DD6’s party, Jemima’s mother and the clownfairy part 2

In my part of the UK we dropped and ran from age 5.

I don't think it's a case of having high anxiety levels at all, and it's definitely not about being neurotic as you so kindly put it.

So you can't answer me, is that because you secretly agree that it's not safe to leave all those kids in a house with one person looking after them?

Or is it because you're irresponsible too? .... No need to answer, as you'll probably only come up with another daft remark I imagine.

OMG I am married to a kiwi too and your description of kiwi women is SPOT ON (kiwi husband agrees).

Hope the party goes well OP.

VanGoSunflowers · Today 09:50
"Some posters really need to read the room and lighten the fuck up"

This. I love the op's sense of humour !

At Least We’ve Got Crowded House

hard stare

I think this thread (or threads) have highlighted one thing really: how worryingly high anxiety levels are amongst many parents in the UK now. If at all this should be a thing to reflect on but I doubt this ever happens on MN which is a haven for people to reinforce each others neuroticisms.

You clearly are, even if your purpose is to provide the clownery.

I’m interested in the threads, and as such can’t exactly avoid your posts. Would that I could.

And no, I don’t care to any more than OP does.

Yes, what are all you people doing at a 6yo's birthday party. Let them be 6! They don't need mum looking over them. I find it very odd. ( obvious mumsnet exclusion for ND and kids allergic to make-up and ponies 🙄)

When hosting a birthday party for a load of 6 year olds is not a great "making friends" moment. Surely a playdate at a park for 2 kids would be more suited to that?

Thanks for the interest, but I'm not trying to 'achieve' anything. I'm entitled to join in on a public forum, not that I need to explain myself to you.

Maybe you could answer, seeing as you're obviously interested in my posts, would YOU think it's acceptable to look after 15 5/6 year olds, completely alone, at a party for 3 hours?

Is this a 'batshit' question to you?

I was going to post exactly the same. Glad it wasn't just me!

Think we might outnumber you there. I think a friendly handshake should solve it all ( though it is Aussie and we did create the pavlova), Runs away
Let's not mention Phar Lap .

How many more ways will people find to insult the OP? Honestly, it's so odd. The entire situation was resolved swiftly and smoothly, Jemima's mother seems fine with leaving her DD at the party. Why the need to continue attacking the OP?

I have a Very Important Question that has not been addressed in this or the previous thread.

What on earth does a party fairy do? Obviously a clown is going to do clown type things but other than frolicking around the place, waving her wand and smiling, how will the fairy entertain?

Absolutely. 2 of us lead a Rainbows group of nearly 30 4-6 year olds.
Comments that OP cannot manage 10 of them on her own are a little patronising. She wouldn't have offered if she didn't think she could do it.

When I was a child no one stayed even at 5. All my daughters friends parents stayed at 5, which was not any issue for me, but a change.

It's good for children to have a bit of independence, where it's safe and appropriate for them to do so.
From 7, I was under strict instructions from my oldest to 'drop and go', and most were the same.

We could get our lifeguards to fight on our behalf?

What are you trying to achieve here, exactly? Op isn’t going to start taking you seriously any more than she’s going to change her plans because you think she should. All you’re managing to do is, graciously I suppose, contribute the same batshittery that was witnessed on the last thread.

Oh dear! "Yeah Nah" is totally Aussie. We may have to go to war. Such a shame as we are basically very friendly cousins . Honestly didn't know you Kiwi's said it. It is a very Australian thing. This is going to be like the pavolva all over again. This thread has thrown up many cultural quirks! 😁

I'm not going on about Jemima's mum here though am I.

It doesn't matter that it's not a requirement, it's a matter of having a degree of common sense not to leave all those kids with just one adult.

@marmarmalade

“ I agree with you in every way and did love the pegging and internet jokes but "Yeah nah" is Australian. No copying please. 😉”

realise this wasn’t directed at me but I am HORRIFIED at this blatant (and dare I say VERY AUSTRALIAN) theft of OUR LINGO

I don't think a 6 year old's birthday party is the best environment to make friends with the host...

The thing is, however, this is complete conjecture. You can't summon up reasons that might be bothering Jemima's mother with no evidence that this is what's bothering her (well, you can, but they have no basis). If this was bothering Jemima's mother then she would have/can say this to the OP – but she hasn't.

Child to adult ratios are not a requirement anywhere but a professional childcare setting, so insisting that the OP take heed of this is unreasonable to expect. And that is added to the fact that you have no evidence it bother's Jemima's mum.

We can assume YOU are bothered by it, but that's completely irrelevant to anything.

This whole thread was just a massive culture clash. You have to remember that the UK is very densely populated particularly in the SE, and the weather is crap.Very few British homes are big enough to host 15 kids in winter, and you can't guarantee to even be able to go outside in summer. (It was 13 degrees on Saturday here).
Therefore most people hire a hall for parties, and that means that it almost becomes a social for the parents too. Or at least that was the case when my DC were young. Put in that context, the replies probably make a bit more sense.

Didn't see the end of the last thread, but will catch up to enjoy the madness.

Just wanted to say, despite being in the UK, and despite the fact I didn't leave DD at parties at 6 unless we knew the families incredibly well (this is in the past, my DD is adult now), I think you're fabulous @Endoftheroad12345
I totally get you on this.

Good luck with your party, and go you!

LOVE the suggestion above from @CustardCream0472 that the new fairy is Jemima's mum. Hilarious!!!!