc, I don't think the answer is far from home. Has your DH shown any other unusual behaviour lately?

This

Ethylred · 23/06/2024 14:52

marigoldandrose · 23/06/2024 13:21

I read a while ago that the electoral commission had banned them so I don't know how op's partner could vote for them?

The electoral commission had banned them? What drugs are you on? That is not their function. https://www.electoralcommission.org.uk/

ShrinkingEveryDay · 23/06/2024 14:49

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For one minute I thought you were being serious 😳😂

pikkumyy77 · 23/06/2024 14:49

Poltershighclimb99 · 23/06/2024 14:40

Thank you. I feel like I don’t actually want to know in case it’s worse than I already thought! I looked on their website, like you said all looks legit and professional (don’t agree with what they say though)

Ignore mateymusings. They don’t seem to understand party politics in a parliamentary democracy if they think Reform supporting a slightly left party in districts where Reform is uncompetitive is anything other than a maneuver to split a potential Labour vote.

You will not be able to educate your dh—his brother has fallen down the conspiracy hole and there are well known links between these communities and right wing politicians and political groups its where converts are made and votes are harvested. Your dh is probably pretty far along on his pathway to full on convert.

If you have traditionally been apolitical just start thinking about what you would like to see your political leaders do to fix the problems you care about. Then get out snd counnterbalance your dh by working hard to elect people who you suppirt.

siameselife · 23/06/2024 14:48

I don't think he knows what he is talking about OP.
There aren't any BNP candidates to vote for.

If he means reform then yes, they seem to appeal to quite a few people currently.

There is usually some party for the xenophobic, my life would be better if it wasn't for x&y coming over here groups.

The country did vote for Brexit and Reform is Farage's next thing. Blaming others is a simple option in life and often popular.

Nevercloserfortherestofourlives · 23/06/2024 14:48

MidnightPatrol · 23/06/2024 13:22

He’s going to struggle, as I don’t think they’re fielding any candidates…?

😂😂😂

Poltershighclimb99 · 23/06/2024 14:45

dapsnotplimsolls · 23/06/2024 14:40

He probably needs to spend a bit less time with his brother.

He barely sees him, it’s very confusing!

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