DD6’s party, Jemima’s mother and the clownfairy part 2

Make sure jemima has a good day, op!

Genuine question, do you cater for the parents? The last thread I started on parents and siblings at parties descended into chaos 😂

also the snide comment someone made about on mumsnet people presuming everyone has SEN - Not that case - people tend to wonder if a child who has separation anxiety for a party at 6 might have SEn - as plenty of kids do have sen! and that would be an indicator.

my 9 year old is autistic - and would need me at a strangers house - but you could easily not know that unless I told you. It's just kind to think there might be other issues at play - and totally mean to exclude the kid without saying 'if she is particularly anxious etc do stay but I think I can manage the kids without adults'

You did say that, yes. Although that was only after people were disagreeing with you.

Also, anyone with an ounce of common sense wouldn't even contemplate, in the first place, supervising a party alone for all those kids without enlisting an extra pair of hands.
So, instead of taking the piss out of those of us who think you're irresponsible ( most did on the last thread, so it'll be interesting to see how many do here too if they've also read your previous posts), take note of posters who've also commented on your unpleasant attitude and weird responses for a start.

What's more, you're not really in a position to imply others are the 'clown'

I agree with this. My son has an incredibly active social life - between his pals at school, football and the neighbours, someone always seems to have a birthday - I don't attend. And he wouldn't want me to (would probably cramp his style).

I thought your approach was just a bit mean spirited - even if you were overall absolutely within your rights to prefer no parents staying - totally understand that.

The way you messaged straight back - saying you can't stay but she can just not come! I think that was mean - sorry, maybe you don't agree but - we are all part of a community and at 6 it's within the bounds of normal for SOME children to be clingy and want mum in a new environment.

I would have said - I'd prefer to just have the kids but if she really needs you then of course. no big deal.

The last thread was hilarious. You really riled people op. I think they lost the moral high ground when they started wishing bad party vibes on your 6 year old however.

The last thread did go to a pretty mad place. I do think that cultural differences around when you start dropping-off played a big part, though. DS is about to turn 6 and I expect that every child coming to his party will have a parent staying with them, or someone else's parent who has agreed to take them - I've never yet been to a drop and run party. I think it might be easier for some posters to see where OP was coming from if they imagine that the children were 9, and easier for the OP to understand some of the reactions if she imagined the children were 3.

Happy to see this Seinfeld-esque non-update, OP. I was having a really bad day when I read your other thread and your responses had me howling with laughter. Particularly liked 'I'm not in your jurisdiction, Daisy, you'll never catch me.' 😂

I'm weirdly invested in this saga now. Is it wrong to hope that the ghosting clown-fairy shows up unexpectedly and there's an entertainers-at-dawn scenario?

I read the entirety of your last post and OP, your responses? I WAS LIVING FOR THEM! You should quit your job as a lawyer and write comedic stories for a living.

Fucking awesome.

Some of the replies on the other thread were batshit crazy. Many years ago on here I started a thread under an old username asking the etiquette on parents assuming they could bring siblings to a party. I learned the hard way the first party I held, some parents and siblings just appeared, expected party bags and food for siblings and the parents were helping themselves to the party food! The parties after that I said were drop and run, I was accused of all sorts on that thread 😂. Some people said they took the full family to children’s parties, utter madness!

Blimey. I once hosted an ‘all the girls in the class’ sleepover. Another Terrible idea but no one died and no parent was concerned that I was aware of. They were 8.

😂😂

One notably started force feeding the party children bloody carrots 🥕 my Dd was mortified! She is a GP and proceeded to lecture them about their nutrition. It killled the vibe somewhat and I had to give her the job of sorting out the bins and recycling to stop her harrassment!

Op is definitely on to something. I have had drunk mothers, ones crying about divorce, screaming newborns, siblings en masse arriving, dogs and grandparents turning up for the whole party! I think it’s a wise move to stick to the kids.

I was on the last thread, and it was obvious that the OP couldn't answer simple questions. I asked her if she'd mentioned in her invites that it'd only be her alone supervising 15 young children, and instead of answering, she just mocked what id written and went off on a bizarre 'you're not my boss, you're not a health and safety inspector' tangent.

The reason I asked is because I think it's irresponsible to expect to be able to look after all those kids for 3 hours completely alone.
I mean, what would she do if there's an emergency? .... How can she possibly, safely, ensure that the kids will be ok? She can't. After all, no one can forsee what could potentially happen .

I'm not against drop off parties at all, BUT, I think some posters who agree with the OP about the fact it's fine for kids to be dropped off, those posters likely don't realise that there'll be NO other adults at all in the house lending a helping hand, just in case.

All that is needed really is one other person to help out the OP with the kids, and no one who has disagreed with the OP has said that every single parent should stay.

The OP has said that she could call for help if necessary, but that's ridiculous. There needs to be someone else present to deal with any potential issues immediately.

😂

And those mums judging you for your choice of tea, mugs, your home decor, what food you are serving the precious moppets, how clean your house is, etc etc. and absolutely no chance of you enjoying your child’s face during her party. Or taking any bloody photos.

Am with you on this.

@Endoftheroad12345 I’m just here to find out what fairy bread is tho 😂

I definitely want a party update op! 🎉

minor correction, we’re all ‘yeah’ until we’re ’yeah NAH’

Op the previous thread was BONKERS. I hope it gave you a laugh at least 😂 enjoy the party!

A second thread?! 😆

The other thread was bonkers. MN at its neurotic best.

I'm in the UK and we started dropping our kids off at 6. Who the hell wants to spend their precious weekends attending children's parties?

Hope the party goes well OP!