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DD6’s party, Jemima’s mother and the clownfairy part 2

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Endoftheroad12345 · 18/06/2024 03:44

Hi all

After my last post here https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5097890-to-tell-a-mum-of-a-guest-that-she-cant-stay-at-dd6s-birthday-party?page=1

I thought some of you might be interested in an update.

The clown/fairy I had booked ghosted me when I tried to confirm!!!! so for a moment there I was panicking about having no entertainer and felt that the mumsnet curse of hoping that DD had a shitty party would come true!!!!! luckily though, I have found and booked a back up fairy. So that mitigates the clown phobia risk

9 guests have RSVPed if a total of 12 invites (I had guessed 15), 3 TBC. Of the 12, I know 6 mothers (most of them just to say hi to at school). 3 who have RSVPed I couldn’t pick out of a line up. So far no other parents have asked to stay. Or indeed asked for any other details (or an “plan”)about the party.

Forecast is for pissing rain on Sunday.

The last few pages of the thread took a weird turn while I was asleep and started talking about swimming parties and lifeguards. We do actually have a pool … (I know I sound like I’m trolling at this point.) There will not be a lifeguard on duty, but as it’s about 12 degrees here so I don’t think anyone will be getting in the unheated pool.

(Am WFH today because DS has a high fever and power-chucked in the hallway last night while I was making cupcakes at 10pm for the sodding school fundraiser. As DS coughed in my face while he spreadeagled across my bed, I did think wistfully of one poster on the last thread who thought I was probably a cashed up career woman who barely saw her kids.)

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I’m fully prepared to be told I’m BU but I’m not changing my mind just upfront 😂 (I know that can be annoying when responding to AIBU posts). DD6’...

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5097890-to-tell-a-mum-of-a-guest-that-she-cant-stay-at-dd6s-birthday-party?page=1

OP posts:
Endoftheroad12345 · 18/06/2024 05:40

rubyroola · 18/06/2024 05:30

Gone back for more - someone accusing op of hiding something about her home life

OP being accused of essentially hating autistic children

Jesus Christ

Lots of ableism accusations being thrown around despite no disclosure of any additional needs

Insensitivity to horse allergies and clown phobes

I did not inform parents whether there would be pony rides in my 600m2 property

Should have advised parents whether kids needed to bring their togs despite it being mid winter and 10 degrees which and the pool at that point was hypothetical, discussion then segued into an argument about the need for a lifeguard on duty at a pool in a private home

My disregard for health and safety inspectors was also noted

OP posts:
rubyroola · 18/06/2024 05:30

Gone back for more - someone accusing op of hiding something about her home life

OP being accused of essentially hating autistic children

Jesus Christ

Endoftheroad12345 · 18/06/2024 05:12

rubyroola · 18/06/2024 05:08

Ho-lee-sheet just went down a 30 minute rabbit hole on that other thread. That could be the most bonkers I’ve ever seen AIBU? Lol’d at the accusation that you are a selfish career woman OP (fellow kiwi lawyer here)

Other highlight included ”no way would I drop my little darling off at a complete STRANGER’s house ALONE”

oh mate

I was really really tempted to write in the update “I’m WFH today (I’m a lawyer)” but thought that would be actually insufferable

OP posts:
rubyroola · 18/06/2024 05:08

Ho-lee-sheet just went down a 30 minute rabbit hole on that other thread. That could be the most bonkers I’ve ever seen AIBU? Lol’d at the accusation that you are a selfish career woman OP (fellow kiwi lawyer here)

Other highlight included ”no way would I drop my little darling off at a complete STRANGER’s house ALONE”

oh mate

GreenCereal · 18/06/2024 04:49

I missed the last thread, but the internet joke was perfect. I snorted at my desk.

StellaLaBella · 18/06/2024 04:34

The other thread was BANANAS OP. Glad you found a back up fairy and good luck on Sunday, update is 'non-negotiable' (how do ya like that lil bit of fancy lawyer speak I threw in there? 🤣)

Endoftheroad12345 · 18/06/2024 04:10

The thought of 20 parents I don’t know squishing into my house on Sunday with a forecast of torrential rain makes me feel faint 😂

OP posts:
Endoftheroad12345 · 18/06/2024 04:09

I’m in NZ @Codlingmoths

The last thread seemed to throw up quite stark cultural differences on this…DD is turning 6 and parties have been drop & run for her and all other kids her age for the last year. Even the year before that, probably 80% drop & run?

OP posts:
Codlingmoths · 18/06/2024 04:00

I have only read the op on the other thread, but is the mum local? Because where I am it would be horrifying to suggest parents don’t stay at a 6yo birthday party, it’d be the talk of the school and I’m not even joking. 20 parents squished into a house for one my dcs friends 6th bday party a few days ago. Parents are only just starting ti drop and run with the 9th bdays my older child is having.