DD6’s party, Jemima’s mother and the clownfairy part 2

I remember your earlier posts @Endoftheroad12345
I am so pleased to read you and your children are doing well.
I hope that prick of Ex of yours dies screaming.
After what you have dealt with, a fairy party is a ride in the park.
Best of luck with it.

From when the kids were going to drop off parties about 5, we barely slowed the car down.

While I think your reaction to Jemima’s mum was a bit strong (which was my only comment – everything else was bizarre), I’m glad someone is standing up to the collective Mumsnet arseholes. It’s happening more and more lately and I hope this forum starts to change.

I was talking to my DH about this yesterday and we both thought the same.

Did it occur to you OP that maybe this woman just wanted a chance to get to know you and make friends?

I didn’t read the entire of the last thread - but I think your attitude also didn’t help, although I assume you were trolling somewhat. You said something about not caring if she had any extra needs and that they weren’t your problem, which isn’t reassuring for other parents, whether their kids need some extra support or not.

'Honestly a gaggle of cute 5&6 year old girls in my home is a joy'

OP I love your attitude.. and am in awe!

I am actually the nanny for a couple of High Powered Parents (not Lawyers tho!) who like you work hard but prioritize their 4 children.

I'm also a mum of 3 and thoroughly enjoyed every one of my children's parties.. and like you usually completely organized and supervised by me alone.

And I've loved how you've answered some of the (bizarre) posts..

I will be following for more laughs and truly hope your DDs party goes with a swing.

I remember the pain of having to ‘host’ the parents even now ( here generally drop and run starts at 7ish) so I don’t blame you op. It used to be harder than the party itself!

ds is 30 this year but no way did parents want to stay at his 6th birthday party
and he was one of the eldest in the class.
have times really changed that much?

Whereas when dd was small none of the parents of her friends would have dreamt of staying at a house party by the time the children was 6. It would have been deemed very odd.
By 6 most people were doing drop and run at all parties, let alone Ines in someone's home.

My experience of teaching children 4-7 at the moment is that by year 1m and certainly year 2, most parties are drop and go unless at a big venue.

This is in South Yorkshire, uk.

Your parties sound much more interesting than our English tea parties op! Were you at least not offered a glass of wine to get you through another torturous two hours? Or at least a pimms!

😂😂 so true!

I wish there were more people around like you OP and less of the wet wipes on the other thread 😂 Can’t handle 15 6 year olds in your own home?! WTF do they think teachers do everyday? You sound intelligent, funny and capable. If a little easy to pounce on an innocuous text but who hasn’t been there before?! Have a great party, please do report back on how many children left your house alive.

Shamelessly place marking

Thanks for the update. I'm bizarrely invested in this now. Hope the party goes well and you and your daughter don't catch your son's bug 😬

I didn’t comment on the other thread, but some of the posts were so bizarre. It’s perfectly fine not to want to host parents at a 6-year-old’s birthday party. And yet the accusations against you @Endoftheroad12345were quite OTT, such as saying you were “full of hate and rage.” 😮😅Truly MN at its most extreme.

I hope your DD has a lovely party and that all the guests, including Jemima, have a wonderful time. 🥳

I hadn’t seen the other thread and just had a browse. I’m not surprised though. I have long noted the neurotic obsession with assuming every child has SEN or anxiety issues on MN. Sure, some do but it almost seems compulsive to throw this in despite any evidence.
I hope that the party will go well OP. It’s nice to see that there are places where children can still be children and are not automatically assumed to be suffering from some condition by default.

I just think it’s such a benign request though!! Personally I’m all about the drop and run but my DD was such a barnacle when she was 6 that no way would she have been left without tears. I feel so sorry for Jemima’s mum!!

This thread has made me chuckle @Endoftheroad12345 there used to be a class mum who would always try and either get another mum to supervise her child at parties or take them so she didn’t have to but she never reciprocated. Ever. And this was right from when they were 3. I decided to have a roller disco for my DD’s birthday (I think they were 5 or 6) which was a dreadful idea on so many levels (Whole other thread Right there) but this mum when arriving and upon seeing her kid couldn’t be dropped because she couldn’t skate (none of them could, they were 5/6 no idea why I thought they could 😂) and all the other parents were staying to help their kids came up to me and accused me of ‘deliberately organising a party that required her to stay’ 😆

Some parents are just bonkers.

I’m married to a kiwi. The cultural differences are vast!!! Personally I find kiwi women a fascinating mix of laid back yet chippy as fuck. You never know what’s going to grind their gears unexpectedly!
it’s all yeah nah until it ISN’T 🤣

Poor old Jemima’s mum got right up your goat, didn’t she?!